first of all im starting out by saying that this is actually my friend im talking about...
my friend just told me that her dad abuses her, and that tomorrow the school guidence conceler is moving her into a HAWC center tomorrow, what do i say to her? i feel awful about it and i wanna try to make her feel better.
2007-09-30 13:56:28 · 21 answers · asked by TB eventer! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just let her know that you are her friend and if she needs to talk tell her that you'll be there to listen. She obviously trust you a lot to have told you what's going on with her. Don't let her down, be there for her and let her know that things will be the same as far as you and her being friends. That will go a long way to comfort her through this ordeal.
2007-09-30 13:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by sustasue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. That you will always be there for her whenever she needs a shoulder to cry on. Let her know that you think that she is so strong and brave to stop what was happening to her, Unfortunately alot of kids do no have the courage to speak up and just put up with the abuse. They have to walk around with that shame and regret. She is on her way to a better life and you guys will get through this together!!
2007-09-30 14:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her feel better. That will have to come from within herself.
Ask her how you can stay in touch with her, when you can call and visit her. Plan to hang out with her. Write and send her cheery letters, funny jokes, and supporting thoughts. Sending mail via post is becoming a lost art, but receiving a hand written note or little card can be so uplifting and gives her something to hold on to. This will be especially helpful and appreciated during her transition period. Let your parents know what is happening to your friend, and ask them to help you stay in touch with her. Possibly they will sponsor her for visits on the weekend now and again. Good luck.
2007-09-30 14:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you will always be there for her day and night if she needs to talk and that it doesn't change the way you feel about her. Conclude by telling her if you don't hear from her you will call?/see? her to check in to see how she is feeling and ask if she needs to talk. Don't tell her what you would do, listen (although you could suggest otherwise, although if she tells you things that happened you should talk to a trusted adult. Above all emphasize with her and in conclusion do not tell anyone what she tells you--leave it to the authorities otherwise if you get involved directly it complicates matters for you and sets you up potently for a bad situation.
2007-09-30 14:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably not a lot you can say to her. She's probably going through a lot of emotions. Tell her that you're her friend not matter what and that you'll always be there for her. Tell her that she can always trust and confide in you because that's what friends are for. Try starting a pen pal letter. I know that's hard with email and internet but hand written letters are a great way for one to express themselves even if she is still close in proximity to you.
I will say a prayer for both you and your friend. Many blessings to you both.
2007-09-30 14:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, unless YOU have personally been thru a similar situation, i dont think there really is anything that you can say. i think just physically being there and just letting her know you are on her side is enough. she may not even want to talk about it, so maybe it is best not to bring it up unless she does. it's a very sensitive subject. so maybe just trying to act as normal as possible may be the best thing to do. hope everything turns out ok for your friend =)
2007-09-30 14:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by melanie002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure u show that u will b there 4 her, 4 what Eva happens. Don't keep bugging her with the question "r u all right?" having a good friend 2 talk 2 is all she needs. comfort her. she obviously trusts u.
2007-09-30 14:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by animals_r_cute!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be supportive. ask her how she's doing and if there's anything you can do to help, but don't bring it up if it seems like she doesn't want to talk about it.
meanwhile have a sleepover next weekend just the two of you and watch a bunch of silly movies and enjoy yourselves! life will go on for her but you can help it go on a little more brightly.
and don't tell anyone about her situation because it's her business.
2007-09-30 14:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend went through a similar stuation and i just told her i would be there for her no matter what, and she could call me for anything at anytime. also i dont know if you can but see if there is a way she could maybe stay with you instead of having to move to a center. good luck...
2007-09-30 14:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by idowhatiwant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very serius! ok, have you ever heard of dave pelzer? his mom abused him horrible. you need to call the police or tell an adult right away! it will get werse if you don't tell anyone! www.save.com
this happend to me before, it went on for 4 months, i never told. but then, it got out of hand and i finally told the police..please do the right thing..
god bless.
2007-09-30 14:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋