I am 20years old and married we do not have a house of are own yet but we are trying. We work SO HARD to get what we have and I am so happy for it. But my husbands brother and so to be wife get handed everthing he has no job, she has one paying 7.50 an hour but they always have money to much money and they are not they saving up money type of people oh yea and she is pregnent. They just moved into there brand new house. Please tell me how me and my husband work are butts off and have nothing to show for it but he does not work she works so little and they have a house to show for. All i want to know is why am i so mad is it because I don't have a house or because they are not married and having a baby or both please help.
2007-09-30 14:18:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Instead of looking around you and seeing what other people have that you do not, count the blessings you do have. Acting like the green eyed monster is not going to change your situation. Perhaps her side of the family is the their benefactor or any number of things. It is hard to imagine how they could buy a house on their own considering the only annual income, but perhaps other resources unknown to you have come through for them.
Try asking them. If they feel it is none of your business, they will tell you.
2007-09-30 14:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her parents might be helping them out, and there is nothing you can do about it. Just try not to compare your situation to theirs. What they do really has nothing to do with what you do. Plus you are young and if you work hard you will be in a better position in no time! When you get there you will know you earned it yourself....they won't be able to say that. My in-laws treat my husband and his brother totally different. They buy his brother EVERYTHING he wants. They buy him cars, pay his rent, pay his credit cards, bail him out when he's in trouble, buy new clothes, ipods...whatever. My husband (who is the younger of the two) works his butt off and always has. We asked for a LOAN to help pay his tuition one semester and they said no because they couldn't afford to after all the money they had given his brother. I was MAD, but I have realized over time that we have so much to be proud of! The brother doesn't. I just pay attention to our life now and let the brother situation be what it is.
2007-09-30 14:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 08:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably up to their eyes in debt.
Don't fall into that trap, you will pay for it forever. Just set goals and stay focused on them. Every young couple struggles at first and there is usually someone around them that seems to be doing better. Don't believe what you see.
2007-09-30 14:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by joker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop being JEALOUS what other people have. you dont know what or how they get what they get. she could have a trust fund, or section 8 that will allow her to rent a house. stop worrying about them and what they have and just continue to work on getting yours. you will have yours soon enough. be patient and keep doing what you are doing. GodBless
2007-09-30 14:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be jealous of them. Some people need more help than others. You'll see, in time. It could be her family 'helping' them. It doesn't really matter, you and your husband will do better and be better.
2007-09-30 14:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Envy will kill you. Work on your hubby and you, one day people like that will get what they deserve, most likely from the IRS man. Get involved in a church group, that might help you.
2007-09-30 14:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mark and Allie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you sound jealous! you are only 20yrs. old, things don't happen overnight. yes you are working for what you want and that's great, however it has nothing to do with them and what they have so just concentrate on what you are doing.
2007-09-30 14:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by paula t. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesson in life..Never compare yourself to other and what they have. Focus on yourself. All things happen in due time. Be patient!
2007-09-30 14:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they have had every thing reached to them in life you dont want that my opion?
2007-09-30 14:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋