This is a real life scenario. So please help me.?

Question

Every time my mother and father in law come over for a meal. They use the bathroom. It does not matter what my wife serves. But my in laws always manage to clog the toilet. They are getting up their in age. They do not have the muscles to power plunge. First my mother in law goes in. You see she will not flush it is a waist of water. Then my father in law goes in and does his job on top of that. They are so afraid of waisting water, but they have no problem waisting toilet paper. My wife and I fight about this everytime that she tells me they are coming over. So my mother in law sees it is not going down, so she opens the bathroom door and calls for my father in law. So they are both in their at the same time. My father in law is plunging while my mother in law keeps on flushing. Then the toilet over flows. Then they come out and say we really should get someone over to fix the toilet because it clogs up all the time. there is more so PLEASE wait a minute.

so the wife is in the kitchen having coffee with her parents. And I am the one in the bathroom cleaning up the mess. I feel like I work in a nursing home. It is so nasty cleaning up their crap off the floor and on the toilet. I told my wife, the next time they were coming for diner that I was leaving. And that I would not clean up their crap. Yet they have the nerve to tell my wife that I am cheap and not a good husband. Because I will not call a plumber and get the sewer fixed. They think their is a tree root growing in our sewer. The only time it clogs and backs up is when they are here. Now here is the question. Do I have the right to tell them to clean up the mess. One time I went in and removed the toilet paper from the bathroom. Thinking hint hint. Well my mother in law sat on toilet and yelled untill my wife came and gave her some. What should I do?

Answer 1

After reading your question. I will say I had a good laugh. I think many had a good laugh. There had to be a rational way to solve this problem. First off sit down with your wife and explain to her how what her parents are doing is very rude an uncalled for. You in laws may keep doing this because they have gotten away with it. You need to tell your wife either she tells them or you tell them. That this kind of behavior will not be tolerated in your home and if they have a problem with it, then your home is off limits. Give them one more chance and if it happens again. Make them clean up the mess. If your wife argues with you on this one. Then you need to do the same thing her parents are doing. And make sure she is left to clean it up. Then she may wake up and see how bad the problem really is.

Answer 2

Wow. This has made my bad day into a good one. I laughed so hard as I read what you wrote. Then to see what the others wrote. This is good. I feel for you man. But I must say I am still laughing and at one point was laughing so hard my ribs hurt. I latterly thought I was going to crap my self. ( sorry)

You need to have them come over an hour or so before you eat. Serve them something to drink or eat. but make sure you put in anti diarrhea stuff. Hopefully by the time they eat the pills will have kicked in. I mean really put a lot of the stuff in their food or drink. So it goes to work faster.

Or I would put a lock on the door. and tell your father that the door remains locked on the outside until he has the mess cleaned up. Helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll take them out to eat. Or go to their house and do the same thing. Then maybe they will get the hint. I guess from now on I would not clean it up. Sooner or later your wife will get sick of the mess and clean it up. They are her parents not yours. It might cost a lot of money to get an automatic flusher like wal mart has. But they are part of your family and one day they will be gone and you can look back and laugh at the whole crappy mess they caused. Or you could talk them into buying a condo in Florida. far away.
Any way good luck.

Answer 3

Umm what were you expecting would happen if you removed the tolite paper from the bathroom? Obviously you arent female and you have no idea what its like to have these organs and no TP!! Trust me... if women can ask complete strangers in a public bathroom to pass the TP, you can bet your butt we're gunna yell until someone comes to save us with a fully loaded roll of TP.

So my suggestion to you, is inform the inlaws that you called the plumber and he told you there is nothing they can do about it without having to redo the entire bathroom. But the plumber has showed you a trick on how to flush the tolit the right way so that it wont over flow *now you might wind up looking cheap, but at least you wont need to keep a shovel in the bathroom* so when they use the bathroom and when they are done, they are to call you and you will use the magic trick to flush the tolite... if they are standing there watching you, block the tolite so they cant see, but let them see you removing the back cover off of it and tinkering around, and then just flush normally.
And if this doesnt work, get the super cheap TP, like 1 ply recycled stuff and keep that in the bathroom for their visits

Answer 4

Tell them that they are correct. There is a problem with the toilet. The builder installed a very small 1 gallon tank that will handle only a small amount of paper therefore, it must be flushed often. Don't worry about the water because it only uses a very small amount. Hope this works. Otherwise, let them or your wife clean it up. Stop enabling them.

Answer 5

You two are going to have to agree to go into the bathroom after each of your in-laws goes has a turn in there... just to flush so it doesn't go to critical mass. There is an automatic flusher device you can install on the toilets, too... check the high end home hardware stores or the links below.

My second suggestion would be to make it a point to take them OUT to dinner or bring a lavish dinner to them at their place, so they can't mess up your plumbing.

Because they are clogging your toilets, I would say that you need to come up with some easy ways for them to introduce more fruit, veggies and whole-grain breads into their diets. Going to the john shouldn't be that much of a strain.
Maybe your wife could haul them over to the local farmer's market and "bulk buy" locally grown veggies (which they wouldn't dare waste).... or go over herself and load up and then take the "excess" over to her parents. Their bowels and everyone's plumbing will thank you for it.

Answer 6

Lol. This might sound ridiculous but it could work. You could dig 2 holes in the backyard just for their use. Say that the toilet doesn't work for now and that the plumber will be there tomorrow to fix the toilet. Tell them to use the holes and then just bury their feces after they are done. Not only will they get the message, it will also save water and not leave a mess. haha

Answer 7

LMAO.....OHHHH MYYYY GOSSSS...I do understand this...Except my husbands family does this...I think I'm just so blunt and we're all VERY open and honest with eachother...I've yelled out " SPRAY AND CLEAN UR OWN SH*T, there's THE PLUNGER IN THERE TOO" I 'm still laughing while trying to type this cause I thought this was only my family.............HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Answer 8

Tell your wife to clean the mass herself cause she is the one who should talk her parents out of it.If she refuses then you should drop the bomb ,and rhat is tell her that the parents should not visit unless they change their irritating attitude.

Answer 9

ember has my vote she is so right on women and tp LOL I couldn't stop laughing and not about your situation. I like the whole magic flush thing.

Answer 10

Yucky!Poor you!You should get one of those toillets that flush by themselves once they are done.