The only time he stops playing is when eating, sleeping, going to work, go to the toilet, smoking and 1 hour a day spending with me and our kid.
2007-09-28 00:38:57 · 13 answers · asked by tinker77 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's been doing this for years, i'm afraid he can't change.I play games too but he really has an addiction
2007-09-28 00:51:55 · update #1
I used to be addicted to Pogo. It is an online game site. My husband said I did the same thing. He complained that I never spent time with him. We ended up getting him a computer and we turned a spare bedroom into an office. Now we are both in here all of the time. I am more addicted to yahoo answers now though.
Your husband probably does not realize the extent of the problem. I didn't. I would get really angry if I was interupted or couldn't go online. My house was beign neglected as well as my husband. I still have to force myself to get off the computer and get things done. Have a honest conversation with your husband. Tell him how you feel and how the kids feel. Encourage him to do family outings with you and the kids. The computer can become addictive. The side effects can sometimes be just as bad as drugs. Broken homes, loss jobs, unhealthy living. So really talk to your husband about it. Good luck to you.
2007-09-28 02:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to look around here and see what kind of problems some of these mopes really have. More than half of them are self generated because of their ineptitude and inability to excercese common sense.
There are even more whose husbands or wives spend hours on the computer downloading pornography, cybering or joining singles/sex websites to hook up with members of the opposite sex to get laid.
You're 'problem' is nothing. Is it really so bad? Think. You know where he is....you know what he's doing...he's home. Of course he may be preoccupied but he's playing a video game versus the other mischief people get into on a computer and he isn't hanging out in a bar.
Listen...I'm 50 and have a large collection of PC games for my computer. Loads of military strategy games and empire building/constructing type genre. My wife doesn't give me a moments grief about the time I spend there because its my entertainment and she can wander down the hall and talk with me at any time.
So lighten up my dear. He could be doing worse.
2007-09-28 01:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tinker,
Plan an afternoon at a local park, picnic and hiking and family fun. Have your son walk up to his father and ask him to join all of you.
Have a great afternoon together and do not mention the PC games or cause a conflict about it. Enjoy the day together and take lots of pictures together.
The next time he sits at the computer, suggest going to the grocery store together or out to eat. Have your son ask him to join you. Enjoy the evening together, no mention of the PC games or conflict about it.
When you and your husband are in private, mention to him how much you enjoy this family time together. Ask him what he enjoys about the PC games. Ask him to limit the amount of time he spends playing them. Insist he sticks to this, example : 2 hours per day, not during daylight hours on weekends so he can spend time with you and your son.
If he does not improve and stick to limiting the time, then it's time for you to meddle with the computer.
good luck ~
2007-09-28 00:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dammit another grown man addicted to XBOX or Wii or PlayStation or PC Games...he is never ganna change I bet he already bought Halo 3 didn't he....dam there is only one thing you can do...learn how to play video games and then kick his a$$ at them....turn the tables....
2007-09-28 01:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a therapist. It's not easy to stop the addiction.
2007-09-28 06:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yap, I know this type!
My hubby likes playing Command and Conquer Generals.
He always says 'I'm sorry I neglected you...' but when he plays, he plays.
Try this: When he starts playing, you take your kid and sit very near to him and start playing. Trust me, just listening to your kid will make him pretty soon overwhelmed with guilt.
It's sneaky, but he's being inconsiderate! So... Try it out. ;)
2007-09-28 00:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control or change anyone. Whining, complaining and nagging are going not work. Men do not respond well to those.
You need to change your whole approach to this problem. Please read the following book:
The Surrendered Wife
If will change you whole relationship. (It is NOT about being submissive)
Good Luck!
2007-09-28 00:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yer a little more time for you and the kids i agree but look on the bright side of things at lest you know where he is lol.
2007-09-28 00:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Become addicted to this site honey!
2007-09-28 00:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join him in his play or format the computer.
2007-09-28 00:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by freestyler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋