Family & Relationships - 30 September 2007

I fell for my coworker and told my friend that this guy had been friendly, asked me to lunch on multiple occasions, made me laugh and feel relaxed in his presence, and that he even mentioned marriage (in general) during our lunch get-togethers. Anyway, I was telling my friend on my lunch break that he was interested in me seriously -- and the guy heard everything -- he was right behind me, and gave me a huge, knowing smile, and walked away. I am totally ashamed and feel like a dumb fool for having been played by a guy who ultimately turned out to be a jerk!

Now, he still tries to be cordial with me, but now that he knows he could have "had" me, he acts repulsed if I approach him, ask him for something, or when we're exchanging something like a pen, and happen to have our fingers or hands touch -- he gives a slight grimace

Can you imagine this guy? Guys, ladies, how do I cope with this? He told me I was attractive in the past, but I don't believe it at all by the way he now acts. Help

2007-09-30 14:29:52 · 1 answers · asked by advice 1 in Singles & Dating

im talking a, wont speak unless spoken to, kinda girl. like not just a little shy .. A LOT shy

2007-09-30 14:29:02 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm on my way
to where you are
Can't wait to hold
you in my arms
I've missed you so
though do not know
Who you really,
truly are

I don't care!
I've got to have you!
Even if only
in my dreams
Just know my heart
is with you
{Among my many
other things...}

Whoo hoo, you guys are really awsome, I hope you know that?

All the Very Best, Shad @)~>~

2007-09-30 14:28:52 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

should I stop?

2007-09-30 14:28:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-30 14:24:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now. He reallys want me to have a child but I feel that I am not financially ready for a child. I just started college and he is in the process of getting a GED. Everytime he brings it up and I tell him that I am not ready for a child he is always saying that I do not care about his feelings. I really love him but have a child is only going to slow me down because I have to go to school in the mornings and I have to be up all night not him. What should I do to show and tell him that I love him, am just not ready to have a child right now?

2007-09-30 14:23:31 · 6 answers · asked by lisababy 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-30 14:22:14 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

they are very touchie feelie now

2007-09-30 14:19:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i dont mind if my boyfriend talks to other women but theres girls at his work that he is ALWAYS texting i found texts that would say REALLY flirty things like them going out to luch and considering them dates and hes talked about doing sexual things to her.. and i dont think my boyfriend would ever cheat on me and ive confronted him about it and he says it doesnt mean anything they are just playing around , ect.. but i dont know what to do and i would like it to stop but every time i confront him about it he gets mad.. what should i do??

2007-09-30 14:18:40 · 4 answers · asked by gina w 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 20years old and married we do not have a house of are own yet but we are trying. We work SO HARD to get what we have and I am so happy for it. But my husbands brother and so to be wife get handed everthing he has no job, she has one paying 7.50 an hour but they always have money to much money and they are not they saving up money type of people oh yea and she is pregnent. They just moved into there brand new house. Please tell me how me and my husband work are butts off and have nothing to show for it but he does not work she works so little and they have a house to show for. All i want to know is why am i so mad is it because I don't have a house or because they are not married and having a baby or both please help.

2007-09-30 14:18:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-30 14:17:37 · 8 answers · asked by police_usa_911 1 in Singles & Dating

I like 1 of my friends, & we've been friends 4 almost 6 yrs now so we're pretty close. & a few days ago I asked him on im if I could kiss him, & he said yes, & about a half hour later I asked him if he was sure & he said no, not 2 kiss him ne more cuz I've had my chances. & I told him I didn't want 2 just go up & kiss him cuz idk how he was going 2 react 2 it.idk if he would b happy, or mad, & I didn't want 2 risk my friendship 4 that. and now he says I can't kiss him, but I really love him, & all of my friends say i should just do it. so wut should I do?

2007-09-30 14:17:10 · 6 answers · asked by 25BlueDogs 1 in Friends

Should I confront her? Or limit the info. Please explain briefly. Thank you...details below...

This girl I go to school with always copies my ideas, my behaviours and a lot of other things.

I honestly don't know if this relationship can be salvaged. Now that I mentionned something to her before about her behaviours she just got even SNEAKIER about it. She always watches tv and copies the people on there too. I am not so much into the tv so I feel like she is stealing the things I learned from my family. I feel like she is an intruder.

She is always asking me my next step before I take it. Once I said my plans and then changed them after (for personal reasons) and she yelled at me. This is my life, why is she yelling at me?

2007-09-30 14:14:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-09-30 14:14:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im not asking for much...i just wish she knew how to cook...see...we invited some people over and i made a big mistake and let her cook...i shoulda known but i was busy...so anyways...tell me how she cooked some nasty sh!t that looked like vomit...it looked like vomit with peas...and then she said it was...wait for it...wait for it...she said it was supposed to be peach cobbler...i said i wasnt eating that nasty stuff cuz it ws disgusting and uncalled for...now she makin me eat it...and she cant do that...im thinking about throwing it away but then its gonna smell like vomit and peas so she gonna find out that i didnt eat it...so what should i do??

2007-09-30 14:13:57 · 11 answers · asked by NONAME 1 in Singles & Dating

my grandson lives with his mother and her boyfriend who is alone with him all day while she works since he was born I have taken care of him and after he was 2yrs old she took him and left to be with this man. he hates him he is abusive and punishes him severly for silly unimportant things he has had marks on him and Ihave picked him up with slap marks on him and bloody bottom from not being changed and when he is with me evey otherweekend he screams and cries because he does not want to go home, he begs me not to send him back and this has gone on now for over 2yrs. he is now 4yrs old and I fear for him I have reported this and had social services check it out and even had the carosel here in NC in on it and all they did was talk to him for 5min and said he was too small to tell if he was telling the truth. my grandson and I am not just bragging is very smart for his age he has been talking since he was 18months old he can do things that a seven yr old can do. My son is his father.

2007-09-30 14:12:04 · 13 answers · asked by betsymb2 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my and my x just started dating again and he's been asking me about a 3sum all last week but i guess i turned him off. it's definetly been a fantasy but i don't want to do it with the man i love maybe if i was a cheater it would be no problem but i told him i'm the prize and what i have is suppose to be for him only if i wanted another man or woman to touch me i would have done it those 2months we weren't 2gether i ask him was this somehting he was doing he said no he just wanted to try it with me i pick the guy and he the girl i said wouldn't it bother you to see me with another man he said no but i don't want him looking at me sideways later i want to but no, because i'm thinking about our future he said it's entertainment and married couples do it all the time should i try it once what would you do i love him he said he respect my answer that we're cool he won't ask again but i know he will oh yeah we've been 2gethter for 6yrs

2007-09-30 14:11:17 · 16 answers · asked by k2u 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a friend that does that, I want to help her. But she doesnt want to admitt her problem to me.
although its very much obvious because the guy says he doesnt love her back, just has compassion.

Why wont she let me help her?

2007-09-30 14:09:53 · 16 answers · asked by DJ 6 in Singles & Dating

This guy gave me his number and never told me he was married with six children. His wife called my phone and told me all the true information about this guy I just happen to call and text. He portrayed himself to be single when he wasnot. She called my phone 11 times yesterday and once today. They are in the middle of a divorce and trying to reconcile. She wanted to know if he was flirting and gave me his number. He lied and told her that I was asking everyone for his number and they gave it to me. When she called I act as if I was a friend of the person that called. Now she wants me to give the information to that person (which is me) to call her so that she would no whether to go on with the divorce or stay in the marriage.I personally dont want to be involved in that.After today, I was going to ignore the call and if continues go to the police and file harrassment charges for obscene phone calls, which is a misdemeanor.But, I really feel sorry for her and dont want to do that.

2007-09-30 14:08:23 · 21 answers · asked by Amenity 3 in Singles & Dating

My love and I called it quit two months ago. We have been in loved for three years. We have never have sex. I want to be a virgin bride. He said he will wait for me. We separted last year because I moved to other states. He convinced he will wait for us to be together.

Recently, I found out my love had sex with his friend---the girl looks a lot like me. She seems to like my boyfriend a lot, he claims he does not love her. He said, he loves me!

I was so heart broken. I just didn't know what to expect. Sometimes. I blame myself for not giving the love he need. Sometimes, I blame my boyfriend. Sometimes, I blame the girl.

What do you think of this situation. Thank you very much.

2007-09-30 14:07:30 · 25 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel so bad sometimes.

When I was five, she took me and my friend to the mall. Two teens started fighting, so she ran away to the parking lot leaving me and my friend standing there.

When I was in HS, she refused to come to my graduation because she said her poodle couldn't be left alone for more than 10 minutes at a time (ceremony was an hour and a half).

When I graduated from college, she again refused to come to my graduation because she said "No one wanted her there" (not true).

I'm not trying to throw a pity party, I just don't understand why she treats me like this and how she doesn't feel bad about it. She even tells my father, "Tell Linn her Grandma still thinks about her and loves her"

2007-09-30 14:07:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

that didn't deserve your love !!

2007-09-30 14:02:27 · 31 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Marriage & Divorce

i will be out from 11pm to 4am, i will leave the baby with a baby siter, my husband works all the time he is a business man, i am home alone with baby a lot, i want to go out but the same time i feel guilt because i dont want to be called irresponsible or be judge, is legal to do that?

2007-09-30 14:02:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for 4 months,I dated this wonderful man for four years before we were married. prior to this mariage we were freinds with another married couple that I meet through my husband who he has been friends with for 15+ years. About a month ago my kids and their kids started fussing, my kids can not go outside our yard but their kids stand in front of my house and taunt my kids. The mom came to my house and was screaming at me then her husband came to my house and jumped on me, my husband works third and was asleep both times. These "friends" have been calling my husband and telling him that I am calling them and causing trouble which i have not done. I also believe that the woman wants to sleep with my husband and I have told her husband about it and my husband to. She called me last week and told me that my husband was talking to a woman at work which I confronted him about and it turned out to be nothing like she said. I want to know how to fix this Please Help!!!!!!!!

2007-09-30 14:01:37 · 7 answers · asked by ctsgirl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i will be out from 11pm to 4am, i am will leave the baby with a baby siter, my husband works all the time he is a business man, i am home alone with baby a lot, i want to go out but the same time i feel guilt because i dont want to be called irresponsible or be judge, is legal to do that?

2007-09-30 14:00:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I mean I think that I would have learned my lesson, but I still find Mr. Wrong totally hot.
Is there a cure?

2007-09-30 13:59:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I am/was dating my ex-boyfriends best friend. He was there for me when my heart was broken, he constantly made sure I was ok, etc. I was reluctant to start a relationship with him because i felt it was too soon, i told him this but he wanted to. he treated me so well and honestly loved me. I care about him alot, the thought of losing him makes me very sad. Thing is the other night he came over and was really strange, he wouldnt stay when I asked him to which is something he has NEVER done. I was worried about him but he wanted to go have a drink with a friend. So, upset, I went to my favorite bar and got hammered. One of my good friends showed up and he knew I was upset, as did everyone. So I ended up holding his hand all night just because the thought of being hurt again the way my ex hurt me scared me shitless. My boyfriend showed up just as hammered as me, causing a scene. I barely got him back to my place, but my new neighbor was having a party, so of course we went in and had a

2007-09-30 13:59:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am a 22 year old woman who is college educated, has a great job for someone my age and am on a reglar bases told I am gorgeous and should be a model. I am sometimes even stopped in the street and told how beautiful I am.
However, I cannot for the life of me understand why I cannot keep a man interested in me for anything more than sex. I don't beleive there is anything off putting about my personality. Guys seem to have a good time with me on dates but never try to pursue anything further. I just don't understand this at all.

2007-09-30 13:59:27 · 15 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Singles & Dating

I think this guy likes me... he's been texting me everyday, asking me out all the time, and saying he wishes he was hanging out with me... he always texts me the next day and says he has a great time when we hang out.
Today on MSN he sent me a kissing face when we said goodbye and said he can't wait to see me again next weekend at the latest (we're both busy university students)
So, how do I know if he wants a relationship or just something casual? I'm really bad at reading guys. I have been out of the dating scene for a while after a long, serious relationship and I've just recently put myself back out there because I am ready. He has never even tried to do anything sexually so I respect him already. Any advice is appreciated! Thanks!

2007-09-30 13:59:20 · 2 answers · asked by Danielle M 1 in Singles & Dating

first of all im starting out by saying that this is actually my friend im talking about...

my friend just told me that her dad abuses her, and that tomorrow the school guidence conceler is moving her into a HAWC center tomorrow, what do i say to her? i feel awful about it and i wanna try to make her feel better.

2007-09-30 13:56:28 · 21 answers · asked by TB eventer! 4 in Friends