Ok so here is the deal.. Me and my boyfriend got engaged last month none of our family knows yet... My fiancee is mormon and I am Baptist.. His parents HATE that..I dont know what to do.. I have already talked to his mother and she sounded ok about me being a different religion but when she is not around me she starts saying that I am just trying to have a baby with him and all that.. WELL first of all I am only 17, we havent even done that yet and she has no right to say that about me behimd my back.. Although he has stuck up for me all the times that she has said something she still goes on and on about how I just want to get into his pants.. I dont think this is right.. What should I do??? please someone help I really LOVE this guy and his mom is destroying our relationship...
2007-07-26 20:10:11 · 13 answers · asked by *baby due* April 20th 2011!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you got to let it be...If you are going to get married, for better of for worse come in the picture..it's one of your wedding vows you will have to live up to. Sometimes the family can be the 'worse' part...but you need to live up to your vows. It's between you and him, the only thing you need to promise her..is that you'll take care and love her son. Other than that, you have nothing to prove to her. Your religions are yours to figure out, and only yours.
2007-07-26 20:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is your fiance in all this? Both you and your fiance need to sit down with his and your parents and clarify things with them.What is your (and his) living arrangements. Do both of you have your High School Diploma?Are both of you working? If the two of you had a child, would this be a problem?I am assumming you each still live with your respective parents. Parents do not wish for their children to have complicated lives because of unexpected parent hood?Perhaps you and your fiance can get your respective parents to visit each other's church. The unknown and false thinking is what often cause these feelings. Perhaps you two may not truly be in love and both sets of parents can see this.Usually, at your age, what you want in a man will change.I am going to be straight forward on this, but a man at your age is set in his ways. Usually what happens is when a female gets in her twenties, the hunk she liked when she was younger, is not what she really wanted and the situation ends in divorce.An old saying comes to mind,"A man marries a woman, hoping she never changes, a women marries a man, hoping she can change him.".If a compimise is not worked out, things could become complicated. Try to imagine where you want your life to be in 3-4 years and ask at the present situation, will you get there?
2007-07-26 21:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Clyde N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a lot of similar problems in the past. My ex-mother-in-law like me at first but started butting in and eventually broke us up. Also, I am a Christian and my ex is an aethiest. BAD IDEA!!! It says in the bible not to be unequally yolked with one who is not a Christian. You are a baptist so you are Christian. Mormons are not Christians. You will have major problems down the road because of your opposing religions. It is very hard for a Christian to be married to someone who is not and vice versa for the other person. I would SERIOUSLY consider what you are doing. You have your whole life ahead of you. You don't want to start out with problems in life. I would have a two or three year engagement to really consider everything becuase this is your life. You don't want to take it lightly.
2007-07-26 20:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was told that when you marry the guy, you marry the family too. If they hate you now, then it will not get better over time.
Mormons are supposed to convert you to their faith and if they don't they are to divorce you and find someone in the church that is of the opposite situation and marry them.
Have you talked about what church you will go to once you get married? That is a key thing that you need to decide. If he won't give in about the Mormon church, then you are better off to find someone else.
2007-07-29 00:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you do nothing
Or you do something
Or you both do something
It is not unusual for mothers of sons to feel something about the woman that their sons would like to marry.
Although nobody knows you are engaged. Right.
So some woman have difficulty with who their sons are dating.
Don't take it personally.
It will either change, or stop
It doesn't matter either way.
You could talk to her and let her get to know you
You could ask your boyfriend to say something to her
Or you could both say something to her together.
This is no right or wrong way.
Take your time
Timing is important.
There is no hurry
You may get only one chance
You may get more than one chance
His mother can only destroy your relationship if you let her.
His mother can only destroy your relationship if he lets her.
Talk to your boyfriend about it.
After all, you are going to spend the rest of your life with him.
2007-07-26 21:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult, and she sees you as a kid. You made an adult choice, so assume the role of adult and talk it out with her. You're only 17, maybe you shouldn't be engaged anyways? If you don't know how to talk with her about that, then talk to her about things that you know she likes.
2007-07-26 20:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by MotaroRIP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become a Latter Day Saint.
2007-07-26 20:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this isnt that helpful but i wanna be honest.
ur not gonna be able to control his mom.
this is just one of the obstacles in life.
if u love this guy that much, then u will be able to get thru this together.
prove his mom wrong!
good luck=)
2007-07-26 20:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably thinks you are used to a different "lifestyle" because of your Mormonality, as opposed to the Baptistocity.
2007-07-26 20:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay away from his mother.. and if still she says something nasty just dont respond on those really stupid things.. & for sure in coming time she will stop herself to say those things ..
be cool !! :-))
2007-07-26 20:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋