i dont mind if my boyfriend talks to other women but theres girls at his work that he is ALWAYS texting i found texts that would say REALLY flirty things like them going out to luch and considering them dates and hes talked about doing sexual things to her.. and i dont think my boyfriend would ever cheat on me and ive confronted him about it and he says it doesnt mean anything they are just playing around , ect.. but i dont know what to do and i would like it to stop but every time i confront him about it he gets mad.. what should i do??
2007-09-30 14:18:40 · 4 answers · asked by gina w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would hate for it to end like this.. we just had a baby 4 months ago and i found out he was talking to her when i was pregnant and after i had the baby it just seemed like he started crossing the line more more with the sexual stuff
2007-10-01 13:24:51 · update #1
also ive told him how it makes me feel and he will say he doesnt do it anymore n then a week or 2 later he will b doing it again. i just dont understand how u can joke about something like this w. somebody expecailly when u already have someone u say u love and care about
2007-10-01 13:27:48 · update #2
Well...a boyfriend should not be texting another girl sexy stuff. Though it depends how serious your relationship is....if your just dating for 'fun'...then it does not matter. If you are on the road to getting married, then it matters.
In any case, telling him to stop or demanding he must stop is the wrong way to go...and won't work anyway.
You could try to simply tell him how you feel, but not 'confront' him with it in the negative, hostile way.... If he does care for you, and you tell him how you feel, and he keeps doing it.....then you you now know how much he cares..
2007-09-30 14:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if he gets mad? He needs to stop the text messaging....even if he does claim that it doesn't mean anything and they are just "playing around", that doesn't matter. It sounds like the two of them have already crossed the line, and it is very inappropriate for him to be talking about doing sexual things with another woman, when he has a girlfriend. Tell him that either the text messages go, or you do.
2007-09-30 21:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you do it and I am sure he will notice like you have and make a choice to stop or start a new romance with the girls from work. He says nothing is going but there are many ways to cheat and from what you are saying he is cheating
2007-09-30 21:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by purejc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definitely wouldnt take it! it's not about trust or insecurity issues but it's about lack of respect. i am shocked that HE gets mad when you confront him about it. joking or not, he should not be "flirting" with his co-worker. i know for sure he wouldnt like it if the situation were reversed. i dont know how old you are, but dont take this crap. you need to get out there and meet other people, so that 5 years down the road if yall are still together, you dont wonder where those last 5 years went. if you arent happy, move on sister! it's not like you are married to the guy. good luck
2007-09-30 21:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by melanie002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋