Family & Relationships - 5 October 2007

I am 21 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 43. The age gap has never been a problem before but we have recently found out that he is very ill and because of this illness we can no longer have sex. I didn't think it would bother me but i can't stop thinking about having a baby, which is out the question as we don't have sex anymore and he already has three children and doesn't want anymore. I really do love him but don't know what to do?

Do I stay with him and forget about having a baby?

or

Do I leave him and find someone who wants the same things as me, i.e. children?

2007-10-05 21:35:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

me and m bf are going to have a break from tomorrow night. i move to motel from tomorrow night and look for a new place to live.. the reason for this is i lied to him about my nationality and job for 10 months, and we had quite nice relatioship that equal and fun, but as i am stil a student, his parents think that i am using him fro money and confort which manipulating him as they cal all the time checking out..i am sad and hurt as i thought he would have loved me as who i am but does he really love me still? by moving out, i still have key to his place for a while and he told me that we still exclusive until he makes final decision..i asked if i shoud prepare to move on and he told me that he cant answer me anything that is relating to whether the relationship is over or not as he doesnt know...i really love him but i feel myself in the passve situation as i told lies..what's happened to his heart, what does he have to decide...? what should i do?

2007-10-05 21:34:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he had planned a vacation with me but in stead he took her that was at the time he suposidly stoped things with them but they still text and hang out with each other because she made a point to make friends with his buddies and thats how they find each other when he goes to the bar

2007-10-05 21:33:15 · 7 answers · asked by benzo1524 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I did just that when I had an affair on my husband of 22 years, with an old high school boyfriend who I would marry after my husband divorced me!

In short he got everything I got nothing anyone telling you that California is not by-EST against cheaters lied to you because I only got restrictive visitation rights of my then 13 year old son, who would not even see me!

I don't Blame him because he was the one who caught me in the act and told his father!

over 10 years later my son still refuses to speak to me and calls me horrible names, that I guess I earned.
One more thing anyone who tells you CHEATERS can change LIED to you because I was not even married for 2 years when my 2nd EX. started to cheat on me and then I divorce him!

I also must admit that in 2 serious relationships I cheated on both men sad huh?

I lost everything and now at 58 I live at my mothers home because I can't afford an apartment because my credit rating is in toilet god what a life to live!

2007-10-05 21:31:23 · 9 answers · asked by The Lady 1 in Marriage & Divorce

your boyfriend broke up with you the day before you went on vacation to a cruise? if you had been together over two years, and had given him your virginity and planned on marrying him?? and he told you he did this bc he wanted a job that you didnt want to be apart of his life if he took it. (recording engineer)

( i did this bc she wont let me pursue the career i want and stay with her.. i feel i had to do whats best for me, but i still feel like an asshole =[ )

** she said to me after it " thanks for chosing a job over me... you just ruined my enitre life i hope your happy now. i thought we were in love; i was sadley mistaken" ** This broke my heart.. but i didnt want give up my dreams im only 18... i feel like $hit.

So girls, what would this make you feel like.. its okay if you say im a jerk i already feel like it just be honest.. =[

2007-10-05 21:29:07 · 12 answers · asked by Sebastian 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-05 21:27:57 · 12 answers · asked by love 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend for 8 years has been spending a lot of time with my girlfriend, we've been going out for a month and now it is starting to seem like she enjoys spending more time with him than with me, I can trust my friend so i know she's not cheating on me, but i just want to be able to spend more time with her and want her to want to spend more time with me, when i do get to hang out with her she always suggests bringing Alex (my friend) along. it's at a point where I'm getting really annoyed about the whole situation and i want to talk to them about it. how could i approach the conversation, and what can i say to have them understand what I'm feeling.

2007-10-05 21:18:51 · 10 answers · asked by Sunglasses 2 in Singles & Dating

a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with same person........

2007-10-05 21:18:03 · 19 answers · asked by The Sexytary 3 in Marriage & Divorce

we have been going out for 10 months and my boyfriend wants oral? is it bad if i give it to him?

2007-10-05 21:15:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Singles & Dating

My spouse and I have been together for 10 yrs now. The relationship has been very rocky. We have major trust issues because he's repeatedly lied to me in the past about things like porn. He was hiding porn from me. It wasn't that I was against porn, per se, but I was agaisnt it because he was using it to completely replace our sex life and it had obviously become a problem for him. Caught him hiding it 3 times, after he swore he respected my feelings and wouldn't have it. He lied. Then he has a one night stand. I tried to forgive him but can't. He lied about what really happened only for me to find out the whole truth when I was pregnant with our son. Now I have no trust for him and no respect. I feel trapped. He supports me while I'm home with our son and I go to college. I want to leave but have no $. He is unwilling even to read a book about relationships to help the situation. He says supporting me is enough. Our son is 2. We fight all the time. I don't think it's healthy. Advice?

2007-10-05 21:08:22 · 18 answers · asked by Haulie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-05 21:08:11 · 15 answers · asked by patricia 1 in Weddings

I'm asking about marriages where both parties have agreed not to have children.

I understand this is a sensitive issue with some people being infertile or losing a child ia miscarriage or other things.

BUT- I have some friends who decided to remain childless for one reason or another. Their marriages are especially vibrant- it's like they're always dating and quite a contrast between their happiness individually and as a couple
to friends with children.

What are your thoughts on this?
Would your marriage be different without children? Better, worse, same, different?

2007-10-05 21:03:09 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I resently wrote about how my marriage was having problems. Now my husband has left. I really feel that he suffers from depression. But I also found out he has been seeing some one else . I am angry and misrable all at the same time. I am still in love with him . But I guess it really is over. does anyone have good advice . I still love him . He And I have made many mistakes in our twelve year marriage in handling things. But he won't even talk to me . and tell me why. When we took our vows I truly believed our marriage would ast forever. And for the most part for the first elven years things were very good. Some ups and downs but mostly good then all of a sudden he starts not showering regularly. sleeping more than normal . being a couch potatoe. than all of a sudden coming home late everynight. the sleeping on the couch. I am not sure what to do if depression can cause someone to cheat. Or how to close up my feelings for him. I still really love him. How do I get over this?

2007-10-05 20:56:11 · 19 answers · asked by looking for ideas 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-05 20:54:47 · 11 answers · asked by ahmed r 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

when a guy had been broken hearted by their ex and they sudenly said they will appreciates any second chances coming by?arent they way to fast>...
p.s it seems ppl arent answering my question clearly the previous one

2007-10-05 20:54:27 · 3 answers · asked by ~electra~ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

my first marriage was a failure,

2007-10-05 20:53:02 · 13 answers · asked by lonelygirl 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Where is the best place to meet your future spouse in 2007?

2007-10-05 20:49:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-05 20:48:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband is my whole world and I love him unconditionally. And I tell him that every day. On several occasions, after I come home from work, there is evidence that he has been entertaining a female. I am very sexual and good looking. I have always been the initiator in the bedroom. We have been together for 13 years and he just bored with me. I have even been pursuing a threesome. But he keeps putting it off. I feel so betrayed because he won't include me and prefers deceitfulness over what could be a lot more fun to explore together. Whenever I try to talk to him about it he gets defensive and angry with me.

2007-10-05 20:46:46 · 4 answers · asked by d e 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-05 20:44:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

IS HE now my sister inlaw?
Hmmm .... guess she's my brother now.
this is strange

2007-10-05 20:43:24 · 14 answers · asked by Yvonne 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend got home late and said she would call me back if she wasn't in trouble and could talk more, she didn't call back but later i found out that she had talked on the phone with a friend that night instead of calling me.

2007-10-05 20:42:55 · 11 answers · asked by Mr. Apple 1 in Singles & Dating

I dont know why my bf is so moody during the week. he says hes always tired bcoz of work. we dont meet only on tuesdays and thursdays. yesterday he said that were meeting to much and he dsnt have free time for his friends, his video game, for his car etc (which its not true) bcoz we only meet up like 1 hr during the week. he said we can meet only on weekends. then when weekend comes his mood changes and all of a sudden he wants to be with me. i cannot understand him. sometimes i feel happy and sometimes i feel lost. i know im sounding childish but i love him so much!!!

2007-10-05 20:42:27 · 8 answers · asked by babyandme 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-05 20:41:14 · 3 answers · asked by ahmed r 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i don't want to seem petty but my husband never buys me birthday, christmas or mothers day gifts or even cards. he at least bought cards for his mom & step dad and bought his step dad a fathers day present but he didn't get me a mothers day card- and it was my first mothers day-that really hurt my feelings. I make a point to buy him a card and a little something if money allows. i don't want to seem petty but should i keep getting him cards and a little present if he doesn't ever remember me or should i consider it a sign he doesn't feel the same about those types of things and stop buying them for him?

2007-10-05 20:40:22 · 7 answers · asked by viper pilot 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I want to ask dat wen i will get maried and with whom?

2007-10-05 20:39:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was in a happy relationship for a couple of years until my partner started to get really stressed about every little thing. I know and he knows that he has a stress/anxiety problem yet he won't see a doctor about it. It is really impacting on my life now and making me unhappy.

We both want children. We have a lot of finacial problems that will make it very difficult for us to raise children. I just want a happy marige and to have a family of my own. I just don't see it happening despite both our efforts to improve our finacial situation and my partner's reluctance to see a doctor. Also,I don't have any qualifications beyond high school and my experience at work. I can't aford to go to tafe or uni.

I have a family but it is highly disfuncional and I cannot rely on them for any sort of support.

I am thinking that I should get pregnant then find work and a house in another state, go on social services money and study after having the baby, then go back to work.

2007-10-05 20:38:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I was in a happy relationship for a couple of years until my partner started to get really stressed about every little thing. I know and he knows that he has a stress/anxiety problem yet he won't see a doctor about it. It is really impacting on my life now and making me unhappy.

We both want children. We have a lot of finacial problems that will make it very difficult for us to raise children. I just want a happy marige and to have a family of my own. I just don't see it happening despite both our efforts to improve our finacial situation and my partner's reluctance to see a doctor. Also,I don't have any qualifications beyond high school and my experience at work. I can't aford to go to tafe or uni.

I have a family but it is highly disfuncional and I cannot rely on them for any sort of support.

I am thinking that I should get pregnant then find work and a house in another state, go on social services money and study after having the baby, then go back to work.

2007-10-05 20:37:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-05 20:22:40 · 4 answers · asked by jagarxjs 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my child's father with whom i just recently broke up with for being a spineless coward declared that he is not sure if the child i claim his is really his. The nerve, right? You see, he turned out to be committed with another girl and decided she's a better choice... I am working with my hurt feelings but when I started to demand support for my kid, he just simply said "are you sure she's mine?". Now, I wish he wasn't the father, for I feel the reason he's saying that is because he just wanted to be off the hook. I don't need him to recognize my child as his own, and perhaps, even if DNA testimg will be available to prove fraternity, I wouldnt do that just so he would ace\cept her but rather to prove him wrong and slap his face. But right now, they are just dreams...

2007-10-05 20:19:52 · 12 answers · asked by eluded one 2 in Marriage & Divorce