Why do some people act as if staying single is such a bad thing?

Question

Not too long ago, I told some people that I plan to stop dating altogether and remain single. (I have my reasons.) They acted as if such a thing were unthinkable! Their constant refrain was, "You'll end up alone!" Why do some people think that being alone is a fate worse than death? After all, marriages and relationships aren't what they're cracked up to be and they're not at all as they're depicted by the media. If anything, I've found that marriages and relationships often cause more grief than happiness for the people involved. There is reason why most marriages end in divorce. THINK ABOUT IT!!!

Answer 1

I agree and feel the same way as you. I prefer to be single. But i'am afraid of ending of my life being alone. Most people prefer to have contact with another to be noticed like they exist in someones eyes.

Answer 2

I'm sorry if that's how you feel about it. It sounds like you been through plenty of bad relationships & now have given up. You should look at your past relationships as a learning experience. So, I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. It's fine if you want to stay single for the rest of your life. It's not really a fate worse than death, but regardless how you feel now, somewhere down the road when your older, you will realize what others tell you is true (about being alone & how it will suck at times). but....Believe it or not....Marriages & Relationships ARE what they're cracked up to be. YOU JUST HAVEN'T FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON YET. and NO....marriage & relationships DO NOT cause more grief than happiness for the people involved. That happens in some cases when people are with THE WRONG PERSON. but....when or if you finally meet the "right person", it will definitely change the way you think & feel about it. And remember that, NOT ALL MARRIAGES end up in divorce.....not all. So, don't judge every single marriage or relationship out there is doomed for the worse. That is NOT reality. but I hope that during this time you are alone, you have some time to find yourself, give yourself time to grow, mature & know what you want including the things you want in a relationship b/c that will help you find the right person someday, which i hope you do later down the road when you are ready. So....it's o.k. to feel the way you do right now, I just wish this bitterness you have shouldn't have been directed to "all marriages & relationships" because it's really not like that at all. Don't blame the title of it for your bad experiences, instead.....just deal with what happened to you, try to move on, accept it & know that it's a part of life.

Answer 3

I too had made a decision to remain single about 10 yrs. ago and really only have dated 3 or 4 times each very shortly knowing I didn't see a future with any of the 4. MY biggest reason for not dating seriously was I have three children who were young. Now they are grown and have families of their own. Can you believe it I'm a grandfather of 8. That has happened overnight. They are all under 5 and each one a blessing. And I'm only a kid myself at 54.
I can see now that dating may be a part of my life again in the not too distant future. I see nothing wrong with your decision to stay single. I was never really lonely in the last 10 yrs. More power to you. You know your heart. If and when you should decide to date again let it be your decision
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Answer 4

And who said "stop dating" will result to you being alone. Anyways, keep to what your heart tells you, if you feel you being single and not dating is the best for you, then go for it. All over the news today is, break ups and all that, if relationships was such a great thing as people see it, then why all that news. And you see loads of people, ladies and guys alike getting into an unthinkable depression over relationships.

Answer 5

I think being single is great, actually. I'm not bothered by phone calls in the middle of the night, I don't have anyone to fight with over what's on TV, or what's for dinner... my weekends are free for whatever I choose to do, and there is no argument over whose family to visit for which holidays.

When I was a teenager I was very unhappy because my friends would call me simply to complain about their boyfriends, never really to ask how I was doing or anything... my thought at the time was, "At least you HAVE a boyfriend"... I don't feel that way anymore though, thank goodness.

I appreciate my solitude and my freedom. I enjoy having the ability to go wherever I please, without getting phone calls from some jealous freak who thinks I'm seeing another guy on the side... when I've simply run to the store and had no signal indoors.

Answer 6

I don't think being single is a bad thing. After a bad divorce, I was single for 7 years. No dating or boyfriends. I was busy bettering myself by going to school I guess and really didn't have the emotional time to commit myself to anyone. Then I met someone I really liked and it went from there. But, had I not met this man, I would have been happily single. It really is better to be happy and single than unhappy and coupled!

Answer 7

I was married for 15 years,and tried to make it work,for the sake of my kids. It's not that I was afraid to be alone,I did'nt want to raise my kids alone!. (But I did it anyway,and perservered).
I never thought about getting married again,because once my kids grew up,and had families of their own, I felt "relief". I felt I had done my job as both mother and father,and now it was time for me!. (lol). I started going out,dating and meeting really nice people (especially guys!). I was having fun,and nobody was getting hurt. There are no strings attached!. I don't have to be home to cook dinner,or have sex when I didn't want too! (lol). I CALL THE SHOTS!. Being single is good for me!. I date whomever I want,and whenever I want (Like I said): I CALL THE SHOTS!. (smile!)

Answer 8

"Why do some people act as if staying single is such a bad thing?" Because the equate being single and living alone as being lonely.

Answer 9

This is very true. There is no need to be married unless you want to be married to someone. I never thought I was the kind of girl who would bother to get married. I never saw the point. But then again, I wasn't lonely. I wasn't lonely until I met my husband that is. We had to do a long distance relationship for 2 years before we could finally be together, and I ached for him everyday.

My theory, if you can live without someone, live without them. If you can't, marriage could be nice:)

Answer 10

Part of me thinks they're unhappy and want everyone as miserable as they are.

Another part of me thinks some sicko created the notion that people "should" be in couples and there's something wrong if you aren't or don't want to be.

I don't know why peoiple think being single is horrible; in my view, it's better to be single and content than miserable in a relationship.