To come stay at her house but I don't want to because her house is really nasty! Ughhh It makes me want to puke But I don't wanna be mean about it!! What can I do? Help me Please!!!!! Answer my question please!
2007-10-11 07:50:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think you have to be ugly or rude but you do need to be honest. Let her know that you would like to come see her but the house is just to dirty. Suggest meeting her in a public place such as a fast food restaurant.
Also if she is a drug addict, it may also not be safe for you to be with her for any long periods or maybe not at all unsupervised.
2007-10-11 08:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 01:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and be honest. This might be the thing she needs to set her on the right track.
Tell her that you can't stay with her anymore unless she cleans up her act and her house and proves to you that she is not abusing drugs or associating with old druggie friends anymore. Don't stay there if she hasn't been clean for a few months and just have visits with her outside her home(shopping or eating). If you lay down the law she may respond to this. She needs a wake up call! and don't back down..
2007-10-11 07:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs a bit of a wake up call. So the next time she asks, tell her. You will be best off by just being honest with her. There is no reason that you should stay with your mother if her house looks the way it does and she does drugs. Perhaps she'll get the hint, but don't count on it.
2007-10-11 08:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by seaelven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your mom know why you don't wanna stay there, and just for the record I don't blame you for not wanting to stay there. Talk to your dad, I have to tell you this but you might want to consider calling the cops about her, they can help her to go to rehab and get the help she really needs. you don't have ot be mean about it, it shows that you care. Some people need tough love, even when it's the daughter giving the mother the tough love. You need to realize she doesn't realize what she's doing not only to you but to herself. things can only get worst for her if you do nothing.
Good Luck Friend.
2007-10-11 11:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for your mom is to be TOTALLY HONEST. Tell her your reasons for not wanting to stay--the drugs, and the way she keeps her house. They may be an incentive for your mom to clean up her act. Don't consider it being mean; you are just being honest. And honesty is what your mom needs right now. So be honest, and tell her the real reasons, God Bless you, Good luck, and keep me posted.
2007-10-11 07:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it appears to me that your mother had a chance with you... you must have told her when you were living with her that you did not care for that kind of a life style... did she clean up her act then... did she clean up the house then.... so now that you have moved out to be with your dad in a better enviroment -- she wants you back ... when she had you ... she did not care ... now that someone else has you .. she wants you ... if you go back to living with her do you think things will change ... I think not ...I know you will make the right decision .. God bless you
2007-10-11 09:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by sswan007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're mom is doing drugs, then she's killing herself. Who cares if you hurt her feelings about this. She needs to know how selfish and mean she is being. She needs to know drugs is making her be a bad mom.
Tell her she needs to clean up before you even think about visiting muc less moving back home. Being clean for one day isn't enough, it has to be a lot more time than that.
2007-10-11 09:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your mother what you see wrong in the house and her lifestyle than ask her how much she loves you, than ask her what is more important to her the drugs or her child. Tell her loving you on drugs is not enough you need more of her and want her to get straight ask her to get help. Tell her you love her and if she loves you she will in return want better for you. If she can't than tell her that if she wishes to see you than to meet u in a public place for lunch or dinner so you can talk.
2007-10-11 09:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to help your mom is to be honest with her. et her know that you love her but you will not be with her when she is doing drugs. Also explain to her that you do not want to visit until she cleans up her house and her life. Sometimes when dealing with people like this you have to be up front and honest with them. It may be the only way she will see her problem.
2007-10-11 07:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by beachnerjl2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋