What do i do in this situation i have a girlfriend thats 18 years old she is sweet has a 50-50 personality but is extremely shy and sometimes we argue because she is not on the same sexual level as i am ....i am sooooo used to being sexually active then i started dating her and it all stopped i am her first boyfriend and i have to ask her to do certain sexual things to her she thinks me fingering her is gross and discusting but i dont agree....i was engaged to a 21year old i have her name tattooed on my left arm i think about her ever since she left which was around may of this year it does not matter what i do or what i say or where i go i always think of her she ended up leaving me because we fought soooooo much it didnt matter what it was we always fought she would wear lowcut skirts out and i dont agree to that a woman can look highly attractive and highly intellectual without trying to draw attention to herself....she would go out to a park at 3:00am and stay there until 5:00am with her female friend she used to have sexual feelings towards melissa my ex fiance was bi-curious and my new girlfriend jenni is not she has no experience with cheating or lying or anything sexual i dont want to break up with jenni but my heart is telling me melissa will come back but at the same time its also telling me that jenni and i will go far....but i am not really happy with jenni i mean i am but my love for jenni just isnt equivalent to the love i had for melissa.....melissa and i connected more than 2 peas in a pod and i know that if melissa and i could work things out we could be the happiest married couple out there....but jenni i dont know we're on the phone now and basically fighting because she thinks i am only here for sex and thats it but i am not i want it bad i guess the proper term for it would be i am sexually frustrated and sexually indignant it has been sooooo long since i made love that i'm craving it more than ever......i lost my virginity to melissa got her name tattooed, treated her like a queen and whenever we fought we always worked it out through communicating and sex by the end of the day but jenni doesnt seem to know how to resolve this issue i need help bad....i love melissa but i kinda love jenni what do i do?
2007-09-28 00:55:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told Jenni that if things dont work out between us I want you to have a great experience in the dating field expecially when I'm her first....
2007-09-28 01:10:04 · update #1
WELL WHAT IF I'M THE STARTER?? THATS WHATS SOOO HARD TO FIGURE OUT.....MAYBE THATS WHY I DONT FEEL THAT CONNECTION WITH JENNI LIKE I DID WITH MELISSA...
2007-09-28 01:17:06 · update #2
Why dont you do the right thing by Jenni and let her go find a new starter like you were once and stop trying to make her a substitute for Mellisa~~
2007-09-28 01:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr, Mentally you are all over the place, you seem to be jumping around and not really knowing what you want? One minute you like this girl the next you like the other? I personally dont think you are together enough to offer either of these girls anything but sex, and us women need more than a guy with a tattoo and a high sex drive! I mean geez. And as far as this little 18 year old goes, well she,s 18, what do you expect from a girl this young? As a matter off fact, let this poor girl be, send her packing back to her mommy and daddy, she is not ready to be in a sexual relationship with a guy who doesnt know who he is and what he wants out of life! I think this girl needs time alone to grow up and become a woman, without you trying to get down her pants! You need to stay out of relationships for at least one year maybe even two, you need to grow up and become a man who has something more to offer a girl other than sex! And if you want female companionship go buy yourself a blow up betty doll, and leave the poor 18 year old alone to mature into a productive woman.
2007-09-28 01:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm this is hard. I don't think it would be right for you to keep going out with jenni. You two obviously have different views of things, if you wanted it to have worked with her, i think you would have, without thinking waited for her to do anything sexual. It's ok that you want to be having sex, it's not fair on her though and although people say sex isn't everything in a relationship (and yes it's true), but your complete opposites. You can't expect her to change her view of sex anytime soon, sure maybe in a few years... But are you willing to wait that long.
Why aren't you with melissa again?? I know if you did love jenni you wouldn't be thinking about melissa. Be single for a while (like a week or two) tell melissa how you feel and wanted to give it another go.
P.s. please help me too :(
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2007-09-28 01:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do mean besides growing up? You took on Jenni on the rebound, BAD, and only really care about your own desires, which might be why Melissa dropped you. You seem to equate sex with love and can't seem to figure out how to relate to women on a real, human level.
2007-09-28 01:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first partners always and forever keep tiny piece of ya heart,thats how we learn for nxt more rown up relationships,surely it doesnt matter how long youve been wiv one girl if you dont ave strong feelins and not sexually compatable why are you there,are you sure when you and previous girlfriend split what you really wanted,maybe you were both immature.id say high possibility you went wiv now girlfriend time on rebound so there will be issues.after all 18 not really seen much of life prob less certain about what they want sexually.maybe the case youve grown up and now want someone more mature.maybe ex girlfriend grownup too,if the feelins still there how do u know she dont feel the same.maybe instead of split you shoul have both talked through issues and both came to compromise.idont think fair on girl you are wiv as seems ya jus ther til someone better comealong or ex come bk.finish wiver be hard for her but better int he long run rather then causin more hurt,
2007-09-28 01:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by sallyaboulter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta choose, a life with less sex or a relationship with all sex and very little love. Between you and your former I'm guessing that you pretty much were more attracted to eachother's bodies then to eachother's personalities (or personalities in a bad way). Stick with the nicer girl and try to tone yourself down to her level until she gets comfortable around you and then you'll bother get closer together.
2007-09-28 01:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋