How do i get her to go away?

Question

well one of my earlier questions was about my now boyfriend and theres was alot of drama with that.. anyways his ex will not stop calling him and leaving messages every day and is mad because she feels she needs to be in his life because they were engaged.She calls asking him to come over and watch movies. she has made it clear she doesnt like him anymore and hates him yet she wont leave us alone.He has also made it clear he doesnt even want to be friends. Why does she still want to be friends?Why wont she take the hint?

she called a few times wanting him to go shopping with her, cause she needs new clothes and needs to do her hair for a funeral...thats her always thinking about herself...he has said many a time he doesnt want o be friends, i think she might be delusional...The reason he still talks to her is because her grampa was really close to him, he just died but after saturday which is the funeral she should stop calling, and he wont have to answer the phone anymore..as for changing the number he says he shouldnt have to..he hopes after this week she will give up hes just a really nice guy to nice and doesnt want to say **** off, even though he has said this but in nicer words..Thanks for everyones advice!!!

Answer 1

She does not want him nor does she want anyone else to have him

Change ur phone numbers to start with i know its a pain but it will help and he need to to just stop answering the phone when she calls. She is only acting like she does not like him and that she is mad at him to real him back in u know how women can be, she also thinks this is a fun game how many times can she get u 2 in to a fight and how long will it take her to break u up. upsetting u both gives her power over u and she feeds on this don't pick up the phone and don't let it bug u anymore (or i should say don't let it show that it bothers u) she take ur power from u and leave u frustrated and tired and she gets ur energy and ur confidences. don't give it to her. the more u ignore her the better take back ur lives and and let her's fall apart she will leave u alone when u stop feeding her.

Hope it works out
Hugs

Answer 2

obviously, the ex is still madly in love with your boyfriend. I haven't read your previous questions yet, but I believe you're doing everything to make that girl go away. I think the most appropriate question here now is that: Is your boyfriend doing something about it? Because as long as he entertains this other woman, this won't end. Telling the ex "we're through", "i don't love you anymore", etc. is not enough. Why don't you ask your BF to change his line/sim? Or restrict all calls coming from the ex's number? or not letting your BF, or yourself, see the ex. I think these simple ways will help to make her stop. This girl is testing your relationship and is trying to pull you down. She may keep on doing this until you guys break up, but if you and your guy do something about it, she will eventually get tired of it and stop.

Answer 3

Molly, you and I are in the same situation...I met my BF at his friends house this weekend whom had been drinking a bit. I stayed sober because I was driving...but he was a bit drunk and somehow he slipped and said he had seen his ex the other day...he just happened to be at the same bar she chose to celebrate her B-day. I asked if they talked and he said oh we just BS a bit and then later said that she has been depressed the last three months (which is as long as we have been official bf gf). and she just needed a friend. I then asked him if they talked on the phone and he said we have, but if you want me to stop i will...I am not the kind of girl to get jealous and this guy is so amazing and almost always with me that i have never had any reason to worry. But this chick wants what she cant have. she does this to all guys she tells them how happy she is that they are happy and then she proceeds to go after them....i have been so insecure about the entire situation, but if i find out that she is still calling i will get on the phone and let her know how it is (which is very out of character for me) my bf Bragg's to everyone how i am the nicest person they will ever meet...although, this last week he has seen an entirely different side of me...GOOD luck, I'm on your side!

Answer 4

All he has to do is change his phone number,
put it under another name.
Don't give her the new number.
She doesn't want him and if she can't have him.
She'll just make life hell for the two of you.
He can always move to a new place.
If all else fails,
he can put a restraining order on her.
So that if she makes contact,
she goes to jail.
I've done that to one of my ex's.
He was stubborn,
but after 30 days in jail,
he left us alone.

Answer 5

Hope the desire to cause drama eventually wears off. It's really immature, but some people don't outgrow it. Ask your boyfriend to put an end to this nonsense and if she doesn't quit, get a restraining order. If he doesn't stop it then why would you want to be with such a weak 'man'?

Answer 6

You need your boyfriend to tell her to stop calling him or you.

Tell him to tell her she's embarrassing him and herself.

He needs to be clear with her. "It's over". Tell him to say that and hang up on her everytime she emails or calls him.

She will get tired of this, too. If she exhibits stalker behavior, like she slashes his car tires or something else threatening, tell him to call the police.

She probably feels bad that he dumped her for you, and feels jealous. Instead of realizing that there are other guys out there, she thinks that by begging him she can get him back. WRONG! I'm sure that she just turns him off by her behavior.

Be sympathetic with your boyfriend, he can't control her behavior - but be firm. He needs to be the one telling her it is over, not you.

It may make him feel guilty and "mean" to have to keep telling her, but the sooner she decides that, yes, it is over, the sooner she can get on with her life. And that is what is best for all three of you!

Answer 7

It's not your job,it's his.Impossible as it may seem, he doesn't have to answer the phone just because it's ringing.I think it's very disrespectful of him to allow the drama.Experience says,it's not going to get better. It's a part of his character that will keep on popping up in future situations.Not trying to hate him,it's factual. Hope it gets better, be realistic.

Answer 8

she gets the hint, believe me. she just can't let go. have your man change his phone number. she wil stop calling, wont she? restraining orders may keep her from the house. but most of all (if your man is really over her) he needs to have a serious talk with her and tell her it cannot be, ever.

Answer 9

if he wants 2 cut her out he should change his phone number or block her calls or ignore them all 2gether, she will get the hint. if she doesn't maybe an extreme measure of an order of harassment would get it through 2 her or just the mention of the possibility of it. it is a control issues she is having.

Answer 10

slightly of the two. I do many of the pushing now and returned while i'm afraid to get too close and don't decide to get harm. and now and returned i'm getting pushed away, for god in basic terms is conscious what reason.