Ok all I want to do is pick up a friend that is 15 mins away. But no I can't, because my mom is afraid that I'll get into an accident and my friend will soon later sue me. That is if I don't kill her in the accident. And I'm not one of those bratty irresponsible teenagers either. I'm 19. And I take driving very seriously. But I respect that its my mom's car and all. And she does trust me but she doesn't think I have good judgment. I've been driving for 9 months, and I need some independence! Is it that my mom is just making it harder for me to see my friend, because she discriminates against gays? Or is it because she's afraid that her insurance will go up. But the risk of getting into an accident is the same if I drive to school or a friends house...so I don't know. But I'm exhausted to the point I can't argue anymore. What can I do?
2007-10-05 20:00:57 · 9 answers · asked by Kate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi!
You may get frustrated with your parents, but they do mean the best for you! With that being said, you are 19 and legally you are free to make your own decisions now! I think you have to respect your parents because you are still living under they're roof still, right? But.. I would ask your parents to trust you more then they do! I am a parent of a 13 year old and I know that I will be making decisions down the road, just like your parents have to make, and it will be hard letting go of the reins. But, hopefully I will be able to little by little.. I think sometimes as parents, we want to keep a children our little girl or boy longer then we really should!
Good luck to you and your parents!
2007-10-06 10:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are in America as you write about driving to school. In the UK there is an Advanced Driving Association, if there is something similar locally you could take an advanced course which would make you a much more aware driver but I am not sure that your driving skills are the real issue here. You ask yourself if your Mom discriminates against gays - you really need to ask her that question quietly and rationally - you could print out what you have written as it quite clearly states your case, let your Mom read it perhaps with some of the more rational opinions of "answerers" and let her tell you the real reasons for her fears and worries - almost certainly she will be trying to protect you.
2007-10-05 20:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by stef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work part time and get your own car and insurance? You know the golden rule right? She with the gold makes the rules! You should be on your mom's insurance anyway... unless you are talking about premiums after an accident.
I think you answered your own questions. Does your mom dislike your friend because (s)he is gay? I imagine if you've only been driving for a few months your mom doesn't want to start letting go. It's hard.
2007-10-05 20:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your mother as unreasonable about other aspects of your life as she is about this? If so, she may actually buy into her own argument. If not, she's a homophobe.
I'm a straight male and have never doubted that, but I had a friend in high school and he is gay. When I told my mom about his sexuality, she thought for a second, then asked, "Isn't he afraid of getting AIDS?" I laughed for about two or three minutes while reminding her that AIDS isn't a gay seeking missile. My mom really liked my friend and she knew I wasn't gay or bisexual, but that was her first honest thought.
As for your mom, I don't know. Remind her that homosexuality isn't contagious and, if you are straight, calmly reassure her of that fact. I know it sounds silly, but she may actually think you'll want to start listening to the Indigo Girls and spike your hair just because you have a friend of a different persuasion.
2007-10-05 20:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sephiroth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rember 19 very well. I'm 33 now and my mother STILL won't let me use her car unless I were in need of driving to HER to the hospital due to her being on fire at the time. You probably won't change your mom's mind. Best bet is to get your own car. My mom got me one when I finally agreed to enroll in college at 19. The only reason she did that was because she couldn't drive me, herself. Good luck!
2007-10-05 20:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont no why your mum wont let you pick up your friend if you are a safe driver. maybe you are right, she mite not like your friend or she may be protective of you because you are her child, and she doesn't want anything bad to happen to her. i suggest you sit her down and have a chat to her about why she wont let you go. if that doesn't help, or she doesn't ease up on you then i suggest you buy your own car.
2007-10-05 20:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u or your friend are gay then yes i would say that is the answer, rightly so too
2007-10-05 20:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
poor lass, what a pitty. hope and can only wish you that your mom will learn to understand and to have more confidence in you.
2007-10-05 20:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by George D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like she's using the driving thing as an excuse for the gay thing.
I'm sorry.
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2007-10-05 20:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by cait <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋