lonely?help?

Question

well im 27 my fiencee left me two months ago she was the attention seeking type and deleted all my friends numbers and said she didnt want me speaking to them now she has left my friends dont want to know it was a really controlling relationship she has lost my friends for me taken away my selfesteem im shy so meetin new people is really hard and i never know what to say to people i live in a village where there arnt many people and it seems like all i have are these four walls and a laptop what can i do i dont know how to make friends anymore because i wasnt allowed to speak to anyone but my fiencee help if ya can ppppllllleeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaasssssssseeeeeee this is my last chance i think before i do something stupid help me please

Answer 1

agrgh dont do anything stupid ok, there are always bad times in life where we feel upset and lonely, for all of us, you and me included... firstly you need to actively do something to connect to your community, get the local paper, or look on notice boards for meetings of same intrest groups, you might not be able tofind ur old friends, but you can makenew ones if you are willing to make the effort to get out there, people arnt going to plop on your doorstep and say hi, yu have o go out in the world and meet them.. they are just as loney as you so dont be intimidated. secondly you sound a bit depressed, you need to be takeing care of yourself right now because you have just gooton out of a relationship and that is always hard .. are you getting enought sleep? are you feeding yourself healthy small meals? you should be doing some light exercise at least walking for about 30 min. per day, this will do 2 things, 1 get your happy chemicals flowing in your brain, make your body look and feel better, growing ur self esteem, and 2 it will get you out in public where you might meet new people, if u see someone with a cute dog,, you can comment on it and invite them arround for coffie, ok this might be intimidateing, just get out ther and do it foryourself, no pressure!! another thing that may help is an artistic outlet, write down your feelings, or draw pictures, there not for show, only for you, this might help as well, abouve all be kind to yourself, hey youve been through alot lately, be nice to yourself, and always keep a copy of friends numbers at your mums house like i doo!!! my boy is so controlling but im not giveing up my friends for anyone.. he should understand its a normal part of being human to want to socialise, and if he isnt mature enough to do that, then ill call behind his back... hey i hope u r feeling better soon, and if u need to go see your GP or family doc, they can help alot more than us, but uve made the first and hardest step by aknowledgeing your feelings and reaching out for help.

Answer 2

Hi Lonely,
in fact nobody is alone, you might feel lonely now after all you had to go through, but dont forget, there is a world outside your village, there are people feeling same way as you do now, but believe me, time is a great healer and soon or later all will be past for you. Open yourself, gain your selfesteem back and look at the other side of the coin. I dont know if you are a believer, still i tell you: if God closed a door, he opened a window for you. Never give up ok? Good luck.

Answer 3

Call your friends and talk to them. Invite them to participate in activities you enjoy. Do not allow yourself to be controlled by another person or isolated from others. Thank your lucky stars this sick manipulative person left you of her own volition. Those kind of people can be extremely difficult to get away from. You will always need your friends. Go out and do things. If you cannot think of anything else to do, just go for a walk. Remember, if you want to meet people, you have to leave the house: You already know everyone there! Whatever you do, DON'T spend all of your time on the computer. You won't get to interact with any humans there. You need to talk face to face with live people. Just go out and do things with people. Find people who need help and help them. That's real, that's important, that's useful.
BTW: It would also be useful if you would put periods at the end of your sentences. It is quite difficult to figure out what you are trying to say when one thought just merges into another one.

Answer 4

Try to take hold of yourself. You can make friends even in a small village and you do have people that care even over the Internet. If your friends are true friends they will call you. You will meet someone better just don't give up.

Answer 5

You will not hurt yourself you will be happy and you will develop better communicating skills there is a big world out there explore it, do you know that God loves you, just the way you are. Never let anyone have power over you like that. She sounds manipulative. See yourself happy have a vision dream it and speakm it out loud, I am good, handsome and worth it I will survive and I will get through this no matter what God bless you Jesus loves you okay

Answer 6

how could that be possible? fiancee and the friends r not rival parties.by the way, let the past go...don't worry about it. u have a computer with an internet connection...so u have a great scope to meet new people always.
u can mail me also if u wish...i'm far apart from u...so may be we can't ever meet but i will be glad to hear from u.

Answer 7

Well, First of all........Congrats for your fiance left u because just think how can u live your whole life with this type of girl?and it's to easy to go back to your friends '''''''''tell them i come back and i don't know y i became this much crazy>>>>>>but i realize all now.......pls accept your friend with that old feelings......"and i m sure they will accept u.....All the very best>>>>>

Answer 8

well u already know she was not GOOD for you so u are ahead of the game there. maybe join some activity that interests you and get to meet the people in the group gradually and build your self esteme and circle of friends that way. good luck

Answer 9

don't do anything "stupid". so it didn't work out, that's alright. life is short. move somewhere and start a new life if you have to. you. try new things and see what helps keep you from being shy. Go your dreams, and be exactly who you want to be. it's your life and not anybody else's. good look, and have fun with your ONE life!!!! :)
God bless!

Answer 10

i know how you feel.. it sounds hard to get out there and make friends... but before you do that.. you have to get to know yourself again.. ask yourself: who am i? what do i like? what's my favorite movie? .. after you get to know yourself than you can put yourself out there with people who like the same things you do. if you like to read.. join a book club... ect....as soon as you learn to love yourself, your self esteem with grow, and making friends will come easy to you. thinking positive will help you turn around your life, and your ex will regret her actions. good luck