we met 4 yrs ago and things started off rocky but have got alot better, we have been on and off alot in those years..
but lately things are settled ( the last year or too)
i hardly see him in the weekedays just on weekends! when i text him in the week he doesnt even reply and his phone is always off? when the weekend comes i see him and ask him why and he pretends he never got them or he had no credit which is really getting to me
ive told him that it annoys me but he still does it! is it because i still come running back?
when i see him we go to friends, pub etc in his area so i doubt he has another girl on the go (he doesnt drive) he calls me his gf and eveyone in his area knows we are together but it looks alot different on my end, none of my friends see him...i just want a normal boyfriend that treats me like i should be treated! all i want is his time and i don't even get that!
he does smoke alot of weed and is into alot of things but i love him and i want to make it work
2007-07-26 21:05:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless he has a really stressful job, there is no reason why you shouldn't be seeing him during the week. Sounds like he may be seeing someone else...don't doubt that just yet...
2007-07-26 21:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by spideygurl38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion things don't add up, It sounds like his midweek activities may involve somebody else. Does he work?? if so does he work away? After 4 years of being together even on and off you would have thought things would hav been different. Whilst you keep going back to him and letting him treat you like a doormat he will! After 4 years he still isnt treating you right and still can't give you his time...he is never going to change.... i know its dificult to move on but there are men out there who will treat you well, love you and give you all the time in the world......why don't you give yourself the chance to have that and go your seperate ways from the man your with now. Weed will definately not be helping the situation and your best of out of there. If your friend came and asked your advice with the same problem...you answer would be....leave him!! well thats your answer too.... you have to kep your self respect rather than be at his beck and call. good luck
2007-07-27 04:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in a pretty one-sided relationship and could do a lot better.
I don't think this guy applies, but in your relationships, make sure you aren't smothering, or expecting more than a reasonable amount of attention and dedication. If you have too much invested in a relationship, if he is your end all be all everything, it could be that you aren't getting as much back...which is actually because you must be an individual first. You must have your own identity, your own passions, etc aside from your relationship. If you don't, it may be that the guy is giving closer to an appropriate level than you are.
2007-07-27 04:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he has another girl, or maybe even a wife through the week, and only see's you on the weekends, (when he can tell the wife he is going on a business trip). Have you met his parents and/or siblings? The friends he introduces you to may not be his weekday circle of friends and family. Ask to meet his family, asap, if he refuses, there is major problems, if he agrees, then there is some other explaination. Do what you have to do before you waist anymore time in this realationship. Even if you have to follow him one night. Best of luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-27 04:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by teeki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the nearest exit. The guy has something going on and it isn't you. Go out NOW and buy Greg Berhendt's book, "He's Just Not That Into You". It rocks.
You deserve someone who will be with you 100% and not keep secrets.
There are plenty of great guys out there wondering where someone as great as you is hiding. Let them know where you are!
2007-07-27 04:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Gr8estluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing for me during the weekdays is I enjoy my downtime from work... so I can understand him not wanting to see anyone during the week for the most part. Since he is available on the weekends for you I think that is a very good sign. Ask to see him either a Tuesday OR a Wednesday night to break up the work week, that shouldn't be too much to ask...
2007-07-27 04:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by 33ea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sum it up in four letters, darlin'...
GTFO.
He's a LOSER.
Yeah, you are making yourself too available, and he is taking advantage of that.
You started as eff buddies, and, key word you said here...
SETTLED.
Think of this... just because HE doesn't have a car, doesn't mean potential chick #2 doesn't.
Cut your losses...
You're NOT going to make it work, you're NOT going to change him, and you're NOT going to be happy with this guy, considering how you feel now.
I'm just being honest and forward here.
Get out before he knocks you up and takes off. Doesn't sound like he's too "with it" in the responsibility department.
Just because you love HIM, doesn't mean he loves YOU.
Good luck!
2007-07-27 04:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to sound harsh but if i was you id get out now.i have been with a few lads that smoke weed and believe me ...those relationships were the worst possible.but not only that,it sounds like he is messing you about.maybe not with another girl,but like you said...he knows you will always come running back to him.it's been four years now,so if he aint already commited 100% then chances are it just aint going to happen
2007-07-27 04:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by emma t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a looser to me. You need someone that will give you a truth full answer no mater what the question. He doesn't want to be around you during the week for some reason. Sounds like he is playing games just like a looser, drug addicted person, would.
2007-07-27 04:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Bighead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are just someone for the weekend, if that is not what you are looking for and want more of a commitment then it may be time to look else where.
2007-07-30 20:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋