One of my closest friends wanted to go for a hike this weekend but had no specific ideas where. She asked me where I wanted to go, so I threw out 4 or 5 ideas, but she got really upset and called me back saying she was cancelling because she had something else in mind and blamed me for wasting her time because she had to ask for time off from work and such, and she seemed insulted by my other hike location ideas. I feel like she's overreacting and I don't know why she'd get so upset.
2007-10-05 19:33:36 · 8 answers · asked by /\|][/| 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hello June,
You may feel you are her closest friend but does she feel the same way about you?
From what you say your friend asked you for suggestions because she could not decide where to go. If this is the case there was no need for her to get upset with you and she had no right to blame you for wasting her time.
If she had a certain location in mind, why did she not suggest that first and see what you thought of her idea, rather than asking you for suggestions and then getting uptight because you did not suggest it yourself.
I think I would diplomatically ask her why she is trying to take it out on you when it was her who asked you for suggestions.
Did she take time of work to get your advice or in order to go hiking? If the latter, no matter where you both went, she would have had to ask for time off, so you can't be blamed for that either.
Sorry but I feel that not only is she overreacting, she is acting rather childishly too.
Poseidon.
2007-10-05 19:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Poseidon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably upset about something your missing. I think she might have wanted to do something else and it sounds from what your describing that she got the impression you werent into what she thought was gonna happen. You probably sounded nonchalant to her so she probably misinterpreted what you had in mind as in you really didnt want to do what she wanted to do. Sounds confusing but its a miscommunication. You really should call her and just apologize and ask where the misunderstanding was and really all she wants is to be understood. So even if you dont see it her way just let her know you are sorry.
2007-10-06 02:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Bedhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she asked you where you wanted to go and you told her some places. and she just gets mad? maybe she didnt like your ideas, or she thought that you would let her choose where. talk to her and work things out. but i do think she's overreacting. tell her you can go somewhere together another day, let her pick where. try to find some way to make her feel better. maybe she just needs someone right now, she's probably just stressed from work or somthing.
2007-10-06 02:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Hil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones...nervous energy...a distracted young mind...seek other hiking companions...none of this is your doing. Sounds like you made a genuine effort..Let it go...you have nothing to explain or make up for..
2007-10-06 02:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Recital Vinyliste 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she took it the wrong way liek you were calling her ideas stupid. maybe she's has a lot on her mind and she was looking for sumwhere to go and you were kinda hesistant liek you didn't want to go with her because you threw out 5 or so ideas
2007-10-06 02:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she already knew where she wanted to go..maybe you could just tell her it is up to her where the two of you go
2007-10-06 02:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by chandler1224 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-06 02:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by monica p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont know
2007-10-06 02:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by xxxrub3nxxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋