Like the limo? We'd have them pay less than the bridesmaids still, but it's hard to cover everything without help! Or is it just tacky?
2007-10-11 08:39:08 · 26 answers · asked by Vyque 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's not affording what I want, it's affording what the bride specifically requested.
2007-10-11 10:13:56 · update #1
I have been in a number of weddings and been to even more bachelorette parties. In my experience everyone who attends chips in. Of course the bridesmaids pay more, but if you go out and get a limo and go to the bar, everyone chips in. The only rule is that you must tell the guest the cost when you invite them. That way they can decide on their own if they want to participate.
2007-10-11 09:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tulla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a bridesmaid, you are responsible for your own travel and your own attire. It's also customary to pay for the bridal shower or bachelorette party. I would just mention to your friend that you are short on cash. Perhaps she can pick less expensive dresses or shoes. It's not really her family's responsibility to pay for anything that involves the bridesmaids. If her parents are paying the other wedding costs (such as her dress, the reception). That's completely the bride's business. I don't think the parents of the bride should have to shell out more money to outfit and transport their daughter's bridal party. That's not their responsibility. The money they are contributing is strictly a gift to their daughter, not her friends. If you can't afford this, tell your friend. It's nothing to be ashamed of, especially if you are still in school. However, your friend isn't asking too much of you. Also, how far away is the wedding. I suggest saving up, cut out things you don't need (like a weekly pedi/mani, coffee in the am or eating out) Find an affordable hotel and split it with two or three other people. Also, the bachelorette party does not need to be expensive. You can hold it in your hotel room, have the other bridesmaid's BYOB and everyone can contribute some snacks.
2016-05-21 22:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me a break people!! Not many of us can afford to pay for a whole party like that! Those of us who constantly fork out that kind of money are either very well off or in some serious debt.
I think that as long as it is a reasonable amount, then yes, ask them to help pay for the limo. Everyone can buy their own drinks and dinner..but those who ride in the limo can pay for their seat and those who don't can meet up with you.
2007-10-11 09:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally the bridesmaids pay but if you feel like offering a lending hang, go ahead.
Also, you do not have to go at all, remember.
I wasn't a bridesmaid and was invited to a bachelorette party. The girls told me it would be $50 per person for the stripper and I declined to go because I didn't get paid that week and I have bills to pay. Everyone understood and there were no hard feelings.
2007-10-11 09:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly not. Whoever throws the party, pays for the party. Would you have a birthday party and ask everyone attending to pay a cover charge because your having a pinata and a DJ. I don't think so. Split it amongst the bridesmaids. If you cant afford it, change the plans.
2007-10-11 09:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't even no what a non bridesmaid is. do you mean should the guest of the bachlorette party help pay? if thats what you mean then that would be worst then tacky. i know i would not help pay for a party just because i was invited to the party.
2007-10-11 09:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have the bridesmaids ask the other partygoers to "In lieu of gifts, donate to the party costs." That way they dont have to pay for gifts AND the party. Make it one or the other. If you cant afford to do the party without donations, maybe the party plans should be scaled down a little.
2007-10-11 10:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to help if they can, but let them know that they are not expected to. I know that weddings and events leading up to and after can be very expensive and your trying to cut costs any way you can, but keep in mind that while you and your parents are flipping a big bill, your friends might not be able to afford another bill period. So, just say if you can help out great, if not no worries. Most likely all of your friends will chip in to pay for the night! Good luck and best wishes!
2007-10-11 08:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cant afford the limo dont get one. Would you ask people to chip in for the cake at a birthday party? Throw a party that you can afford.
2007-10-11 08:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is tacky. If the limo cost to much then just go with something cheaper.
If you have the party at a bar/restaurant then they should pay for their own food and drinks.
2007-10-11 08:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by spunky monkey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋