Family & Relationships - 28 September 2007

why cant women accept that us men have a different outlook to sexual partners than they do. Equal opurtunites i'am all for, but we men are allowed our own opinons. were more protective of you than you are of us in that way. Call it maturity or whatever, but theres not a bloke alive who can deal with the thought of his partner having multiple/many sexual partners. After all we tolerate you women having a problem wth us men not being more understanding or sensitvie enough and we try to change for you that way, even though we dont have a bloody clue what you want us to do sometimes, so bout time you let us have our limits of acceptablility and tolerate them.

2007-09-28 01:36:49 · 9 answers · asked by stu07 2 in Singles & Dating

My daughters first birthday is in November and I want to make it special yet simple. All I wanted was to have a little get together in a club with a cake, decorations, food and music. My hubby does not want me to rent a club because number one the club does not let you bring your own drinks and I can't afford to have an open bar. He thinks it would be embarrassing to have a party without the drinks. The club will allow you to have a bar tender for additional money but the guests would have to buy their own drinks. He also thinks it would be embarrassing to have them pay for their own drinks. I think its a baby's party their doesn't necssarily have to be drinking it will be during the day any way. ( I can't do the party in my house).

2007-09-28 01:35:59 · 3 answers · asked by Jewel 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am sad, and not sure what to do....I met someone on the internet and by choice, we waited to have sex until our wedding nite which was very recent. I know this is going to sound weird, but we still havent done anything because on the day of the wedding I took 3 hours getting ready, and when I came out after getting ready, my husband to be looked at me and said, "we have to go", not that I look pretty or anything. I'm not "gorgeous" but yes, pretty, and no dog. Then after we got married ( I thought he was just nervous) I dressed very nice (short skirt, tight top, etc) I had a suprise romantic dinner ordered, bought an expensive gown to wear to bed, and we had a drink and when we came back up to the room, he was "tired". I am so hurt. I feel rejected and still not sure what to do. When a gal is rejected on her wedding nite, that hurts. Any advice? I don't understand this at all.......

2007-09-28 01:35:22 · 11 answers · asked by hi_there_again 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I are separated and he is not showing any intentions of getting a divorce. We already went through the processing once and even went to court. We didn't have the required paperwork and never went back. It ended up getting thrown out. My husband says that it's easier to not get divorced and he doesn't want to go through the process again.

He is living with his girlfriend/mistress again. He says that she's a great person but he also says he doesn't love her. How could he be with someone he doesn't love? I have met her and always wonder what they have in common. He doesn't seem emotionally attached to her, so I know it's just sexual with her. She even said that's all she thinks he wants from her. Why is he being so shallow and keeping her around if she's just sex to him and he doesn't love her?

I don't know if I want him back now, but I still love him. Sometimes I want him to come home to be a family with me and my daughter though.

2007-09-28 01:31:30 · 22 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my love for him is developing and he is a hard worker- doing his own construction business but am also begining to feel insecure tho he plans to go and further his education. he really loves me and treats me well with respect. he is down to earth, God fearing and helps me with my education (am studing accounts)... are poor men not supposed to get married and be love

2007-09-28 01:30:18 · 18 answers · asked by haja 1 in Singles & Dating

Well he might as well be! I'm a newlywed not even a year yet and my husband is completely addicted to World of Warcraft! I practically have to beg him to spend time with me. Today he didn't come to bed until 6:30in the morning!!! So not even an hour ago! He played the game for 11 hours straight! He got home from work around 7pm. I've talked to him about his playing habits before and it seemed to get better after our talk but about a month after he goes right back to his playing habbits! I'm tired of this and I'm tired of having to beg for his attention! I'm very tempted to just give him an ultimatum: the game or me. Please give me some advice on what I should do. Any questions please message me!

2007-09-28 01:26:06 · 29 answers · asked by CS 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my friend started dating this girl last semester, and then completely cut off all of his friends, and then they broke up and he came up to me and apologized and swore he'd never do it again.
and then he met one of my friends, and they are starting to like each other, but since she just came out of a really long relationship, she isnt ready to start anything yet. he is crazy obsessed with her, and is starting to ignore me again. he used to IM me all the time, text me, call me and ask to meet up at school.. and now ill run into him and he'll be like "im too busy"
and now with IMs its one word answers..
how do i tell him that he is doing what he swore he wouldnt do again!? i dont want to get him mad at me.. but god damn it he's pissing me off!
help

2007-09-28 01:24:27 · 8 answers · asked by Mimi 4 in Friends

2007-09-28 01:23:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i'v been with this guy since i was 18 ,i married him when i was 27.he have always treated me bad ,when we got engaged he didnt propose to me he just said here's the ring put it on.he is always putting me down calling me lazy and other name plus calling me a s**t and a biT*h. he said i was before he met me so i am now. we have 2 kids together 10 and 4 ,one is like his dad now no respect.last night he told me dont ask for any of his money when he gets his cheque he'l pay few bills and thats it.i'm not working right now but i am looking and done a few interviews this week.and regards to lazy everything is tended to him even his meals .i never say no to him .we have seperate bedrooms says i snore and keeps him awake ,we only have sex when he wants it.i cry to myself alot.i want to leave but scared....

2007-09-28 01:22:26 · 22 answers · asked by browneyez 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i love someone who is married,but he is seeking divorce from her wife,but he wants me to live with him since according to him it will take a long time to settle the case in indian courts,what should i do,my parents r not ready for this,he is ready to marry me once he get a divorce,his wife is not living with him from last 6 years,he has been a faithful lover ,we have been in relationship from last one year but we reside in diff. cities in india ,but now he can no longer be away from me and wants me to stay with him.my parents dont want me to marry him,his family has accepted me,and he has said that if i dont want to come to him i should leave him,i am really in a fix since i genuinly love him and want to marry him ,i dont want to leave him,i dont know what to do,plzzzzzz someone help me,he has told me that he will never leave me

2007-09-28 01:17:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Should I let go and if so, how do you let go? This girl and I have been together for about 11 Months and known each other for about a year. We are both in our mid 20s and love each other very much. About a year ago, before we started dating but when we were still “talking” I “cheated”. I lied about the whole incident until last month. Ever since then she have been running around meeting guys, getting numbers and God know what else. She claims that she’s not sleeping with any of these guys, I believe her, even though her best friend thinks she is sleeping with other men. She CONSTANTLY lies and I know this for a fact, her stories and activities constantly change for one minute to the next but I still can’t let her go… I love her too much but every time we talk, there seems to be someone new. I have no problem with her having friends, but I can’t trust her… What do I do?

When I say she meets guys, she met this guy at a club on Saturday night who is supposed to be helping her get a job. On Monday he is over her house getting her resume because (she claims) he lived close by, he couldn’t open her email for some reason and the deadline for the job was coming up… She claims nothing happened, they weren’t alone so that’s all possible but when she told me the story, she NEVER mentioned the guy coming in, she said he stayed outside. Her friend had to tell me he came inside…

2007-09-28 01:14:29 · 25 answers · asked by beau0021 3 in Singles & Dating

I am getting married next October and we both like the song. Do you think it would make a good song for a wedding?,Do you like the song?

2007-09-28 01:12:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

....for everything...but me...he treats me ok...I'm talking about my boyfriend...but when we eat in the restaurant he always complains , every single day....what should I do? How to cut this habit of him...?

2007-09-28 01:11:28 · 13 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

i have to change my avtaar.what shall i do .plz reply .

2007-09-28 01:06:26 · 7 answers · asked by ASH 2 in Friends

Let's get to the point, My ex-wife and I started dating when I was 15 and she was 14. We managed to survive together all of high school and college!. We dated for 6yrs. Last yr. of college we engaged and married right out of college. we were married for 1 and half years and one day she came home and said she loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore. so we seperated then divorced. 5 months later she married and had a kid by this man she was seeing during our seperation. now 6yrs. has passed and out of the clear blue sky she is starting to call and say that she knows she messed up and that she didn't really love this man, they are getting divorced now. She says to me that she would like for us to get back together. during this time I haven't married. However, I am engaged to do so now. It took me 3 yrs. after our marrage for me to let go but now since her calling. my feelings are comming out. I don't know what to do. She has a kid by him when we should of had ours.should i not look bk

2007-09-28 01:03:48 · 22 answers · asked by fearlesswolf38 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What do i do in this situation i have a girlfriend thats 18 years old she is sweet has a 50-50 personality but is extremely shy and sometimes we argue because she is not on the same sexual level as i am ....i am sooooo used to being sexually active then i started dating her and it all stopped i am her first boyfriend and i have to ask her to do certain sexual things to her she thinks me fingering her is gross and discusting but i dont agree....i was engaged to a 21year old i have her name tattooed on my left arm i think about her ever since she left which was around may of this year it does not matter what i do or what i say or where i go i always think of her she ended up leaving me because we fought soooooo much it didnt matter what it was we always fought she would wear lowcut skirts out and i dont agree to that a woman can look highly attractive and highly intellectual without trying to draw attention to herself....she would go out to a park at 3:00am and stay there until 5:00am with her female friend she used to have sexual feelings towards melissa my ex fiance was bi-curious and my new girlfriend jenni is not she has no experience with cheating or lying or anything sexual i dont want to break up with jenni but my heart is telling me melissa will come back but at the same time its also telling me that jenni and i will go far....but i am not really happy with jenni i mean i am but my love for jenni just isnt equivalent to the love i had for melissa.....melissa and i connected more than 2 peas in a pod and i know that if melissa and i could work things out we could be the happiest married couple out there....but jenni i dont know we're on the phone now and basically fighting because she thinks i am only here for sex and thats it but i am not i want it bad i guess the proper term for it would be i am sexually frustrated and sexually indignant it has been sooooo long since i made love that i'm craving it more than ever......i lost my virginity to melissa got her name tattooed, treated her like a queen and whenever we fought we always worked it out through communicating and sex by the end of the day but jenni doesnt seem to know how to resolve this issue i need help bad....i love melissa but i kinda love jenni what do i do?

2007-09-28 00:55:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Guys....What do you think the chances of a 47 year old man only having one sexual relationship in his entire life which was short term? Claims no issues, and not gay.....Opinions, please?

2007-09-28 00:53:36 · 7 answers · asked by Future Doc 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Honestly, its the story of my life! I'm not sure if I'm imagining it but I've had loads of guys after me since I started dating years ago. Some even proposed to me but I was not in love with them. Then there have been a few that I was crazy in love with but they were less into me and therefore I didn't get them. I'm now 40+ so I'm really beginning to think its like some sort of cruel destiny! What is going on? Someone please please help me to understand what appears to be a 'curse' on my love life

2007-09-28 00:50:12 · 20 answers · asked by must see 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-28 00:45:38 · 9 answers · asked by kenny 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Tonight my boyfriend & I went to a club that we are regulars at. We're standing against a wall with a couple of friends & 4 drunk chicks come up in front of us & start dancing. My boyfriend & I ignore them & our friends start to dance with them. One of the girls was lifting up her dress & taking pictures & showing everyone her butt. All of a sudden, she comes up to me & grabs my boobs. I told her to get the f*ck off of me. She was stunned that I told her that (because she was super drunk) & she turned to my boyfriend & said that he should get a new b*tch! I told her to get the f*ck away & to leave us alone. Then she hauls off & slaps me right across the face. Stunned, my boyfriend pushes her, then I go after her but before I can reach her, her 3 friends jump on top of me. To make a long story short, it got broken up, they got in trouble...not me. I'm trying to figure out why someone would do that? Is it because they were super drunk? Is it because she was jealous? What was the point?

2007-09-28 00:45:30 · 7 answers · asked by italian_princess_oc 3 in Friends

My in-laws want to take our children for a few weeks next summer. My biggest concern is my that mother-in-law works at night (sleeps during the day) and my sister-in-law is deaf. I have a child with special needs and the other two who are very active. Both of my in-laws are sound sleepers, and I am terrified of something happening to any of my children. My mother-in-law has NO intention of taking any time off of work to help supervise my children, and with my sister-in-law being deaf, wouldn't be able to hear if something happened. What do I do?

2007-09-28 00:44:41 · 7 answers · asked by navywife_2001 3 in Family

Are you doing things your parents did that you thought you never be doing?

2007-09-28 00:39:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

The only time he stops playing is when eating, sleeping, going to work, go to the toilet, smoking and 1 hour a day spending with me and our kid.

2007-09-28 00:38:57 · 13 answers · asked by tinker77 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Well me & my boyfriend have been together for 3 years & im always the one to crack on to him first & want s.e.x but he doesnt ever its like hes not interested anymore hes not cheating on me cause we are together 24/7 but when i tell him i want another guy cause hes just not into s.e.x as much as i am he gets angry & says iff you ever touch another guy hes gonna cut the other guys d.ick off !LOL! but the thing is why is he so worried about me touching another iff he never wants to have s.e.x with me? We are both 20 is it time for me to move on & go have s.e.x with someone that wants it just as much as i do? Because hes the only guy ive ever had s.e.x with what do i do?

2007-09-28 00:38:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Do you think by suspecting and controling their husbands that they can control them and make sure they don't cheat
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2007-09-28 00:37:29 · 16 answers · asked by ? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my b/f of 3 years split up a couple of months ago! We wern't happy! We'd been ttc for 18 months and nothing! We both went our seperate ways - and we hated it! We realised how special we were to each other and noone else comes close! We are back together! And very much in love!!!!! Just one little problem - this girl he had sex with is pregnant! He's seen the test! She was having an abortion until he told her we were back together!! ITS KILLING ME!!!! i love him dearly and have said i will support him what ever happens! He wants nothing to do with her or the baby! We have completely cut ourselves off from her and hope she does the right thing!
I am due on today, and took a test this morning! NEGATIVE! Its hurting that she has had this with him, but i can't!!!! How do i get though it?? How can i stop thinking about him in her???

2007-09-28 00:29:22 · 11 answers · asked by jenny w 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

it really sucks for us girls because we are misled by their height and end up liking them (thinking they are our age when they really aren't)

2007-09-28 00:27:24 · 5 answers · asked by Madelline C 1 in Singles & Dating

What would be a perfect or better said ideal woman or man for you, what it your aspiration in a woman or a man, if you are not in a relationship, but if you are, what's the best in your partener, what is it that you love most at him or her?

2007-09-28 00:27:06 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ Ram ♥ 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-28 00:26:28 · 4 answers · asked by gmailkid 1 in Family

Thought this would be a funny question to ask

2007-09-28 00:24:53 · 11 answers · asked by Kristen W 2 in Singles & Dating