I have a friend that does that, I want to help her. But she doesnt want to admitt her problem to me.
although its very much obvious because the guy says he doesnt love her back, just has compassion.
Why wont she let me help her?
2007-09-30 14:09:53 · 16 answers · asked by DJ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Andrea W your right!
2007-09-30 14:17:06 · update #1
it has been going on for a year now, and its the same thing. She would even diss me to be with this boy and his group of people, yet runs to me when something goes wrong, or wants to get mad at me when i dont talk to her in some days. I think i have to give up this friendship :( although we were so close before all this!
2007-09-30 14:22:27 · update #2
Sometimes people want to be loved so much, they accept substitutes. Also, in our society, we tend to equate sex with love - when they are not the same thing at all. But, sometimes when you are young and naive - you don't understand that. So if someone says "don't have sex" you think that they are trying to spoil your fun (instead of trying to warn and protect you).
It is hard to see a friend making a mistake. You can talk with her and encourage her to do the right thing, but ultimately she is going to make her own decision. Whatever you do, just keep being her friend. If things don't work out - she'll really need someone to be there for her as she learns - the hard way.
2007-09-30 14:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The solution I give to you is: Tell her the next time she wants to pursue a relationship with a guy (long term) make sure to ACT like his friend to see how compatible they both are. This way, she won't fall into this trap and know if whether or not she likes the guy as a person.
2007-09-30 14:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Class 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a few girls in facing that similar dilema. My thoughts are that they either don't want to accept the facts or they simply don't understand what 'love' really means. Many people (men and women) don't really know what love even means. Love isn't a feeling, and that's the number one problem. She is confusing feelings for love, when really love is a choice.
2007-09-30 14:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And why do people confuse intimacy with sex. You can have one without the other you know.
BTW...most girls think they are in love and thats why they start to have sex. But what they don't realize is the guy is thinking...oh yeahhhh I finally got some.... and all I had to do is tell her I love her. lol.
2007-09-30 14:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she doesn't want any help. She obviously will need to learn these lessons on her own. As painful as that may be for you to watch, unfortunetly it sounds like that's all you can do.
Besides, she's young, she will learn eventually. Just keep trying, keep talking to her, she'll come around.
2007-09-30 14:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real reason is,
That girls give sex to recieve what they think is love,
Boys want sex its an animal desire, by having sex will never in itself prove love, in fact the opposite quite often
2007-09-30 14:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by customtriker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has to find their own way in life, called living and learning...young folks usually don't know the difference between lust and love..I know i sure didn't..Give her time, it is the best teacher!
2007-09-30 14:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by janet r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She won't let you help because she wants to establish independence and self control. It is odd that you have to be seperate from someone in oder to make contact.
2007-09-30 14:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she knows your right and most young girls don't like to admit it. Your probably intimidating her. She knows it she just doesn't want to admit to you or herself.
2007-09-30 14:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is in denial
she does not want to know the the guy does not love her
2007-09-30 14:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋