....for everything...but me...he treats me ok...I'm talking about my boyfriend...but when we eat in the restaurant he always complains , every single day....what should I do? How to cut this habit of him...?
2007-09-28 01:11:28 · 13 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
can you live with this kind of attitude all the time...?
2007-09-28 01:13:56 · update #1
Victimizing himself releases him from responsibility abt his life and circumstances, but really it is very self destructive and soon or late his bitterness would spoil all magic u may have b/w u two. Watch together these movies "the secret" and "what the bleep do we know". make it very special ocasion and dont let anything distract him, bcs this kind of truth sometimes is difficult to swallow and he may try to ignore it.
Good luck!
2007-09-28 01:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Inna D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand how you could be with a guy like that, there is no excuse for it, unless there is something wrong, but many people will pick something wrong with anything and everything, tell him to ease back on complaining because it makes you uncomfortable, if it persists tell him to eaither grow up or loose you, you deserve better than this, complaining about anything and everything is not having respect for you, because that would mean if you went out for a meal, you would be waiting for him to start his little game,
find somebody you will be happy with that has more respect for you and everybody around
2007-09-28 01:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by please ask m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife was also very negative & complained constantly, about anything & everything. I tried every thing I could think of to get her to be more positive & look at the bright side of things. It took our marriage counselor to fix the problem.Have no doubt, It is a very destructive attitude & will greatly affect you! In all ours years of marriage it was one of the greatest problems I had with her. You must decide if want to be dragged down by this persons attitude of life?
2007-09-28 01:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Orestes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At he moment it might be mildly annoying, in a month or two it will become really irritating and in a couple of years you will want to stick him in the back of his complaining head with an axe. Believe me. Move on.
2007-10-02 00:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Zeb G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to live around this kinda person all your life, I THINK NOT. It may be time to move on, find some one that will make you happy, and not drag you down. I'm hopeful that you will make the right move, good luck to what ever you do.
2007-10-01 22:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Hopeful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i could'nt live with this. If he won't take your hints then you have to sometimes be cruel to be kind. Therefore just say: Can't you just stop complaining and try to see what you can do to adopt? After all in this life, we can't always have things our own way. x J
2007-09-28 08:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's always complaining because nothing is ever good enough for him? Nothing is ever done the way he wants it to be done?
I know this one.
Tell him you noticed he dislikes everything.
Tell him you can't put up with that kind off attitude.
If he really wants to be with you, he'll shut up; if not, dump him and go on.
Clean and simple.
2007-09-28 01:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
one thing there's no way of changing a person's character but he himself can only control such attitude if he's aware he is a "whiner"...
as for you.... let the phrases of his blah blah enter the right ear and let them ease-exiting smoothly on your left ear.
or you can subtly tell him that whining won't do anything nor change the displeasing situation he sees but he can do something either to minimize his complaints or do something positive for a change. Tell him that when he's in a good RECEPTIVE mood to listen. And tell him in a positive encouraging manner (not putting me down way).
2007-09-28 01:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by HOPES 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think it would bring you down to be with someone so negative all the time..Move on.Life can be so much better..
2007-10-01 19:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~ Ali ~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's mental disorders. He needs counseling
2007-09-28 01:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋