We were dating for 2 years and 2 weeks ago he was really busy so I was fine with that and he promised to spend time with me monday so I got all pretty for him, did my hair and everything and waited for him to call and pick me up but it was getting really late but I was still being patient and when he finally called at 12 am he said he can't cause his brother just got halo 3 and he wanted to play it. So I was really disappointed cause I haven't spent time with him in a long time so I was sad and he got so mad that I was disappointed. He said "I think we shouldn't talk anymore" and he has ignored me since, he deleted me from myspace, checks the messages I write to him but doesn't reply, ignores my calls and I tell him how much it hurts me and how I love him more then anything in the world, how he's my best friend, how I would do anything for him and that I've been crying every day since but he doesn't care =( It hurts me so much I was so in love with him. Why do you think he's doing this
2007-10-10 16:08:47 · 30 answers · asked by Kasey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
fuuuuuck that ****
if my boyfriend ditched me to play halo 3, i would be pissed as a mofo. i would've broken it off right there
the least he could've done was invite you to play with him.
don't be so desperate
i understand you love him, and i don't want to be harsh
but you know what, get some game and learn to play it.
honestly honey, all you can do is find someone better
because no girl deserves to get ditched to a video game!
especially when you haven't seen him in a while
boys get scared of girls getting attached.
so don't be.
maybe you could just let him know that you've moved on or you finally decided that you don't want to talk to him either, but if he ever decided that he wants you back, you'll be fine with going back
there will be a better boy in your life later that will know how to keep you from crying.
if that makes sense
2007-10-10 16:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by COFFEE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea from anything you wrote here why he is doing any of this. But if he would rather play a video game than to be with you, then I wonder just how old you and he are. It seems either you both are too young to be involved seriously with anyone or that he is highly immature. I'm sorry that he is putting you through any of this, that is a rotten way to treat anyone.
I wish you the best, you sound rather nice and decent.
Additional: Just to try to help you out, I can understand that if he had been busy for a long time that he might want to spend some just relaxing the first chance he got. What I don't understand is if that's what he wanted, then why didn't he just tell you or try to talk to you about it instead of making plans with you, only to later toss those plans aside. To have a girlfriend who wants to be with him, who is patient and understanding about when he is busy, and will try to look her nicest for him and patiently wait for him to show up, well, that is someone he should be proud to have and to be with. Why he would treat someone like that so shabbily is so extremely cruel that I just can't fathom it. You didn't tell him that you were mad at him, just that you were disappointed, which just shows how sweet you are. I just don't see how he could not want someone like you in his life and wouldn't do his best to deserve you.
2007-10-10 16:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you anymore or maybe he never did and he was just talking to you for fun/sex. You can not give away all your power running behind him telling him how hurt you are and how much you love him. Men never respond to this. You need to call him again and say, "I realize it's over and I'm moving on with my life." This needs to be the last words you say to him. Of-course this will hurt, this will be painful but don't cry and sound matter of fact. Then you have to do something to get your mind off of him: hobbies/classes/books/new friends/join a gym especially anything that will make you more beautiful or fit and then when (if) you see him again he will see your strength/beauty and realize how great you were. He will never feel that way if you continue to mope around after him. Good Luck
2007-10-10 16:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is over and was before he came to see you that night late. He more than likely has another girlfriend. You have made the biggest mistake of all, telling him you love him even though you do, now you're going to have to suck it up and get on with your life.
Men are no longer gallant and they really don't want a needy, lovesick female, hanging around their neck, especially when they've moved on.
You deserve better. Tell yourself that every time you pass a mirror. Work on yourself, change your look, get yourself some new clothes and get out there and find somebody who respects you. There's an old saying--
"Don't no one monkey stop the show."
2007-10-10 16:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you've been dumped. Not in the most sensitive way, but dumped all the same. Back right off and see what happens, if you are trying to contact him all the time then he knows that you are still emotionally available, even if he is not.
Seriously though, why would you want to be with a guy that blows you off for Halo 3? Sounds like an immature little munter to me.
2007-10-10 16:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has lost some interest. I can't express enough of how unattractive a person becomes once it feels as if they are smothering or clinging. I believe if you stop the crying, appearing needy, etc. and carry on as if you have a life without him (which you should if you are healthy minded), you will then be giving him the opportunity to see you from a whole new point of view. A young confident lady, who likes who she is and enjoys her life and not just because she is living for her guy.....boring! I have heard many a guy who has admitted they are attacted to women who are independent and have self-confidence. Don't allow yourself to feel like someone elses door mat or that the more you sacrifice for love the better it is....just not true.
2007-10-10 16:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Don't call him.You sound like you are crawling and begging for love. Move on. Tell him he is not being considerate of your feeling and let him know the relationship is not working out.
Do you want someone who is going to treat you that way. You are better than that. You can find someone who will love you just as much as you love them.
Take the hint, if he is ignoring your calls.
2007-10-10 16:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by dreamofjustme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth being with. He didnt made an effort to spend time with u. i pretty much had the same experience with my ex. when me and him were still together, he ditched me on my b-day. we had plans to celebrate my birthday, but on the last minute, he texted me saying he cant make it. it was really disappointing and i was very upset. then there was a time that we havent seen each other in 3 weeks. he just dont have time for me. i got tired waiting for him so i ended up hanging out with a guy friend. he called me then and i told him who im with. he got so freaking mad at me that he broke up with me. he got jealous. he didnt even made me explain the situation. i made all the effort to see him and he says no. it took him 3 weeks to realize that he miss me but it was already too late.
2007-10-10 16:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't care about you nor does he value u as friend as u do him. I know its hard....I've been there myself! It hurts but in time you will heal and be a better person for it. Jus please don't waste anymore time with him. You are better than that and you know it! I am not a religious person but the Serenity Prayer helped me so much! I Wrote it on a piece of paper and I taped it to my mirror so that everyday when I got up to get ready I would see it! Its easier said than done but u will find the strength! Give it time.
2007-10-10 16:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by luvgurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunn, u gotta move on. As long as you keep trying, the more he'll push away. I KNOW it will be hard, i've been through the same thing with a female believe it or not. When I overcame that situation, I felt strong; like I can conquer anything. And, ever since then, I have.
2007-10-10 16:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by stlbold_2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋