Girls would you be crushed if..?

Question

your boyfriend broke up with you the day before you went on vacation to a cruise? if you had been together over two years, and had given him your virginity and planned on marrying him?? and he told you he did this bc he wanted a job that you didnt want to be apart of his life if he took it. (recording engineer)

( i did this bc she wont let me pursue the career i want and stay with her.. i feel i had to do whats best for me, but i still feel like an asshole =[ )

** she said to me after it " thanks for chosing a job over me... you just ruined my enitre life i hope your happy now. i thought we were in love; i was sadley mistaken" ** This broke my heart.. but i didnt want give up my dreams im only 18... i feel like $hit.

So girls, what would this make you feel like.. its okay if you say im a jerk i already feel like it just be honest.. =[

Answer 1

Dear Landon,

You don't have anything to feel ashamed or guilty about. You did what you felt and knew would be in the best interest for the future as you see yourself today. Nobody can predict the future. We all know that there are no guarantees in this life. I think you were wise in making the decision you did. This is what you chose to be your livelihood. No one should stand in your way in what you believe is the right thing to do for you.
A good mate would support your decision. I think the other partner was just to immature and selfish to see this. That's to bad for them, not you.
I hope you make a great place for yourself. You will get over the anguish from the hurt this may have caused you. But I am certain it will be considered a blessing in disguise in the long run. Mark my words.
Live your life as you see fit. Don't listen to anyone else. If they can't support you in your dreams and ideas. Then the only purpose they would serve by keeping them in your life, would be to bring you down and cause you to have self doubt.
Please don't let this happen.

Goood luck Dear,

Sincerely,

Marseille Chaine Langres

Answer 2

i know you feel badly, but you are still so very young to be making a decision of choosing a relationship over a job that you will doo the rest of your life, or one that you will be happy doing.

your timing was lousy, and yes she is probably very hurt, BUT she should have never issued an ultimatium or blamed you for wrecking the rest of her life.

she is responsible for her own actions and her own happiness just as you are. this is a guilt trip and sound like you have booked a first class ticket.

nest time tho, and there probably will be a next time with someone else, choose your timing better. you did spoil a great vacation by not coming forward sooner with this, and i feel sure that if you are honest with yourself that you felt this way for a while, right?

she'll grow up just as you will, but geez, cut yourself a ittle slack here. if you dont, you will end up being conttolled by everyone in your life and never really getting to live your own life by your choices.

good luck and be honest with your girlfriends right from the start

Answer 3

It's pretty messed up to just dump someone after that long the day before a trip. Why didn't you tell her sooner? I think that was pretty cowardly of you to wait until the last minute. The least you could've done was communicated with her.

On the other hand I think she's being extremely intolerant in not letting you be your own person by choosing your own career. I don't think she knows what love is, so it was a good choice to break up. It just could've been done more smoothly.

Answer 4

She sounds like a clinger, you do what you want - it's your life and future that is most important. If you had stayed with her you would only have ended up bitter, disappointed and would hate and blame her. You are young and there are many hard choices in life. You have done the right thing. Break ups are awful, you feel guilty but naturally it will pass.
Enjoy your new career - and have fun.
(pulling the virginity card is so medieval)

Answer 5

I can understand why your girlfriend would be crushed (being broken up with anyone can be terrible) ... but surely if she really loved you she'd support your career

(is there a reason unknown to me why a recording artist is such a bad job?)

you've made the right decision, if this is a job you want, go for it... you will meet someone else that will stand by and support you

Answer 6

well at 18 this is a lot to take........but now u have to think bout ur future and forget ur past bcoz ur past will only depress u......ur x is not bothered bout u..so should u not bother bout ur x.........forget ur past relationship and move forward bcoz u were hihgly mistaken .the best thing u cn do is to learn 4rm ur mistake at this pt of time

Answer 7

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Answer 8

i would be totally and utterly crushed. i mean, i can see why you did it if you were 18. but as the girl i'd feel totally betrayed, hurt, annoyed, confused, upset.

Answer 9

why did she not want you to have the job?

if she's so selfish to say that you have to pick between her or work, then good riddance.

you didn't do anything wrong.

Answer 10

awww.. :/
thats so sad.. then tell her if you really loved ME.. then you would support my job. try it and if it doesnt work then im srry. your not a jerk. dont worry.. :/ :]