that didn't deserve your love !!
2007-09-30 14:02:27 · 31 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
good point doc : the children yes i am grateful for them they are my life and always will be x
2007-09-30 23:46:30 · update #1
doobie , i've been there, two years ago i woke up one day and decided enough was enough , i got fed up with being treated like a piece of meat i only stayed for the childens sake ,it was hard and still is but we are a lot happier apart than together ,i understand where your coming from stay positive you will come out stronger in the long run xx
2007-10-01 06:23:20 · update #2
Yes and no.
I don't actually consider the time wasted because it has made me a more discerning person for having gone through what I've been through.
Would I do it again? Probably not.
2007-09-30 14:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
There are a good many people who have been married for years and then had it end, And it's a hard thing to go through, One has to admit ,most times , that it wasn't all bad, or why pray tell, would they have stayed so long. But , when both people aren't working on a relationship , Eventually there is enough love chipped away, for one to make a decision to end it. Is it wasted, no, yes, you are older, and hopefully you can realize what it was that caused the problems and steer away from them down the road. your a bit older and perhaps a bit wiser then you were way back then. But , life can go on and it doesn't have to be a waste , it can be a new beginning.
2007-09-30 14:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
I never believe anything in life is wasted. It will only be a waste if you think so. A couple who divorced can't say they wasted those years, especially if they had kids. The problem with us is we tend to focus only on the negative side. In a broken relationship, because we're hurt, we forgot to remember the good times. But I sincerely believe there were really good & happy times as well. We just tend to block them out because of the way it ends. How about some friends you met through that relationship?? I don't believe it's an "everyday-fighting" relationship..Let me share with you my experience. I worked for this company for 6 years, during the final 1-1/2 year of my stay, things weren't pleasant anymore & I ended up transferring to another job. If I were to evaluate my working experience based on that final 1-1/2 years, then I can say that I wasted my time & it was not a good job. But hey, I had 4-1/2 great years as well. And because I choose to remember the good times, I can proudly say, it was (all in all) a very rewarding job & a good working experience. Try to focus on the positive more often & you'll be less angry & bitter with things that's happening in your life.
2007-09-30 14:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes Bex - I was married to a man who physically, psycholgically and emotionally abused me the whole time I was married to him. I think I cried every day of that marriage. After 10 years I finally found the courage to end it but it was another 4.5 years before I was finally free of him because he kept opposing the divorce and holding up the sale of the house. What wasted years!!! I have now been happily married to a wonderful man, my soulmate, for nearly 2.5 years now though.
2007-09-30 21:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and the prick had never any other intentions but to use me, to raise his children, so be very careful ladies if you meet some male with young children. Once the children turned 18, that was the end of the relationship.
2007-09-30 14:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i believe that at the moment i am with the wrong partner, but the house is in his name and we have children together so its not that easy to get out of. we both come from broken homes and agree that we want our children to be in a loving stable home for as long as possible. we actually get on well and would be the best of friends were we not together but he is unfaithful and i know he always will be so i know we will never work. so for now in my life i am doing the right thing for my kids so i dont see it as a waste but i believe in karma. later in life i will be truly happy and he will be old and lonely!!!
2007-10-01 02:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by doobie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes but I learnt some lesson so I'm a big believer that where we think there's only negatives in time we can turn our experience into positives.
2007-09-30 19:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes Bex, forever The Fool- thats me- huh !. love Jo xx
2007-10-02 03:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes!!! i've wasted 2 years on a man. and i even made two loans to help him. i regret all of that. da*m it.
never make that mistake. it's better to be off alone than being with some trouble maker plus ungrateful!
2007-09-30 14:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't waste the years: I learned from it and have been using it for fodder for short stories ever since!
2007-09-30 17:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋