My mother in law is a clingy annoying manipulative lying individual. We were married in August, I have been with my husband for almost 5 years before this. I tried to involve her and my sister-in-law with everything for the wedding. I went out of my way to make her feel wanted, and a part of the big day, and it was never responded to well. She didn't take part in anything, and then complained that she wasn't invited to things or asked opinions on.
She wore white.. to my wedding... and threw her hair in a ponytail. (it was a big wedding)
She didn't smile in any of the pictures
COMPLAINED cause her boyfriend had to wear a suit instead of a tux (he wasn't in the wedding)
compared everything to my sister in law's upcomign wedding.
My husband has called her on her actions, and her respone was simply ... " I hate you"
Also, my sister in law has copied everything from my wedding, down to the invitations. I do not want to go to her wedding, in 2 weeks, or deal with my mother in law....
2007-10-11 08:12:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anna_Phylactic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
....at that time.
Would you get into a spat about this? Or let it go?
She told my husband, her son, she hates him, and makes everything "all about her".
I can't stand it, I want to pull her eyes out through her toes.
And the sister in law is the same as the mother.
Opinions please.
2007-10-11 08:13:02 · update #1
You guys are right. Everything with his mom, and his sister, is about competition. I am exhausted, my life isn't about that. I'm just tired of being fake. It's hard to stand there and smile like everything is OK when you want to rip out her tonsils through her ears. And his sister's wedding is now in two weeks, and she only asked him not even two months ago, AFTER OUR WEDDING, to be in the wedding. Meanwhile, she was in our wedding from the getgo, and she's been planning her wedding since before he and I were engaged.
2007-10-11 08:25:33 · update #2
Sounds like you allowed your life to become a competition. A wedding is just a small event in the course of your life and if you live your life based on it, you are going to fail at marriage.
You cannot control anyone else's behavior, only your own. Learn to do that and stay out of your husbands relationship with his mother. Your wedding is over, start living your life with some self respect and dignity. Take the high road, don't play those drama games.
2007-10-11 08:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look the fact of the matter is that she is your husbands mom and these are such deep and sensitive relations which cannot be called off.
so there r two things u can do 1st is to be a bigger person and just ignore,dont fall to there level or get affected,cos in any ways they cant harm your life.be a better person and go ahead with the wedding showing them that u r not affected by all that they do and say.
secondly,do not attend the wedding and tell them straight.
and the most imp thing is to discuss all this with your husband,involve him,so that he is there to support u and agress with ur decision.
good luck!!
2007-10-11 16:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they are a crazy and dysfunctional family. It is imperative that you and your husband decide as soon as possible how to deal with them or they will continue to be a disruptive force in your life from now on.
It is really important to set boundaries for people like that. When they say or do things that are inappropriate, it is time to draw the line and walk off, hang up etc...,
You need to ask for respect and treat them with equal respect. If she continues to be disrespectful etc.., then let her know you will have no choice but to cut her out of your life.
2007-10-11 15:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband to make that decision. That really is his call. I believe if he wants to go then you guys should be the bigger people and just go. But if he is really feeling down about what his mother said to him. Then just don't go. Don't RSVP. And if they call just tell them that your husband is not feeling well. Because if I was him I would not feel well to be around then after my own mother told me she hated me.
2007-10-11 15:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Miss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god what family of monsters did you marry into?yours makes mine look like a smiling angel. well if she hates her son so much why even bother going to the wedding? RIP HER EYES OUT AND WEAR BLACK TO THE WEDDING. GOOD LUCK AND MAKE SURE YOUR HUSBAND TAKES YOUR SIDE ALWAYS. BYE
2007-10-11 15:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by blueberry 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's obvious that your husbands family is not receptive to him or you for that matter. It's hard for him to break allegience with them because they're HIS family, but he has to. They obviously have NO respect for him due to their abundant disrespect towards you. The Bible says "For this reason man shall LEAVE his mother and father, and cleave to his wife". His allegience lies with YOU now. YOU are his physical priority now, not Mama!
It's evident the family thing isn't going well, so He'll obviously understand that you don't want to be involved with them or apart of anything they're doing. Just keep your distance Sweetheart!
2007-10-11 15:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell your husband how you feel. Maybe he feels the same way. She must be a big b***h to tell her own son she hates him.
2007-10-11 16:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them they are not welcome to the wedding
but do it with your soon to be husband by your side
either that or swallow it and forget them this is your day dont let them bother you
2007-10-11 15:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by summerbliss 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋