my and my x just started dating again and he's been asking me about a 3sum all last week but i guess i turned him off. it's definetly been a fantasy but i don't want to do it with the man i love maybe if i was a cheater it would be no problem but i told him i'm the prize and what i have is suppose to be for him only if i wanted another man or woman to touch me i would have done it those 2months we weren't 2gether i ask him was this somehting he was doing he said no he just wanted to try it with me i pick the guy and he the girl i said wouldn't it bother you to see me with another man he said no but i don't want him looking at me sideways later i want to but no, because i'm thinking about our future he said it's entertainment and married couples do it all the time should i try it once what would you do i love him he said he respect my answer that we're cool he won't ask again but i know he will oh yeah we've been 2gethter for 6yrs
2007-09-30 14:11:17 · 16 answers · asked by k2u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I gave in when my man wanted to do it. It broke us up.
2007-09-30 17:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I discussed a 3sum at one time. He did NOT want there to be another man. . . He would have preferred a little girl on girl action. . . Well, after months of discussion - it never ever happened, but it be came very erotic to talk about what we'd do if there were another party involved. . . the imagination was a good thing. . .
So really - it doesn't sound like you WANT to go through with the deed. . . so find other ways to keep the spark alive. . . it will cause problems if not handled correctly.
2007-09-30 14:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, married couples do NOT do it all the time. He is quoting from fantasy magazines and not real life. And if he is telling you he wouldn't care if you were with another man, then he does not value you like he should. Run! He was your "ex" and he should be your "ex" again. What a loser! You made a mistake about getting back with him because now he thinks "he's da man" and you can't get anyone else. Show him he's wrong! You're better off alone than with a selfish creep!
2007-09-30 14:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are clearly not comfortable with it, so tell him no and then tell him to drop it. It's fine to try new things, even threesomes, but only if everyone involved is comfortable with the situation. If he respects you at all, he will not pressure you to do things you don't want to do. Besides, sometimes fantasies are better left that way and exes are exes for a reason.
2007-09-30 14:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like he watched to many Jerry Springer episodes. And if you notice the guy /or girl always leave for the other person. If you want to keep your man DON'T DO IT.
JERRY!! JERRY!!! (lol)
2007-09-30 14:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by tara w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie, dump him, cause he aint satisfied with what you give him, he will be out there lookin around anyway, so brace yourself your only in his life for a good time not a long time, sorry but think about it
2016-03-19 02:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO. A fantasy should stay that way, just a fantasy. You can't take back a done deed.
2007-09-30 14:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) If you feel uncomforatble doing this, then don't
2) He should respect your wishes
3) Do not give him "permission" to try this on his own, for that just causes problems
2007-09-30 14:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't do it, he'll find two women that will. That should be fine with you!!! Don't compromise your integrity for no one..
2007-09-30 14:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my so-called "man" wanted to sleep with another women and me at the same time he would no longer be my boyfriend.
Unless this is something you want to do I would again leave the relationship......he would once again be my "ex".
2007-09-30 14:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋