Family & Relationships - 19 August 2007

I recently asked a question about my fiance joining AA and her request for me to give up drinking entirely even though I do not have a problem. I decided on my own that she's worth it and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. So I stopped. I realize that if you really love someone, you're willing to make sacrifices for them. I am. Now, she doesn't think it would work and that I would resent her. It's not true. She wants to end the relationship. It's not fair & she's not giving us a chance. My question is is there any suggestions on how I can save this relationship? I believe that AA may have her thinking that without them, no one is capable of supporting her and that her sobriety is a priority over our relationship. She is not the person now that I proposed to. If there's any idea what to do, I'm all ears. Thanks everyone.

2007-08-19 19:16:26 · 10 answers · asked by nvador1 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-19 19:07:37 · 23 answers · asked by N.T. 3 in Singles & Dating

I think my situation is serious...
Well In the past i loved n was hurt..badly hurt...Not only in terms of guy but concerning my life in general...
Well i thought i cudnt love again but i met a guy I chose to try to open my heart to him, i mean to try to love him as my 1st love..
But really The guy i think he dnt care abt my feelings.. he really hurt me..i fall out of love Well now i can say that i like him...
I`m still with him...

Simultaneously i`m having family problem etc..

Now i really have a big problem apart liking some1 i really dnt feel anything, not even sadness, from deep inside me i feel something tearing but really i dont feel neither sadness nor anger, it`s as though i`m blank....i really cannot fall in love with anyone, i really dnt feel anything...
It was as though i just accepted anything I dnt care abt anything particularly my feelings..
(If only i still had them)
Anyone had the same experience please
Can u help me with advice please

2007-08-19 19:06:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How should I ask her thru an email or aol im?

2007-08-19 19:06:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

alright, hears the situation. one girl is has been my friend since the beginning of this year and she just now told me that she lyks me and would lyk to go out with me. another girl is my ex and she (claims that she) loves me sooooo much and i kno she would do anything i asked her to, but shes already cheated on me twice. another girl is my buddys girlfriends sister that lyks me. and then i already have a girlfriend that lyks me a lot and i can see the relationship goin somewhere in the future, but i can really see myself with all of them and i just dont kno what to do.

2007-08-19 19:04:32 · 9 answers · asked by 2_real 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-19 19:01:47 · 25 answers · asked by Tammy P 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 30 years old male. All my life I have easily gone from long term relationship to long term relationship. I have noticed a pattern inmy behaviour. After 3 years I just get bored of my partner. I start to get easily tempted to be unfaithful and unfortunately find myself cheating and then ending the relationship. I know that I should be more mature. Does anyone have a similar experience or some sound advice?

2007-08-19 18:55:16 · 14 answers · asked by goldenpig 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i think it is a good thing that my boyfriend is very close to his family. however, they do not like me at all no matter how hard i try. he always sides with his family members whether they are right or wrong. it happens all of the time, even when i need his support at the time. how can i make him see that he cant keep siding with them unless he feels the same way? or what would you do if you were in this situation? it is getting to the point where i want to break up with him because of his family!!
help please!

2007-08-19 18:53:41 · 1 answers · asked by starss. 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

my father just recently started playing his cheating games again, i have grown up with my father always cheating, he cheated on my real mother since they were teens until the day that she divorced him (while preg. with me), then he cheated on my stepmom for many years (married now 11 years, cheated for around 8) my sister always caught him but never told my stepmom, she has since moved out on her own and i am months aways too. but i recently started noticing that he is playing his games and i started to check his phone, his email, his everything, there is no question that he is cheating on my stepmom. i have so much proof my laptop is almost out of space. my problem is that i am closer to my stepmom then my real blood parents, and i want to tell her and i want to tell her soooooooooooo bad, and kick my dad in his cheating lying *** face. but everyone else i am close with tell me not to say anything and live my not so happy life. HELP ME SHOULD I REALLY STAY ZIPPED??????????????????????

2007-08-19 18:53:09 · 18 answers · asked by m@ n 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-19 18:52:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i honestly don't know what to do
i can't decide to go with my Mom or stay with my Dad
and i don't want to hurt either of them.
i mean my dad can get on my nerves and he can be kinda ruff on me sometimes and he can be so insensitive of all other people around him. but i don't want him to be all alone.
and if i move away i'll miss my friends but i'm only moving like 2 miles away so i can see them anytime and i'll stay at the same school. but i can'tleave my mom i mean none of this was really her fault my Dad is so selffish i mean he could move out i mean why would he need a whole house to him self.
and a couple minuets ago he tried to guit trip me into staying.
i just don't know what to do.
i only see two options
either running away only problem is i don't have anyone that would take me in.
or 2ndly and i hope i don't have to do this
just kill myself

2007-08-19 18:49:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I know certain details. What Uni he goes to? what he studies what year hes about to go into?
Any Advice would be great

2007-08-19 18:48:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

before I move away (only like 50 miles) we were friends for about a year.When he saw a picture of me with a new hair color he said"oh now it'll be hard being your friend" bc every girl he dated had the same color.Anyway he came to visit and we went out and had a really good time.But he did things like hold my hand and back while walking threw crowds,opened doors, paid for things,all that.You could kinda sense some attraction was begining to take place.A few days later I went to his house and we went out again w/ other friends.After the club we went to his place(where I was staying the night)and went to go to sleep.Well at first we were just lying there cuddling and one thing lead to another and we started ya know.The next 2 days he texted me saying to have a good day and all.An on the 2nd night I emailed him to talk about what happened so things wouldn't seem strange bc nothing was being said.He hasn't wrote me back.Could it be bc he doesn't know what 2 say?or could he have nothing 2?

2007-08-19 18:46:38 · 1 answers · asked by i'm trying 1 in Friends

2007-08-19 18:45:30 · 1 answers · asked by xerxia 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I've been dating this guy for a few months. I like him a lot, but tend to allow my hormones to point me to other guys because I'm sexually unhappy. Not to mention the fact that he is addicted to kiddie cartoons (seriously). He watches nothing else. I've tried talking to him about trying new and different things, but he doesn't seem to grasp the concept. My kids adore him, he's goal oriented, and he's stable. I really don't want to mess up a good thing but sex is important to me. The fact that he watches nothing other than Gummie Bears, Gargoyles, Smurfs, etc. and calls movies like Apocalypto and Meet Joe Black are stupid, can slightly be overlooked. What should I do?

2007-08-19 18:44:46 · 20 answers · asked by Nae 2 in Singles & Dating

A little about me: I'm a guy with a good education and a decent job lined up after business school. But for some reason, I'm terribly self-conscious all the time (maybe because I have a stutter in my speech and also worry about how I'm coming across to people) and this is affecting my interactions with people and especially with girls. I'm 30 yrs old, but still freeze up some times when I meet a really pretty girl that I might have a crush on. But other times, I'm just fine. It often happens that I'm fine talking to a girl the first few times, which gets her interested, but later, I just start second guessing myself and wonder if she'll like me, and mess up my conversations on future dates. I also find it hard to be entertaining and interesting throughout a date -- there are times I get quiet and there are awkward pauses. Is the guy always supposed to be entertaining? I mean, isn't the girl also supposed to join in and help the guy out if there's an awkward silence? How do I improve?

2007-08-19 18:43:25 · 5 answers · asked by riddler 1 in Singles & Dating

im 15 yrs old and i have to do EVERYTHING with my family..
like if i wanna go to the movies or mall..i have to go with my family..if i wanna go to a amusement park..i have to go with my family..if i wanna go to the pool..i have to go with my family.
get the picture??the thing is they won't let me hang out with my friends or go anywhere.
and i get so pissed off at them cuz im 15 and i don't wanna do sh*t with them! they think it'll bring us closer if we hung out alot..BUT ITS NOT ITS MAKIN ME MISERABLE...they won't let my live my life..I DON'T WANT THEM IN MY SOCIAL LIFE ANYMORE ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! there not my idea of fun..there corny..its like im living my life for only them..jus them..and not for me.
i kno they don't wanna lose me..but i have a life of my own..why can't they except it??
even my sister thinks this is bullsh*t..we were thinking of moving to our aunts house cause then we will have more freedom there cuz im gettin sick of this sh*t
excuse my language

2007-08-19 18:40:49 · 2 answers · asked by Leila 1 in Family

okay my hubby is currently in Iraq,and they have been on a operation,so he hasnt been able to call me as much,but the other night when we were telling our goodbyes..he said he would call again if I wanted him to,i told him to call me whenever he could,then he asked"do you want me to call you?"


HELLO i do want him to call me.Why would he even ask??..well im not sure when he is going to call again,But i thought that was odd(weird).

2007-08-19 18:38:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

well im 27 my fiencee left me two months ago she was the attention seeking type and deleted all my friends numbers and said she didnt want me speaking to them now she has left my friends dont want to know it was a really controlling relationship she has lost my friends for me taken away my selfesteem im shy so meetin new people is really hard and i never know what to say to people i live in a village where there arnt many people and it seems like all i have are these four walls and a laptop what can i do i dont know how to make friends anymore because i wasnt allowed to speak to anyone but my fiencee help if ya can ppppllllleeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaasssssssseeeeeee this is my last chance i think before i do something stupid help me please

2007-08-19 18:36:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

ok i know this is odd but for the last few years im 21 going on 22 and i have always wondered what it would be like with the same sex but i dont think i could im far to scared, of what i dont know but its always been there and i was wondering should this feeling be ignored until it goes away or is it somthing that is going to linger forever i seem to have no control over the feeling

2007-08-19 18:35:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think this is inappropriate and tacky. It makes me avoid them as I feel they are looking for one thing.
It takes time to develop a relationship with someone and when someone mentions wanting to get physical with someone they haven't even met yet, well to me that's just weird.
What ever happened to being a gentlemen and showing some respect to a woman before getting all "touch feely"? When a complete stranger mentions that in their profile, I just want to avoid them completely.

2007-08-19 18:32:55 · 5 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Singles & Dating

All right here's what has developed. Ever since I was younger confidence was never a problem for me. I used to be more confident but every single girlfriend I've have had cheated or walked away from a relationship. The end result is that now I have a hard time talking to girls, and I really want to change that. I'm 20 years old, and I would say I'm a total gentleman with class. I'm not afraid to show others I'm my own person and don't follow what others do, but I have a hard time talking to a girl. So to make a long story short, how can I get a girl to say hi? How can I better myself and not be afraid of rejection from now on? I want to have kids someday and want to meet the right women for me, but if I don't change my ways that will never happen. I'm honest, loyal, charming, sweet, and have all the right qualities any girl would want.

What are good conversation starters to meet new girls? Also how can I be more confident and talk to any girl?

Thanks in advance.

Alex

2007-08-19 18:29:03 · 15 answers · asked by money mike 3 in Singles & Dating

He won't stand up to his ex wife, she calls and he listens to what ever she has to say, doesn't stand up for me when she bashes me. Always gives her extra money "for the kids"...she knows she can get more here so she blows thousands every month. He says it's because of the kids and he doesn't want to put them in a bad spot. In the meantine we go with out in our home when she is really on a spending spree...and I feel like I am taking the hit and have to work extra hard to make up the difference. I feel like he thinks she is a princess and I am the work horse. I feel like he should stand up to her. He told me today that I need to make friends with her to help with the problem of events where the children are concerned. He brought her into my life, he should fix it....she won't talk to me, even to sI have tried....she just acts out when these events are going on. I am at the end of my rope, I don't respect him, and I feel like he has been emotionally cheating on me because of thi

2007-08-19 18:27:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

A girl I was friends with/date a little, was playing crazy games. I recently found out that she was sleeping with a married man (who is falling in love with her and she is not) and has been with at least 15-20 guys in the last 2 years, a few of whom were drug dealers. I did NOT know this, any of this. Before I told her, she still would play like she is miss innocent. I called her out, completely, I pretty much told her that she should not play games with me and that I think she is a ho* and slu* for breaking up a home and being so promiscuous. She told me I was childish and "should crawl into a hole and die"....I told her she is worthless and VERY insecure among other things, AND IT FELT SOOOOO GOOOD!!! It felt like I got a monkey off my back, and part of me felt bad that maybe she needs some serious help.

2007-08-19 18:26:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

do u look for looks or personality??

2007-08-19 18:25:18 · 21 answers · asked by g 2 in Singles & Dating

Lately, my girlfriend is getting really frustrated, because she doesn't like the fact that I answer most of her life questions with mainly facts, as opposed to emotion response. I will admit...I used to be fantastic at debate in high school and college, but is it bad to use "just the facts" in life situations? It seems as if I answer her questions with a "1, 2, 3" response, which makes perfect sense to me, but she hates it. What should I do? How can I go about fixing this?

2007-08-19 18:21:12 · 8 answers · asked by Jason C 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

this is our childs 1st yr (he 7 yrs) in little league and he really likes it and wants us to sign him up again in fall.There is a spring practice and fall practice.My question since he wants to do this again should we be bringing him to the batting cages or throwing the ball with him to keep him up on what he learned?We would but he never askes should we just bring it up and take him once a week?Or should we just give him a brake between seasons and only take him if he asks?We don't want to "push" him but we don't want him to fall behind the other kids ether.I would like to hear from other parents on what they do between seasons.

2007-08-19 18:20:37 · 1 answers · asked by kathy d 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

A boyfriend recently came across blogs & "answers" on my yahoo stuff he didn't like. Basically I was referencing an amalgamation of my own experiences, others, & a little fiction spin in order to relate to my advice readership. This particular one referenced a guy I USED to date, but my current bo accused me of this "answer" referencing another person he suspects I've cheated on him with. That's the tone I got anyway when he asked. Oh, ps when we first started dating we spent both our work & personal time together. I almost always stayed the night or went home to a house of family members, or would go out with friends whom he knows. Gee I wonder when I'd have any f*ing time to cheat. Now I'm a little sour over the accusations even though that's not what he said it was about. My a**. He's going on a hunt to find anything to ruin this relationship I think. Plucking my creative straws out of jealousy or control & I don't appreciate it one f*ing bit.

2007-08-19 18:19:20 · 4 answers · asked by Smith 2 in Singles & Dating

DO GIRLS LIKE A ROMANTIC, REALLY FUNNY, OUTGOING GUY THAT IS ALWAYS DOWN FOR ANYTHING AT ANYTIME ? THAT LIKES TO WRITE THEM POEMS AND SEND THEM FLOWERS WHEN THEY ARE DOWN?
SUCH AS MYSELF.

IT FEELS LIKE A LOT OF GIRLS ARE NOT INTO THAT TYPE OF PERSONALITY.

2007-08-19 18:16:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

but lots of people find it weird that I like being quiet and minding my own business.

I enjoy it and i don't won't to change. Why do people always tell me to " open up more" when i don't need to nor do i want to.

Do people have a problem when others are quite?

maybe because i am 33y/o and its strange that I don't want to be the life and center of attention in this "me" society



Also: GUYS IT'S NOT ABOUT GETTING WOMAN. BEING SHY AND AND ATTRACTING WOMAN ARE 2 TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS. PLEASE GROW UP

2007-08-19 18:14:16 · 17 answers · asked by I love Lucy 1 in Singles & Dating