My in-laws want to take our children for a few weeks next summer. My biggest concern is my that mother-in-law works at night (sleeps during the day) and my sister-in-law is deaf. I have a child with special needs and the other two who are very active. Both of my in-laws are sound sleepers, and I am terrified of something happening to any of my children. My mother-in-law has NO intention of taking any time off of work to help supervise my children, and with my sister-in-law being deaf, wouldn't be able to hear if something happened. What do I do?
2007-09-28 00:44:41 · 7 answers · asked by navywife_2001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I did talk it over with my spouse,and he doesn't want them to take the kids, but they are not letting up when we tell them we will THINK about it. We are very protective of our children.
2007-09-28 02:01:26 · update #1
I spoke to my in-laws about 1 hour ago, and I told them our decision. That until such time as our children are older, and able to fend for themselves, that the answer is no. They were both so upset that they called back just about 15 minutes ago, and demanded to talk to my spouse(who was asleep), then he told them the same thing. They are NOT happy. They are our children, and we are doing what we feel is best for them. We did however say that we will pay for them to come down here and see the kids, but they were not agreeable to that. Oh well, you can't please everyone.
2007-09-28 05:08:39 · update #2
What is the point of your children going there for a few weeks next summer? Your mother in law is working so what are they going to do all day? Due to the situation of your children having special needs, your mother in law working and your sister in law being deaf I would say no.
Your the mother just say no and if you have a hard time tell your husband to say no to his parents. I would not be stressed over something a year away and you have control of this situation.
2007-09-28 02:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instinct, Maybe you could go with them to the in laws for a couple of days or work something out so you wont have to worrie. Anyways you should talk to her and tell her the way you feel, after she knows maybe she would be willing to take time off work?
2007-09-28 07:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by joslynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not discuss this fear with them,there could be a solution and if she really want the children over she has to arrange her work schedule to accomodate them.
2007-09-28 07:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by black&proud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but I wouldn't do it!
It does not sound like the mother-in-law is willing to do her share and if she is not willing to do her share now what would change then?
2007-09-28 08:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by mom2abigsis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your concerns are understood, and if you feel they won't get the care they need then no, you will worry about them constantly.
talk to your inlaws if they care about your feelings then they will understand, your the mother do what you feel is the right thing to do, and for the sake of your children.
2007-09-28 07:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by hugabug72 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you discussing this with your husband, or doesn't he have any say? Talk to the children's father.
2007-09-28 07:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's already siad he doesn't want them to go and you are apprehensive about it. how about just a week end? a few weeks is to long for everyone involved.
2007-09-28 09:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋