what should one do if her relationship with her partner didnot work out even after 25 years and want to leave?

Answer 1

Twenty five years is a lot of time for someone to remain in an incompatible relationship.Given our Indian culture I would say that if you have been able to sustain the marriage somehow or the other for 25 years,you should try to adjust for the rest of your life too.I say this because if u were to separate now the chances are that you will have to spend the rest of your life alone. And i tell you it is not at all easy to spend one's later years alone,more so when one does not have a regular source of livelihood which seems to be the case with you.

Answer 2

If there are not (minor) children involved, make a clean break of it (after putting your marital *and personal* financial affairs in order).

Be open and honest...don't invent reasons like "I need to find myself."

If there are minor children involved, figure-out the best way to end it with the least amount of damage to them...since if they are old enough to understand that "mommy and daddy are not going to be living together anymore," they are old enough for psychological damage - which *will* occur.

Once you've done that, and reaslied that placing children with the mother is NOT the best route in each divorce - despite what lazy Judges and Vengeful Cheated On women say.

Come to terms with the following facts:
1) Children will almost always be hurt (regardless of the age).
2) A divorce automatically means that your (and your spouse's) lifestyle is going to change for the worse. (Two households cost more than one.)
3) You WILL feel like you have just had an amputation...even if for the last ten years you've only been going through the motions.
4) You will be looked at as an object of pity - you couldn't keep your marriage alive! (This is true regardless of whom - if either of you - is responsible for it dying.)
5) Once a marriage has died, it is best to end it as quickly and painlessly as possible before it begins to stink-up the place. (Paraphrase: Lazerus Long, a ficticious character)

Answer 3

People grow at different levels.
If you feel that you had outgrown your marriage, then you know what to do.
But you will never seize to forget the memories, and if he does move on faster than you initially anticipated then you will probably not be too happy.
To be dumped sometimes is easire than to be the dumpee in the long run, because you would not be given the benefit of the doubt in the 1st case, but in the second you would have to deal with feelings of guilt and shared memories which you threw away to the wind.
Think about it and weigh your options further

Answer 4

Wow! 25 years is a long time and I struggle to get to 10 no matter how much I love him.

If you do leave make sure it is on good terms and after 25 years I dare say it will be on good terms.

Divide everything maturely and with dignity.

Answer 5

I think leaving your partner is not a problem cos you can't be in a relationship for 25years and its still not working out. try and sit your partner down and talk over the issues that is causing the relationship and let him understand that you would love that your friendship worked. after that let him know your mind and leave on a good note.

Answer 6

Get your financial affairs in order, talk to a lawyer and follow his advice. If you're not happy and the relationship didn't work out, leave....

Answer 7

Sometimes things just end. Get an attorney, follow his advice. If you don't have a separate bank account, open one. Know your assets and how to protect them. Take care of yourself. I don't think you will regret it. There is nothing lonelier than living with someone you don't love.

Answer 8

follow ur instinct