Family & Relationships - 5 October 2007

My hubby has lied to me about various things, from big to small. Lately, I just newly discovered that he has opened a private bank account (just for himself) and he didn't mention it at all. I am not strict on him when it comes to money, but i do remind him about our budget at times. He had promised me no more lies in the marriage, but he's done it again. I love this man, but it hurts so much when i can't trust him. We've been married for 3 years and have 2 children together. It's not easy to just leave it and move on. What should I do???

2007-10-05 20:16:38 · 24 answers · asked by loselose 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married 8 years been with him 15 years we have 2 children together. I have had enough and want out he just doesn't seem to understand and thinks that if he apologises again or gives me enough time all will be good. I am sick of his laziness, the way he talks to me, and that his mood is always down. I want to be happy in life and be around happy people. I am also finding it harder to not think about other people and what a relationship with them would be like. How do I get him to understand? We have tried counselling but that ended up very one sided

2007-10-05 20:10:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous 3 in Marriage & Divorce

To quote my favorite author Orsen Scott Card...

"Doesn't love show it's face when it satifies the needs of a loved one, for that loved ones sake alone?"

Now, I know how I appreciate my wife, so this isn't an "I'm looking for ideas." kind of question. I'm just curious what other people do.

None of this "I clean, I wash dishes, I take out the garbage." crap. What is it you do for your spouse that's 'special', that you have nothing to gain from other than knowing you did it for them.

2007-10-05 20:10:12 · 7 answers · asked by 2012, Change it back!! 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I just don't care anymore. Not about my wife. She cheated on me with my worst, most hated enemy. Well, not my enemy, but just someone I found most repulsive. More-so than any other person I've ever met, except myself.

The point is, my wife cheated on me with me. And since I don't like myself at all, it made me sick when she had sex with someone who reminds me of myself. It makes me sick, and it was 10 years ago. Of course I didn't know about it for about five years or I would have never come home....we were apart at the time because I left her. It was my fault in a manner of speaking.

I think the basic question I seek the answer to is "How do I care about myself?" I have come to the realization that if you cannot love yourself you cannot truly love anyone else. And that is a real problem for me, because there are people in my life (kids) that deserve better than I am giving them.

And no, I am not bad to them, but I could be a heck of a lot better if I didn't hate myself so.

2007-10-05 20:09:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-05 20:05:32 · 19 answers · asked by montrealgirl108 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-05 20:02:11 · 3 answers · asked by jat 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok all I want to do is pick up a friend that is 15 mins away. But no I can't, because my mom is afraid that I'll get into an accident and my friend will soon later sue me. That is if I don't kill her in the accident. And I'm not one of those bratty irresponsible teenagers either. I'm 19. And I take driving very seriously. But I respect that its my mom's car and all. And she does trust me but she doesn't think I have good judgment. I've been driving for 9 months, and I need some independence! Is it that my mom is just making it harder for me to see my friend, because she discriminates against gays? Or is it because she's afraid that her insurance will go up. But the risk of getting into an accident is the same if I drive to school or a friends house...so I don't know. But I'm exhausted to the point I can't argue anymore. What can I do?

2007-10-05 20:00:57 · 9 answers · asked by Kate 2 in Friends

2007-10-05 19:57:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

need to forget the painful past and try to live again

2007-10-05 19:55:03 · 11 answers · asked by lonelygirl 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a bridesmaid in 3 weeks. Custom is that you give money equivalent to what the reception may have cost per head..... being a bridesmaid make it so I give more than that, or less? any help???

2007-10-05 19:48:30 · 15 answers · asked by **leigh** 3 in Weddings

One of my closest friends wanted to go for a hike this weekend but had no specific ideas where. She asked me where I wanted to go, so I threw out 4 or 5 ideas, but she got really upset and called me back saying she was cancelling because she had something else in mind and blamed me for wasting her time because she had to ask for time off from work and such, and she seemed insulted by my other hike location ideas. I feel like she's overreacting and I don't know why she'd get so upset.

2007-10-05 19:33:36 · 8 answers · asked by /\|][/| 4 in Friends

we've been dating 2 years, been married almost 6 months...
i dont feel appreciated??
i clean the whole house, come home from work its a mess
i make dinner, the time its eaten his is cold and im in bed
i always fall asleep without him
not as sweet anymore...
what can i do??
no rude comments please<3

2007-10-05 19:32:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-05 19:22:36 · 4 answers · asked by koalatcomics 7 in Singles & Dating

I'm 16 and want a serious relationship

Guy 1) Met a month ago and now were "trying things out" (my choice) but pretty much together. Haven't been on a date w/ but shared 1st kiss with. Very funny but pretty perverted which isn't my thing. Says wants serious relationship but flirts ALL the time w/ other girls. May be too physical. Is 15. Mutual friend pushed us together. Don't know if he's ready to truley commit. Is very Cute

Guy 2) Known for 5 years. Very smart but always has to be right. Have amazing chemistry. Very mysterious which can be very annoying since it's hard to get him 2 talk about his life. Gets angry REALLY easily. Jealous. Also a flirt. Age 18. Also may be too physical. Is very sexy. Only started fighting for me when he found out I was taken. I've always had a thing for. May not be ready for serious relationship.

2007-10-05 19:13:09 · 10 answers · asked by Pix 2 in Singles & Dating

he's so selfish. last year he forgot the anniversary of our first kiss...ok, i kinda let that go. this year he forgot the anniversary of our first date! i'm starting to lose hope here...when i threw a fit and reminded him, he went out and bought me some gaudy gold necklace. if he was paying more attention to me, he would have know i wanted another diamond for my charm bracelett. just by me remembering all these special dates, it show's how much i value and treasure our relationship. i don't know what to do. should i prepare for a divorce??

2007-10-05 18:58:55 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend always uses my money for lunch. She says she will pay me back or pay for our lunch the next day but she always says she "forgets". I dont know if i should believe her. She barely ever hangs out near me anymore. Only at lunch. During PE or at our break time she leaves me for another friend. But if that friend is busy or something then she comes back to me. She always asks me for the answers on homework, she always asks me for rides, lunch money, or money for when we go to the mall. When we go to the mall, i buy her ticket for the movies, or i buy her what she wants, but she never pays me back! She knows i dont have a lot of money, but she asks for some anyways! I think she's using me. But she's my best friend, she said she'd never do that. But is she using me?

2007-10-05 18:42:17 · 25 answers · asked by Hil 2 in Friends

my girlfriend is so weird.. i want to go to my friends house to play xbox and drink a few beers which i dont do often and she tells me i dont want u to go i wanna talk to u on the phone.. cmon thats why she doesnt want to let me go? i told her no im going and shes like no ur not i wanna talk to u on the phone .. whos wrong?

2007-10-05 18:29:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Do you believe that there is someone who was made for you...who is the other half of you?

2007-10-05 18:29:05 · 1 answers · asked by susieozbornehiphop 2 in Singles & Dating

About 6 years ago I hang around with a group of friends and I notice they always talk smack about this one chick behind her back and then they were cool with her when she was around. I just thougth that was messed up so one day we all went to the mall in different cars & I end up going in her car and had alot of time to talk without the rest of the girls. I just end up telling her how much crap they talk about her behind her back. She took it well and was'nt surprice at all about what was happening after that we never talk to them again. After being her friend for about 6 years I notice that all the **** they said about her was so true. She's a selfish lier . Little stuff she done in the past made me realize she's a two face . I wish I would of kept my mouth shut in the beggining . I been patient with her but NOW IM ABOUT TO EXPLODE what should I do.

2007-10-05 18:27:47 · 13 answers · asked by Nonya 2 in Friends

im 18
hes 21
i went to a party
the point is that we were all really drunk
me and one of my guy friends were lying down on the grass
and he started touching me everywhere
i dont remember that much cuz i was so drunk
but i know that we didnt do more than that

now i have to see him at school
i dont know how to act
i dont have a bf he doesnt have a gf
but i meen were just friends and i never though we were gonna do that
i dont like him he doesnt like me he tells me he likes another girl and i like onother boy
so i just want to know an opinion
was i wrong in letting him touch me

when i see him at school
when were talking or something he all of a sudden smiles or laughs a little and i know that hes laughing cuz hes remembering

so do yall think this is going to change our friendship??

thanks

2007-10-05 18:25:53 · 7 answers · asked by MoNiCa 2 in Friends

My life was normal untill my mom lived out of home , she works 24 hours in nursing home and come back home weekends only. Im living just like in hell right now. My father does not appreciate me for being me and scold with slightliest mistakes I did. He even said Im useless daughter and does not make any good to his family. I feel depressed and crying out every night, but I dont want my mom to be worried. What should I do? I have been thinking of running away from home, but were should I go? I dont want ended up sleeping in the streets like homeless.. I need some advice.. Please

2007-10-05 18:18:32 · 5 answers · asked by Naomi-K 1 in Family

My fiancee wants a beautiful expensive wedding dress. My first 3 wives refuse to make it. Should I buy it or should I insist they make it.

2007-10-05 18:16:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

After a long four years keeping to email/text my ex. He finally came back to me, but the reason was his current GF asked him to leave after she found out my emails. I know I should move on, but I can not help but to contact my ex. Last year, he came back to me one time, then, he left again. Should I take him back?

2007-10-05 18:13:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I hate white shoes. I love red shoes. Scale of one to ten, how weird would red shoes look?

2007-10-05 18:07:46 · 35 answers · asked by July 4 in Weddings

Guys, If you dated a girl who was never kissed before, and she was kind of a late bloomer and shy (and you weren't), how would you react? Would you be sympathetic? critical? happy? etc...

2007-10-05 18:05:41 · 24 answers · asked by Kelly 4 in Singles & Dating

Met this person after she had been rejected from a group of her friends for apparently no reason. Felt sorry for her - started inviting her out with my friends. She seemed level headed, confident and friendly (bit annoying sometimes, but not too bad). Recently had a uni rotation with her where she started hanging out with me all day (even though she was supposed to be working with another group of ppl). At first didnt mind - she seemed lonely, but then it escalated to the point she seemed to be making up white lies and changing her story so that we could be together all the time. She would even use subtle manipulation to further our 'togetherness'. She keeps on inviting herself to things i do with my friends and ringing my house.

Told me about her time in high school where she was rejected and taunted, & almost would have self harmed. I get increasingly annoyed by her presence (to the point i cant enjoy myself), but dont want her to hurt herself. Also still feel sorry for her....

2007-10-05 18:04:16 · 5 answers · asked by daine 2 in Friends

I don't know what to do!!! I'm a good virgin girl (18) but omg I need to see him so bad! i want him to put his hands all over me. i love the feeling of him on top of me kissing my my belly and my thighs and my neck...! what is wrong with me!? I don't want to lose my virginity! and he's not talking to me for who knows what! I haven't seen him for a week! will this feeling go away? cuz its frustrating!

2007-10-05 17:58:03 · 13 answers · asked by Computer Love! 1 in Singles & Dating

Been married for 3 years, husband has cheated on me via online. He keeps saying he wants out, but at the same time he tries to work things out with me.(not so much ) because he hasn't said 'i love you' in months. Plus he doesn't hug, kiss or touch me in anyway unless he feels he needs 'some lovin' for the night.

I love him, but I feel like we are more like roomates than anything else. I have been to myself, hardly talk to him for the same reason.

is this worth trying to work out? help.. thank you.

2007-10-05 17:53:33 · 13 answers · asked by aeiou 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend and I want to marry so bad, even though we both have no money. We don't care if won't have an apt or will be starving to death, we want to marry now. She will loose all her health care insurance if we marry because my work doesn't give me health insurance at all.

I make about $7/hour without benefits and she lives off of Social Security Disability. We fiqure we will find a way somehow and don't care we just want to marry and be married for the rest of our lives.

Anyone ever been in a similar situation?

2007-10-05 17:52:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

But you love your husband. Do you think it can work?

2007-10-05 17:52:00 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 in Marriage & Divorce