How can I get help for my grandson who doesnt want to live with his mother due to an abusive boyfriend?

Question

my grandson lives with his mother and her boyfriend who is alone with him all day while she works since he was born I have taken care of him and after he was 2yrs old she took him and left to be with this man. he hates him he is abusive and punishes him severly for silly unimportant things he has had marks on him and Ihave picked him up with slap marks on him and bloody bottom from not being changed and when he is with me evey otherweekend he screams and cries because he does not want to go home, he begs me not to send him back and this has gone on now for over 2yrs. he is now 4yrs old and I fear for him I have reported this and had social services check it out and even had the carosel here in NC in on it and all they did was talk to him for 5min and said he was too small to tell if he was telling the truth. my grandson and I am not just bragging is very smart for his age he has been talking since he was 18months old he can do things that a seven yr old can do. My son is his father.

Answer 1

This sounds very serious indeed. A bloody bottom? You sure this guy isnt sexually abusing him. Have you kept records of all the marks you have seen on him? You need to start keeping a diary and every time you see a mark or a bloody bottom, write it in your diary. This poor little boy, he is going to end up a very screwed up young man. You know hes being abused and you have got to keep on ringing child services until they do something. Maybe when you have him, take him to the hospital so that his marks can be documented. A doctor has more say than you when it comes to determining if a child is being abused. It doesnt matter how many times you go to the hospital, just go whenever there is a mark on the boy. The more evidence you have, the more times you take him to the hospital....the more chance you will have of getting custody of your grandson. Ring Child Services every day if you have to...but dont give up. This child needs rescuing badly. I assume you have spoken to your daughter and she doesnt believe you? Thats common...we think it happens to everyone elses children but not our own. Maybe when you have him for the weekend you could ask someone from child services to be there and to see the marks he has on his little body and his bloody bottom. Maybe have them there when he pleads and scream to not go home. This is your grandchild's life we are talking about, so eventually someone will have to sit up and take notice. Just be persistent.

Answer 2

where is your son the father. someone needs to step up to the plate and protect this little boy from the abusive bf. if you have to call social service 10 mores times than do it. or the next time he comes to you bruised than take him to the hospital have them document the marks and than at that point child protective has no choice but to investigate and get to the bottom of the abuse. try to recollect when you have seen the bruises and make it on a calendar and have it for child protective. if you have to take him to the hospital every time you get him for it to be documented than do so. but dont stop. be persistent on the child behalf. it would look much better if the FATHER were doing it but you are just as good. GodBless

Answer 3

First thing i would do is call the cops, if that doesn't work take pictures of the marks and stuff on him with a date on the picture, try to start a case against his mom, with the local Department of Children and Families take the pictures to them and ask what you can do. Good luck!!! I hope everything works out.

Answer 4

your son needs to file for custody. your son needs to have all marks and bruises looked over by a doctor so it can be recorded by a medical professional. keep calling social services. a 4 year old does not understand the concept of lying. see if you can do a criminal background check on the boyfriend. but the only one that can go for custody is your son, not you.

PS, do NOT take pictures yourself. if you see marks, take him down to the local police station and have them take pictures. i had a friend do this for her granddaughter and surprise surprise she got charged with child pornography. it's so stupid, but don't put yourself in that situation.

Answer 5

Is your son still in the picture? He could have this investigated. If child abuse is going on, I cannot understand how child welfare could allow it to happen and dismiss it after a 5 minute interview. If he has marks on him, take pictures or better yet, take him to a doctor. They are required to report all suspected abuse.

Answer 6

Im so sorry to hear about your worries, NO child deserves that. What I was thinking is perhaps you can start to document the abuse, take pictures of his marks, of the condition of the house, that sort of thing. Continue to persist with talking to the law enforcement agencies. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

This sounds terrible, really. I would find a way to get the mother to get rid of the boyfriend and tell her or else you will loose your son. This is not good on the little boy and you would do him a great disservice if you DIDN'T do anything...So step up to the plate and take action ma'm

Answer 8

it somewhat is an somewhat confusing question to respond to. Your mom does not seem to have countless shallowness to stay in such an abusive courting. climate or no longer you have a courting along with her, she continues to be your mom. She knows this. for despite reason your mom relies upon in this guy. that is regarding comparable to a heroin addict which will do something to get that drug. something to get that restoration or that top. mentally it somewhat is the place your mom is at and he or she would be in a position of justify it any way she will. perhaps shes telling herself that finally you will come around, or that your sufficiently old to shield your self, despite shes telling herself. She made her decision and he or she has to stay with that decision yet you do no longer. She needs help and components which you will no longer have. therapy, counselors a battered lady safeguard. call the safeguard your self and that they are in a position to grant some perception into whats happening with your mom and consumer-friendly information on the thank you to help. reliable success to you.

Answer 9

Biggest question......why isn't your son, the father protecting his son?

If your son won't step up and be a parent you should continue to report this situation to the Child Protective Services in your area until something is done.

Answer 10

I think that you should talk with the mom and dad. Tell them about what is going on and what you would like to happen. Tell them what your grandson has been telling you. If that doesnt work then you should probably get the cops involved.