Ok, well Im 13 and I haven't had my first bf yet. or my first kiss. All my friends have already had bf's and kisses and stuff like that, but I'm the only one who hasn't. They say I'm really pretty and nice. But I'm also shy. IS there a problem with me?
2007-10-10 16:26:51 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, nothing wrong with you at all. You are just thinking these things because everyone around you is ahead of you, and you feel left behind. First of all, at your age, you shouldn't be worrying. Secondly, all those guys that your friends dated or kissed, they have shy friends who have never kissed a girl either. The problem with being shy is that you don't feel comfortable with going after someone, but just know that there are plenty of guys who are probably wanting you to talk to them. You don't need to be shy about talking to guys because it's only talking and you can see where it goes from there. So don't worry about it :)
2007-10-10 16:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by schmimmelbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you at all. You're still finding out who you are. So is everyone else your age. Don't sweat it. I knew girls your age who were getting pregnant, even the "shy" and pretty ones.
I was 17 before a boy kissed me. He was 18 and stoned on acid (LSD). Grossed me right out. But he was my music mentor and our paths have crossed many times since then to the point where we stay in touch and are best of friends ... and laugh about that kiss. We're both really old now, at least in your eyes we would be. (He doesn't do acid anymore, by the way. Outgrew all that stuff by the time he was 20).
Friendships are the most important part of growing up. Kissing's pretty nice, having a bf that understands physical intimacy and not just into the sex bit, but ... good friendships with the right people lasts forever.
2007-10-10 23:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by OP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was around your age when I had my first kiss. It was unexpected and, well, not that great. I didn't kiss anyone again until I was 15. I was 16 when I had my first boyfriend. Don't worry about if something is wrong with you or not. There is no set age for any of this stuff. Don't worry about it. Just concentrate on school and doing the stuff you enjoy. It will happen when it's meant to.
2007-10-10 23:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh good grief no girl! Be glad you dont have that drama yet!!! I would say you probably would have a probably if you were like 50 and you'd never had a bf or a kiss, but ur only 13, and you sound very lucky!
2007-10-10 23:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Don't be in a rush to have your first kiss just because. You want it to be special. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 16. There is plenty of time. It's not like you can't have it or anything. Stick to what feels right for you, who cares what anyone else is doing.
2007-10-10 23:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by jwilliams22mn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there is nothing wrong with you i was the same way when i was 13 i was shy and i didnt have my first boyfriend untill i was like 15 and that was when i had my first kiss dont worry about it a guy will ask you out
2007-10-10 23:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear....There is nothing wrong with you.. 13 is much to young to think about dating. It's never a good idea to do something just because others are doing it.
Stay the sweetheart that you are and give yourself a few years before you think about dating.
Just tell others you are not ready to date yet. Your friends will respect that.
2007-10-10 23:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by patwhite101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't feel bad. 13 is still very young and most people don't really start that kind of stuff until 15 or so. Just relax, spend time with boys as friends and it'll happen before you know it.
2007-10-10 23:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first and for-most, hello. my name is Q. to answer your question. no there is nothing wrong with you. you don't need to worry about what your friends have,it will come to you. BF. you need to focus more on education and not having a bf. keep your head in the books. you have plenty of time for one, choose the right one. that's what you should be about, girl. i hope that you understand its not what they see. its how you show it. be about you.
2007-10-10 23:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Christyleslover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all!!!
That is perfectly normal.
I did not have my first kiss or until I was 19. Don't rush things with boys, enjoy other things in your life!
Stay true to you!!! It's all a part of life.
2007-10-10 23:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kathi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋