Family & Relationships - 10 October 2007

Ok. Here it goes:
I'm 25 and I'm in an adulterous relationship. I am single, he is married. Next week is my birthday and we want to celebrate it together (a few days before my the actual birthday). We are planning on staying overnight. My mom knows about him, isn't too happy but we talk about it. Should I tell her I am going to be with him? or should I tell her I'm sleeping over at a friend's house?

Please no judgemental answers. I love my mother dearly and I'm in love with him.

2007-10-10 16:45:59 · 7 answers · asked by OmShanti 2 in Family

I got married when i was 18. Before i got married, this man treated me if i were a princess, but when we got married things changed for the worse. For the first year of my marriage he phsyically abused me. He would restrain me and leave marks on my arms from restraining me too hard. He would put his hand around my neck leaving marks. He would spit in my face, and even has thrown me to ground.
He does not do the physical abuse anymore but will still call me the C word a b*tch retarded and stupid whenever we get into arguements.
Well I have this guy friend at work that i have talked to about all this and he has been there for me when i needed someone to listen. The other day we admitted to one another we like each other.
I feel so wrong for saying that I liked him because I do love my husband and I know he has tried so hard to change but the truth is that the abuse has made me lose a lot of my affection towards him. What to do? HELP Please!

2007-10-10 16:45:58 · 17 answers · asked by Katie R 2 in Marriage & Divorce

im 15 and unhappy at home and wont to live with one of my family members but my parents wont let me am i alond to choose where i live and who with

2007-10-10 16:45:23 · 20 answers · asked by Liz 1 in Family

I have been married 8 years with 3 kids (7,4,2) and have been a stay at home mom for most of it.. I have worked on and off when we were in desperate need of money. My husband had severe drug problems and a gambling addiction. With that said, we have gone thru counseling and he is even in methadone treatment for the drug problem. He has never been violent with me beyond yelling. He can't seem to keep a job, and was recently fired for stealing $5000, he claims he didn't do it and no charges have been filed, but he is now on the "lamb." Arriving at home to only shower and change clothes. I have no money and even no vehicle I am soo lost on what to do.. any advice on how to move on with my life. I love him so much I want to work on it, but at the same time I feel he is a lost cause. Disappearing for days at a time is not only hurting me but my girls are in tune with whats going on and cry themselves to sleep everynight. What do you think?

2007-10-10 16:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by Lulu 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was just married 2 months ago and now my wife and I are getting a divorce. I was wondering what the proper edicate is with gifts. Should we return them to the people that gave them to us?

2007-10-10 16:41:41 · 18 answers · asked by Adventurebound75 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 19 and I lost my virginity really young. I was 14, and I have never ever liked sex.

I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and having sex feels like a chore. I want to enjoy it and I want to WANT to have sex. Is it maybe just my age? Will I like it better when I am older?

2007-10-10 16:38:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-10 16:37:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I say NO! If you are looking for someone to bring home to mama.. not a good idea! So... do you think a marriage to a stripper ever has a happy ending? Do you think she can change her lifestyle, and just be a guys wife? Opinions welcome!!!

2007-10-10 16:34:25 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you love someone, don't you want to see them happy? If a guy has sex with another woman, and it is only sex, sex for the sake of the physical feeling and without emotional ties, why not be happy that he has had a few minutes of sexual release?

2007-10-10 16:33:55 · 14 answers · asked by Seryan 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

ive been out with this girl several times. she speaks only spanish and i only speak english. i haven't seen her in a while and i ask her to the movies. its a spanish movie with american subtitles. she says i can't tonight i have to go to a co-workers birthday party but another day. i ask her 3 days later if she wants go to on the next day she is off and she says yes. the following week i have been texting her and she hasn't responded to anything. i dont understand this.

2007-10-10 16:33:32 · 13 answers · asked by tray 1 in Singles & Dating

we are in love..at least i hope he is. we have been together for 18 months. but hes a very very shy man and refuses to meet my friends. he also has a bad relationship with my mom. we get along besides are little fights. is this a bad relationship? not that i cant decide on my own....but need some input too.

2007-10-10 16:32:13 · 5 answers · asked by miss curious 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok so if someone got divorced and was paid X amount of money every month and then they're ex-spouse got re-married to another person and soon after got divorced from that person too would the pay of for the first someone decrease because of the second someone's divorce pay
i know this i confusing but if i don't get the right answer or the link to the right site to answer my question my grandmother may take my grandfather to court and he's getting old and his income is dwindling he is about to retire and he will not be able to support my grandma and his second ex-wife
everyone in the family is taking sides and braking the peace my mom i leaning with my grandma but i'm leaning withmy grandfather................................................what a mess

BTW: this must aply to Idaho state law

thank you varry much

if you give me the right answer i will love you forever

2007-10-10 16:30:32 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with my boyfriend for four years. Two out of those years he paid for everything while the other two my mom paid for everything. So i guess it is fair? On the other hand he thinks he put more work into it because he put his money in it, while I did not. I could not because when we met I was in school and have been for the past four years. Now he is not working and planning on going to school this fall, for two years, and then for three more. He is asking me to pay for everything including his part during the first two years, while he pays for his school credit card and child support. The thing is I am going to be a graduating senior and just starting my career, I do not know how I will be able to support him and me? I had my own goals too, saving for a house and helping my family in the Ukraine.

He tells me if I choose not to support him then he will break up with me because I did not support him in his dream, that we are a team. I do not know what to do, I just do not think it is fair for a twenty two year just out of school to be supporting a twenty nine year old man.

I have to make a decision. Please help, any advice helps.

Thanks,
Allison

2007-10-10 16:30:16 · 29 answers · asked by alina, alina k 1 in Marriage & Divorce

For ugly people, money wins out. Money is the only thing that is certain. It is the only thing that wont leave you. Right? Ugly people have it rough, people are more likely to think badly of them or turn on them. Thus, money is the only thing that can bring them happiness.

When your ugly girls will just play with your feelings to get a laugh.

2007-10-10 16:29:17 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years and we never talk about marriage, i want to get married sometime but he NEVER talks about it? what is this all about?

2007-10-10 16:27:23 · 11 answers · asked by jojo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my hair looks good all the time im not fat im not to skinny my boobs are...not massave but at the point where the jiggle how do i get guys to look at me my friend always have guys on her its not fair what am i doing wrong!!!

2007-10-10 16:27:14 · 3 answers · asked by the real mrs.captainjacksparrow 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, well Im 13 and I haven't had my first bf yet. or my first kiss. All my friends have already had bf's and kisses and stuff like that, but I'm the only one who hasn't. They say I'm really pretty and nice. But I'm also shy. IS there a problem with me?

2007-10-10 16:26:51 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Every time my mother and father in law come over for a meal. They use the bathroom. It does not matter what my wife serves. But my in laws always manage to clog the toilet. They are getting up their in age. They do not have the muscles to power plunge. First my mother in law goes in. You see she will not flush it is a waist of water. Then my father in law goes in and does his job on top of that. They are so afraid of waisting water, but they have no problem waisting toilet paper. My wife and I fight about this everytime that she tells me they are coming over. So my mother in law sees it is not going down, so she opens the bathroom door and calls for my father in law. So they are both in their at the same time. My father in law is plunging while my mother in law keeps on flushing. Then the toilet over flows. Then they come out and say we really should get someone over to fix the toilet because it clogs up all the time. there is more so PLEASE wait a minute.

2007-10-10 16:24:57 · 11 answers · asked by John D 1 in Family

2007-10-10 16:20:30 · 33 answers · asked by scouser_huyton 2 in Singles & Dating

is it a bad thing??? cause someone told her last year. and i recently asked her out and she said yes and i kinda feel embarrassed now that i remember she knows....

thats one of da things i hate ppl knowing... not even guys know.. only a couple ppl know.
and wats suks even more is i have a job and my mom doesn't allow me 2 use my money b/c she said i have 2 save up cash.. i'm like dam dam dam....

so basically i ask my mom for money and if i do... since i'm gonna b payin for everythin. she's gonna ask where da money all went...cause i don't want my mom 2 kno i'm dating... and plus shes gonna call me a dumass for payin for everythin.

What should i do...

2007-10-10 16:20:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think we all know that our g/fs or wive's guy friends have sexual thoughts about our partners. Its quite normal. But does that bother you? How do you feel about it? Ladies, how do you feel when your guy friends have sexual thoughts about you?

2007-10-10 16:19:56 · 3 answers · asked by Paulie 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been with my husband for 12 yrs. and married for 8 yrs. He cheated on me with a married women who is now divorced. We are in our fifties. He says he has love for me but not sure if he is in love. He is lusting this other women with 2 small children. She is 32 yrs old. They been having an affair for 6 months.

He left a week ago because I caught him. He has proposed a plan to come home and stay in the other room so we can re-aquaint our selves. But we can go and do as we like but no dating. If we go back it will be 150 percent married. Should I do this or not?

2007-10-10 16:19:47 · 33 answers · asked by nancy r 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay so like there is this guy and I thought he had no feelings for me and we just got into this stupid argument.
I had a adittude and I at the end I realize that he dose have feelinngs for me.
And I see him tommrow at school! I don't know what to do like I don't want to pretend it never happend!
What to do?

2007-10-10 16:18:08 · 12 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-10 16:16:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

"why did you just smoke a bunch of weed, you are heading to class!"- me 6:05pm, "dude, this will only make me do better! in class!, I will listen more!"- bro 6:06pm

2 hours later...
(walks back home all pissed)
"I did everything perfectly, but got 1 thing wrong that everyone else knew besides me, I failed my test"- bro 8:14pm

now he is smoking trees in his room
what should I do?

2007-10-10 16:16:22 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Well it started out, i was watching doctor phil and there were 2 teens with kids and already married. so i said "babe look" and he saide what being married, and i said "yes" and then he said "well you came up with it" and right then and there are started feeling like crap.like ya i wanted to be engaged and everything and we currently are now..but i just dont know he give me all these mixed signals what should i do?

2007-10-10 16:12:50 · 5 answers · asked by Im_Fabolous 1 in Singles & Dating

Which do you prefer, breast implants or the real thing and why? Are breast implants attractive to you or you just dont care?

2007-10-10 16:12:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We were dating for 2 years and 2 weeks ago he was really busy so I was fine with that and he promised to spend time with me monday so I got all pretty for him, did my hair and everything and waited for him to call and pick me up but it was getting really late but I was still being patient and when he finally called at 12 am he said he can't cause his brother just got halo 3 and he wanted to play it. So I was really disappointed cause I haven't spent time with him in a long time so I was sad and he got so mad that I was disappointed. He said "I think we shouldn't talk anymore" and he has ignored me since, he deleted me from myspace, checks the messages I write to him but doesn't reply, ignores my calls and I tell him how much it hurts me and how I love him more then anything in the world, how he's my best friend, how I would do anything for him and that I've been crying every day since but he doesn't care =( It hurts me so much I was so in love with him. Why do you think he's doing this

2007-10-10 16:08:47 · 30 answers · asked by Kasey 2 in Singles & Dating

theres this guy at skool that i like & he likes me but hes shorter than me...i have a feeling that hes gonna ask me out soon, ive never dated a guy that was shorter than me..do u think the heigth makes a difference?

2007-10-10 16:08:36 · 21 answers · asked by Lisa F 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been married for 4 years. We have 2 young kids and he has a 7 year old from his first marriage. We were married after only two months of dating, but we knew each other all through grade and high school. He had me so in love with him, I was sure he was it. Turns out, a lot of what he told me were things he knew I wanted to hear. The first 3 years were hell for me. We fought all the time. He has changed a lot the last year, but I can't seem to forget all the hurt he's caused me. Plus, a lot of people question his sexuality. Including his ex wife. Now all I think about is a life with someone who has the same likes, wants, and desires. He has no friends, no hobbies, no desire to vacation. All he wants to do is work and take care of kids. He's great around the house, but I know in my heart we don't belong together. We don't make each other happy, and I work 7 days a week so I don't have to be around him or his daughter any more than I have to be. Do I stay for the kids?

2007-10-10 16:07:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce