he told me he didn't want me for sex. he said that if he did we would have done it. and then the next day we did. i had even said no i wasn't ready but he still pressures me. and before me and him had sex he was never rly into hangin out with me.. and now that we have hes always around.. does he want me for sex???
2007-10-11 03:06:29 · 26 answers · asked by DaniGirl17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are asking these questions of yourself and us, then your conscience is telling you that he is wrong for you.
No young woman should ever feel pressured to have sex, ever.
2007-10-11 03:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's only one way to find out. This guy sounds a lot like me when I was in high school. Here's probably what's going on. He surely wants to have sex all the time. I don't think there is a teenage boy or man that would tell you otherwise. The important thing for you to do is to take that away from him if you're having doubts. Example, I had dated a girl in high school for my jr. and sr. year. It was a very sexual relationship. I used to hang out with her two to three days a week when we first started dating and the other days I spent being an idiot with my friends. When the relationship became more sexual with her, The days I spent with her doubled. She began thinking the same thing you did and she then controlled when the "heavy stuff" would begin. If you do that and he spends less time, he may be using you. It's important for you to make the guy wait a while when you start dating...(months). If he makes it that long, he's really there for you. It's tough because this all new to the both of you. Make sure he's there for you and be safe and have fun when you want to.
2007-10-11 10:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Personal Insult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep and he knows it, and the sooner you realize that the better off you'll be. A guy would TELL you that he doesn't want you for sex because he knows it's what you want to hear, he knows that if he can make you believe he's around just out of respect for you then he has access to you like V.I.P. Since you are so unsure of his motives I dare you to test him out and I mean longer then a day. Refrain from having sex with him and see how he treats you, the more he comes around the more you refrain and if he doesn't come around then you don't have to refrain because he's not even there to receive sex from you. A man who can't marry you is not worth you spreading your legs for. Do not let this guy use you up.
2007-10-11 10:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Survivor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at the facts here.......He said he didn't want you for sex and that you were not ready. But yet he still pressures you and then you did have sex and now he is around all the time.....Get A Clue!!! Yes he does want you for sex. Cut him off and get rid of him....he thinks you are just a piece of a ss for him to use whenever he wants it now.
2007-10-11 10:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uh, my question to your question is - "If he didn't want you for sex and you weren't ready to make this step with him then y did you?" If he wasn't with you for sex in the first place then he wouldn't have pressured you. Now that you have mead this step it is now expected of you and I am pretty sure that if you decide to tell him you would prefer to build on your relationship before you engage in further sexual activity with him he would be out the door. YES HE IS WITH U SEX!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-11 10:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
depending on your age I would have to go with yes. I've been there, just hold out for awhile dont give in and see if hes still coming around. Never do anything your not ready for!
2007-10-11 10:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most likely yea because now ya have sex he is steeking around because most likely he like it, and if before he really didnt hang around with you y>?? ... well i though the same thing about my boyfriend but after we had sex he realise that is was more then that... and now im about to make a year together sooo yea... think about the way he acts n dont have sex with him everytime you see him if thats al he wanna do when he is around then you already know wat it is ...
try to do other things stablish a realtionship... but at the same time i dont think is right the fact the he presure you into it ... idk think about everything .. and talk to him about it .. .if he is a *** w**** ... leave him
2007-10-11 10:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's good to know the old "I don't want you for sex" line still works after all these years.
It even works better than the "Getting me all excited without release is extremely painful" line.
2007-10-11 10:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stop having sex with him and see if he still wants to hang.Maybe he really does care for you.
2007-10-11 10:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kev L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he mentioned it then that probably means he's thinking about it. And since he said it than it's a guarantee.
2007-10-11 10:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋