Ok. Here it goes:
I'm 25 and I'm in an adulterous relationship. I am single, he is married. Next week is my birthday and we want to celebrate it together (a few days before my the actual birthday). We are planning on staying overnight. My mom knows about him, isn't too happy but we talk about it. Should I tell her I am going to be with him? or should I tell her I'm sleeping over at a friend's house?
Please no judgemental answers. I love my mother dearly and I'm in love with him.
2007-10-10 16:45:59 · 7 answers · asked by OmShanti 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
been on both sides the wife of a cheating husband and also a girlfriend of the married man and I'll tell you why when you date a married man you are safe from having to completely commit to him right. well not judging you just giving some insight but telling your mom the truth if she already knows about him is the best thing to do because what if something were to happen and she found out that way not good.
2007-10-10 17:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just want to say that I disagree with you on all of this. All you are is someone who he is just using you for sex. That's all you are to him. I bet this will not last either. His wife will find out and he will have to make a choice, especially if kids are involved. He will probably choose his wife and kids so he doesn't have to pay child support. You are just his stand-by and not important to him, other than sex.
I feel sorry for you. You really don't respect yourself as a young woman. You don't have any respect for anyone. I really hope you will open your eyes and wake up. He is just using you. Hopefully, you will do the right thing and leave him and his family alone. Start respecting yourself. If you are living with your mom, hopefully your mom will have some sense in telling you to get your own place. She doesn't agree with what you are doing, that should also tell you that you are disrespecting her too.
Consider reading "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives."
Oh, am I being too judge mental or am I just telling you the truth?
2007-10-11 01:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you selling yourself short?
You know this guy is NEVER going to leave his wife for you... you are only a side-dish. He is only using you. Chances are, he has several more girls just like you all over town... you are not his first side-dish and won't be his last.
You are taking all the risks.
The best birthday present you can give yourself is breaking it off with him and getting a real boyfriend you have a future with.
2007-10-10 23:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are an adult then act like one, be honest with your mom if you must tell her, she probably already has a good idea anyway. you say you love this guy, but it doesn't sound like the feeling is mutual, you deserve someone who can give you 100% of themself, not hide this from his wife, don't marry him or you'll be next
2007-10-10 23:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Caught between a rock and a hard place here. Be honest, especially with yourself.
2007-10-10 23:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Hitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before you do anything. please think of his wife at home.
Imagine if you were married and your husband was cheating on you. How would you feel.
I am sorry. But stop and think about what your doing.
2007-10-10 23:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Becca J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
grow up!!
2007-10-11 00:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋