Honestly, its the story of my life! I'm not sure if I'm imagining it but I've had loads of guys after me since I started dating years ago. Some even proposed to me but I was not in love with them. Then there have been a few that I was crazy in love with but they were less into me and therefore I didn't get them. I'm now 40+ so I'm really beginning to think its like some sort of cruel destiny! What is going on? Someone please please help me to understand what appears to be a 'curse' on my love life
2007-09-28 00:50:12 · 20 answers · asked by must see 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just think about the guys that were crazy for you and you ddin't want them, they must feel the same as you, don't give up hope, there is always someone out there and you have plenty of time to enjoy them.
2007-09-28 00:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by agius1520 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every thing has an end or a solution ,we as human being always lok for the unreachable , ehen we reach something we look for more and when we cant reach it we become unhappy ,JUST LOOK AT YOURSELF the happy moments of your life and think that you dont know what tommorrow is hidding for you ,there are lots of people who are so miserable because of deseases or someone s loss after that you will find that you are so lucky to have this life
2007-09-28 01:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by rosirosa13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i promised you that i could help, and i mean put my hand on my heart and promised you that things could be different and that i had the answers for you, would you do just one thing that i ask? please take me seriously, if you do nothing else today, trust me.....you need to buy a book called 'the complete book of rules' by ellen fein and sherrie schneider. they will explain to you in great detail why the men you are not interested persue you and propose to you, and why the men you adore....dont. and once youve read that, they will then explain to you in great detail how you can turn that situation around to the complete opposite, by that of course i mean getting the men you adore to chase you and propose. you said in question that you felt this was some sort of cruel destiny...well isnt anything worth a try. i read this book and it changed my life....just do this one thing...buy the book....read the book.....read the book again....and follow it like it was your bible. much love and good luck x
2007-09-28 01:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you work out why we think the grass is greener on the other side you can email me with the meaning of life to, These question will be asked in millions of yrs to come, that if george bush has left us a planet to live in, but we always want what we cant have, and then after the chase we get it and we looking for something else, only thing i can think of is by own experiences is that you are not settled in yourself yet, no matter what the age, its about your own mind and what you want, then you will find the answer,
2007-09-28 01:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by stu07 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because you don't know what you want. If you got one of the ones you wanted you'd probably go off him. You only like the unattainable ones because you're not happy in yourself. I'm sorry if this is harsh, but i believe it's all psychological; you want what you can't have because then there's no danger of having it and losing it. My advice is give someone who likes you a chance, you don't seem to know what you want so you might find they will make you the happiest.
Gd luck x
2007-09-28 02:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Thneedloverz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am aware that this happens. There is a view that some people set themselves up for disapointment. I have noticed when getting to know someone I find attractive I tend to go off them when they show they are interested. Just a thought.
2007-09-28 00:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tom H 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The problem with the heart is that it never gets what it desires, and when it does the timing is always wrong.....also maybe you let your lovers become a priority in your life when you are just an option for them.......but its never too late to fall in love.......goodluck....
2007-09-28 01:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be just a part of life. We always seem to want what we can't have!
It does seem that few relationships are completely equal. There is always someone who likes the other one more, who gives more, who wants more.
2007-09-28 01:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch 22 honey!
2007-09-28 00:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i call this the 'baddass syndrome", women are attracted to the clearly independent carefree types. the good /boring people who show some emotion are pushed away. You clearly lack confidence so that you can turn this around.
2007-09-28 01:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by mybeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋