Family & Relationships - 26 July 2007

For going on four years now after my parents divorce my mom has been depressed, without hope of healing.

She refuses counciling, support groups, and antidepressants.

She has a habit of living in her own little world exactly as she wants it to be and a bit ignorant of the truth. She has a tendency to get depressed and go on and on about how her 'bleeding heart' is being 'dragged along the ground' and such.

She also has a tendency to hold onto that sorrow (take note for FOUR YEARS). I mentioned one thing about my father and she was miserable, and ranting and complaining all mothers day no matter what i did.

She's also discouraging me from love becuase she's so absoulutely sure that all i'll ever get out of it is heartbreak. Qoute: "Dont ever get married, youll only get heartbreak."

I'm fourteen years old and i've been forced to grow up enough as it is. Is there anything i can tell her or do for her? Or should i just sit back and keep listening to her 'bleeding heart'?

2007-07-26 21:48:48 · 12 answers · asked by Kuma Ninotori 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i was molested when i was younger an like im so shy/nervous talkin to guys an with my boyfriends sometimes i feel unsomfortable with them puttin thier hand on my leg or when were kissing an like i have issues with trustin guys an i was talkin to my friends about it an they said maybe its because i was molested i dont really know but i dont wanna feel like that anymore i just wanna if that could be the reason why??

2007-07-26 21:41:07 · 19 answers · asked by sha sha 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm engaged to be married and my fiance and I haven't lived together yet. I've been with him for about 7 months and we aren't getting married until next Spring and even though we haven't really lived with each other yet we have spent the night together several times and I already do his laundry, clean his apartment, and do several other things for him and it's not like we have beliefs against it but my mom things since we waited already, we should just wait until after we are married to live together plus his parents already hate me and would love to have something else against me. My lease is over at the end of next month and I've been thinking about it a lot. What do you think should I move in with him or not?

2007-07-26 21:23:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am gassy...!!

2007-07-26 21:19:51 · 20 answers · asked by Lonely Turkey 4 in Singles & Dating

ok so me and this guy have been daing for 2 and half months
and well he hardly hugs me we havent even kissed, and i dont wanna do it in person, so how do i let him down easy.... plus my and this other guy the last week have been flirting nothing more just flirting...so how do i let him down easy

2007-07-26 21:19:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-26 21:18:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Can someone please right me an example of what i should write?
Im proposing the toast, and want a short, sweet and humourous speech to go first.

HELP IM ALL OUT OF IDEAS.

ps - its tomorrow!

2007-07-26 21:15:10 · 2 answers · asked by ally 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My bestfriend is getting married next month and I want to gave them something unique....!!!

2007-07-26 21:14:38 · 5 answers · asked by iglookite 1 in Weddings

1. Are you a mother-in-law? Yes or No

2. If you said yes to question #1, does your daughter-in-law love you so much that she feels comfortable coming over when she wants and making herself at home at your house?
Yes or No

3. If you answered No to #2, why do you think that is so? Explain your situation.

4. If you enjoyed this survey, you may make any further comments you would like. Thank you.

2007-07-26 21:13:24 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

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Would love to hear what everybody thinks her or his makeup should be like on her or his wedding day!

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2007-07-26 21:12:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

She now blames it on me because i didnt go. SHe wanted to kiss him really badly so she told her friend to dare her. ggggggggrrrrrrrrr. HE apligized and was very nice about it and im still going out with him but i ditched her. Did i make the right desicion? and what should i do to get her back or anything?

2007-07-26 21:09:06 · 26 answers · asked by kitybom123 2 in Singles & Dating

we met 4 yrs ago and things started off rocky but have got alot better, we have been on and off alot in those years..
but lately things are settled ( the last year or too)
i hardly see him in the weekedays just on weekends! when i text him in the week he doesnt even reply and his phone is always off? when the weekend comes i see him and ask him why and he pretends he never got them or he had no credit which is really getting to me

ive told him that it annoys me but he still does it! is it because i still come running back?
when i see him we go to friends, pub etc in his area so i doubt he has another girl on the go (he doesnt drive) he calls me his gf and eveyone in his area knows we are together but it looks alot different on my end, none of my friends see him...i just want a normal boyfriend that treats me like i should be treated! all i want is his time and i don't even get that!
he does smoke alot of weed and is into alot of things but i love him and i want to make it work

2007-07-26 21:05:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She left me for her coworker lover and 6 weeks later she wants me to come to dinner? we have two kids...she is still with him. Is she just being nice while i deal with a ripped out heart?

2007-07-26 20:54:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

we broke up like 2 or 3 weeks ago and i cant seem to get over him. we are still really good freinds but i want to be more and he doesnt, and i have a other guy wanting to go out with me and i like him but i dont want to go out with him untill i get over my ex.... and ideas of how to get over my ex? PLEASE HELP!

2007-07-26 20:40:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I loved her wedding...she got married in New Hamshire Conn. Where there is a huge castle on the beach. She married just before sunset...and they walked into the water knee deep just as the sun was 1/4 way into the ocean. She didn't wear a big white gown, she whore a soft,sheer type, that would blow in the wind, he... a nice pair of linen pants and a white unbutton(two buttons) that were tucked into his pants. she wore a flower wreath on her head...it was so beautiful..they have plenty of money to have thrown it off he hook one to cost a small fortune...but it was so simple...yet elegant., and the pictures of thier sillioets in the sunset, was to die for. I want somehting like this, but don't want to look like i stole it from them...what on earth should i do?

2007-07-26 20:36:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Its Sunday morning and I'm going to school to clean the class. When I was cleaning my class, I realized that my girlfriend was not helping me and friends clean the class. I'm looking around for her... but she seems not anywhere! So, I just continue my duty. After everyone work was finished, I went home...but when I'm almost at home, I saw my girlfriend was talking with a stranger... i never seen that guy! I hide behind a car and peeking on those two... I saw my girlfriend holds that guy hand and they hugged each other! Urgghh.... what is she trying to do actually? And this is another day... I'm at school and in my class. I ask her who is that guy and what did she do with him... You know what she answered? She answered "He? Oh please.... he's my new boyfriend! What? You jealous? He's more better than you! But we can still be friends! No couple anymore! I know you're cool but I think you're stupid because you should know that you're just a prefect not my teacher!" Is she a play girl?

2007-07-26 20:29:58 · 7 answers · asked by =-NeoDBZ-= 2 in Singles & Dating

I have an xhousemate who left on really bad terms, she abused me and left my house in a total mess and took advantage of me, for reasons only known to herself.
We share mutual friends. Recently she's getting her boyfriend to ask other ppl in the group if I've been bitching about her. I don't believe I have anything to worry about as I haven't been bitching but I am concerned that now she's involving other people in this ridiculous childish behaviour. I have taken the approach of getting along with my life and I'm happy in most aspects of that. But she just keeps causing me trouble. I don't see her, talk to her, msg her but she still keeps managing to create issues when I don't have any contact with her at all, even though we do share mutual friends. I just want to get along with my life. I'm not sure what to do about this, should I stop hanging around my friends to prevent them getting involved? I'm 24 years old. I would have thought this is high school but here I am...plse help???

2007-07-26 20:29:44 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i really like her thouht but me and my ex r still close wat should i do lady's addvice pls

2007-07-26 20:26:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I left for this guy who is my soulmate I love him so much a love
like this is all Ive ever dreamed of.I made a mistake the first time
I left them that guy didnt really want a relationship.I am the mom
that should count right?So far I havent seen my kids for 3 weeks
but I did call them,thats when I found out thier dad is suing for
custody.He wont really be granted custody will he?

2007-07-26 20:25:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-26 20:19:55 · 8 answers · asked by sabrina 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i love this guy so much, but he cant have kids. i want kids but i love him. i want to be a mom naturaly, i dont want to adopt. what should i do?

2007-07-26 20:15:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My bff madeout w/ this guy a week or so agothat i liked and he liked me while i was out of town. And after a while I forgaveher, she said that she didn't want to kiss him she just didn't know how to say no. so I went back to her house. And he was there. But I didn't give him much notice[he didn't know I knew he madeout with my bff]. And a few days later while I was still at her house and he was there too. While I was in a room alone he came in we were just standing there for a moment. Then we were like doing this weird thing where we were eskimo-kissing[ha sounds weird]then he kissed me on the forehead and left.I went outside.my bff was out there, she told me he had tried kissing her in the hall way ealier that day after I told her me and him were like flirting inside or w/e.he came out and she told him that i knew he madeout w/ her.he told her he wanted to go out with me again. and she told me and i said no. later that nite she told me how she wantd me to go out with him just so mite heart would get broken then she would have her chance w/ him. then she told me later that she was a compolsive liar. and then i was thinking about it and realized. wat if she didnt want to say no? it has been driving me crazy. what should i do? i still like the guy. but she told me he already had 3 g/f. but was that just one of her lies?

2007-07-26 20:10:41 · 7 answers · asked by Miki 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok so here is the deal.. Me and my boyfriend got engaged last month none of our family knows yet... My fiancee is mormon and I am Baptist.. His parents HATE that..I dont know what to do.. I have already talked to his mother and she sounded ok about me being a different religion but when she is not around me she starts saying that I am just trying to have a baby with him and all that.. WELL first of all I am only 17, we havent even done that yet and she has no right to say that about me behimd my back.. Although he has stuck up for me all the times that she has said something she still goes on and on about how I just want to get into his pants.. I dont think this is right.. What should I do??? please someone help I really LOVE this guy and his mom is destroying our relationship...

2007-07-26 20:10:11 · 13 answers · asked by *baby due* April 20th 2011!!! 2 in Family

2007-07-26 20:08:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I live here in the US but everyonce a year i go to my hometown in mexico and for the past 2 years in December ive been seeing this same guy,u might say like a relationship but im confused because were together over there like if we were boyfriend and girlfriend but im not shure if this is going anywhere i mean should i still see him wen i go back?but when im there i have feelings for him but once the year passes it sort of fades out a little.What would u call this kind of love?

2007-07-26 20:01:57 · 9 answers · asked by ShinyGlove 4 in Singles & Dating

some guy just said that
its just weird

he said people under 20 should just be dating and seeing what we like, NOT in a relationship.

umm.. this isnt like.. the 70s (80s?)
people dont use the term "going steady"anymore

dating someone, is pretty much being in a relationship
now days
lol

for people where i live anyway

opinions anyone?

idk, im 16, and my boyfriend is 20.
(before you start being a jerk, if both of the couples parents are ok with it, it isnt illegal :D my dads a cop)
weve been together for awhile, and theres no problems yet

2007-07-26 19:56:56 · 16 answers · asked by bleedlikeme21 2 in Singles & Dating

I just recently found a a girl at my church likes me. I am 20 (be 21 in aug) and she is 23. Now she has a daughter of about 2 years of age. Now I am really good with kids and have always loved them. Im just wonting some relationship advise on how to proceed with such a relationship. Tips and maybe some first hand experience with how to make it work. Besides the oveus, what would be some things that I should keep in mind when it comes to asking her out.

2007-07-26 19:50:34 · 7 answers · asked by BIG TUG 1 in Singles & Dating

i think the headline says it all
so give me some answers

?????

2007-07-26 19:50:04 · 16 answers · asked by rachelle 1 in Singles & Dating

Im not a traditional girl at all. And i want a Black wedding dress. But hes a traditional boy... how do we compromise this one??

2007-07-26 19:49:37 · 28 answers · asked by Citrus 2 in Weddings

we had a relationship for one yr and a half now and we always argue for those long period he always hides his cellphone and has pictures of girls in his wallpaper. this makes me jealous and he is always telling me that those are only friends. Everytime he will hang out with his "friends as what he told me" he always turning off his cellphone. I cannot contact him . He will just call me when he is about to go home . When we are hanging out he is turning his cellphone mute and never answer his cell in front of me or as an excuse "I'll go to the restroom ok" . One time he will hang out but I told him not to and he was so mad; phone rang and he doesnt want me to see who's calling that made me jealous and upset. Everytime I sleep in his house or vice versa his cellphone is turned off and hide it. I have strong feeling that there something is going on . What shld I do I'm afraid to lose him bec I love this guy but it hurts me a lot about those signs Pls help.

2007-07-26 19:48:18 · 9 answers · asked by anne 1 in Singles & Dating