Is my Best Friend Using Me?

Question

My best friend always uses my money for lunch. She says she will pay me back or pay for our lunch the next day but she always says she "forgets". I dont know if i should believe her. She barely ever hangs out near me anymore. Only at lunch. During PE or at our break time she leaves me for another friend. But if that friend is busy or something then she comes back to me. She always asks me for the answers on homework, she always asks me for rides, lunch money, or money for when we go to the mall. When we go to the mall, i buy her ticket for the movies, or i buy her what she wants, but she never pays me back! She knows i dont have a lot of money, but she asks for some anyways! I think she's using me. But she's my best friend, she said she'd never do that. But is she using me?

I cant just leave her. Even when i dont have money she makes me follow her while she begs for money. Well, i've known her for 5 years, we've been best friends for 2 years. I cant just leave her. I know she's probably using me, but i think i just need to talk to her.. when she's alone... which is like never. But i'll try

Answer 1

Honestly...I think she is..to her u r just a back up ( a person to lean back on when no one else is around or to get money from cause she knows you'll give it to her

next time she asks for money say u don't want to give her anymore because she owes u too much...cause now things r expensive......When she wants to hang out question her to see y she isn't hanging out with her other friends...

when u ask her if she is using you she will say no because she doesn't want to lose the money she gets or the person to hang out with when no one else can....

yeah it is jumping to conclusions but try it for a week and you'll know if she is just using you or if she is a real best friend

Answer 2

Shes like my now EX best friend. She would only use me when she wanted advice, but her friend that hates me for something petty that happened years ago doesnt want her hanging with me so she wanted to "hide" our friendship. I had to drive everywhere give advice non stop hear her ***** about her loser bf and then the moment (the rare moment) that i did need her she wasnt there. it was then that i knew exactly what kind of person she was. a worthless ***** who only cares about herself and her needs and doesnt have the capability to be a friend. so i dropped her. and i knew this girl for almost 8 years. so yes u can leave her....if ur just gonna get used whats the point in staying? u will only end up with no money at all and nothing to show or gain for it and a "best friend" who will leave once everything u have that she wants is gone. trust me, u can leave her. she has no problem leaving u...so do the same thing and leave her. a real true best friend doesnt use u like that.

Answer 3

If You have to ask the answer is probably Yes

Sounds like you are a meal ticket my dear. I'd tell her that your money is dedicated to a college fund right now or your giving it to Granny for the vase you broke. If she's still around after 6 weeks of no money then maybe she was your friend after all.

Don't forget not all friendships are even sided. Some friends are worth keeping even if they are bums so balance the issues and do whats right for you.

One more caveat, it's always good to separate yourself from negative people

Do the right thing...don't be a tool.

Answer 4

maybe she just isn't thinking - but there's some responsibility on your part to let her know this isn't ok. like when you go to the movies again tell her BEFORE you go that you want her to pay this time. if she says she can't then tell her you can't go with her then. also at lunch time just say you just have enough $ for your own lunch... and see what happens. if she dumps you - it's better to know that now then to keep thinking she's a friend.

Answer 5

look,when she forgets to give your money back then just force her to give it....
and suppose she doesn't than don't give her anything....
tell her that unless u give the money back u will not do anything for her....
but if u really think she is using you then i think u should end this friendship......
i know this will be difficult for u cause i also have suffered the same...
and if she leaves u for another friend then u also do the same with her....
but first ask her why she is doing like this and tell her not to do that again...
but if she ignores that then i think you should break the friendship.....
ok,see ya byeeeee and best of luck.....
tell me howw is it going.....ok...

Answer 6

i can bet your bottom dollar she's using you. to prove it tell her no a couple of times and you'll see. try it say oh i forgot my money.you'll see she only needs you for your money and when she has no one else to hang out with. sorry so harsh about this but yuo need to see what is happening. she doesnt care like you think she does or hope she does.find a new friend.

Answer 7

Tomorrow bring some energy bars to snack on between classes and when you go to lunch say you have no money? If she coughs up for it then you will know.

Answer 8

$10 says i can spell her name.
L
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she see's u as a money tree or ATM.
Let out thye banker in u and start charging interest for the time it takes her 2 pay u bak.
IF she wont, then tell her to take a hike and consult the police cuz that IS theft.

Answer 9

There may be some underlying problem for this behavior. Talk to her and find out what's really going on. If she doesn't give you a satisfying answer then yes, she is most likely using you.

Answer 10

She is using you and she is not your best friends.

Do not let her have free ride.

Where do you get the money?

You wrote "She knows i dont have a lot of money, but she asks for some anyways!"