why cant women accept that us men have a different outlook to sexual partners than they do. Equal opurtunites i'am all for, but we men are allowed our own opinons. were more protective of you than you are of us in that way. Call it maturity or whatever, but theres not a bloke alive who can deal with the thought of his partner having multiple/many sexual partners. After all we tolerate you women having a problem wth us men not being more understanding or sensitvie enough and we try to change for you that way, even though we dont have a bloody clue what you want us to do sometimes, so bout time you let us have our limits of acceptablility and tolerate them.
2007-09-28 01:36:49 · 9 answers · asked by stu07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you need to find the right person then all this wouldn't matter. you need abit of loving in the right way.
2007-09-28 02:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by bummble bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm! Don't you think you have quite a narrow minded view of life.
To make such sweeping generalisations is just not accurate.
There are plenty of men who can tolerate their partner having multiple partners, and not all women have a problem with men not being understanding or sensitive. In fact most of us realise that men are both those things, but have been conditioned by society not to express emotion.
Instead of venting about why women can't accept these things, why don't you accept that you are accepted and start looking internally to see how you can improve your communication skills so that you ask for what you need without becoming frustrated and angry and demanding. That way you're more likely to get it.
2007-09-28 02:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Louise H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying and agree to a small extent, however..................
A close friend of mine and his wife are in an 'open' relationship and he encourages her to have flings or one night stands, sometimes he joins the party, sometimes he's not there, it just isn't an issue for him.
Now, i know loads will say this is immoral, not really a marriage, dusgusting, etc but they are together, still happy after 15 years, nice normal people so who are we to judge if everyone is ok with it?
It doesn't sit comfortably with me all the time, i could never go down that road but i've got used to their activities and they have a vast amount of trust and honesty within their relationship, more than anyone i have ever met.
I also thing it's very easy to generalise about women and men but we are all different, some women accept we are different andmake allowances for our 'behaviour, some don't understand just as some men don't about women.
We are different through age, culture, upbringing, experiences, etc and the male/female one is not always the one of most confict.
Just a word of warning, the word 'tollerate' is not going to go down too well, here comes the flack.ha ha
2007-09-28 01:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are quite a few guys that can deal with his partner having multiple/many sexual partners. Women are jealous than guys about who they speak to ect, whereas guys don’t actually mind who you speak to, as long as you come back. Did you just have a bad break up?
2007-09-28 01:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Christelle J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Man.
I am alive.
I could not give a flying fudge how many sexual partners a women has had.
It's the 21st century man, how about you accepting that women have as much right to have sex with other people (& enjoy it) as you do.
Why would you care, insecurity?
2007-09-28 01:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Flash 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the situation, i was in a long distance relationship before and in that case, i didnt really care if she was gettin sex. If its just sex and no feelings or anything like that. And if it happened before we hooked up, it dont matter to me as long as she is healthy.
2007-09-28 01:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess because women never knew.
My boyfriend gets kinda 'crazy' if I mention something that happened years ago... but I guess he just doesn't want that in his head. We don't talk about our partners or anything though ~ it's actually much better like that!!
2007-09-28 01:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg you need to grow up. It's hurting my brain trying to squeeze it into the narrow parametres of your thinking.
Go away.
2007-09-28 01:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Acai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't generalise women everyone is different
2007-09-28 01:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋