I'm engaged to be married and my fiance and I haven't lived together yet. I've been with him for about 7 months and we aren't getting married until next Spring and even though we haven't really lived with each other yet we have spent the night together several times and I already do his laundry, clean his apartment, and do several other things for him and it's not like we have beliefs against it but my mom things since we waited already, we should just wait until after we are married to live together plus his parents already hate me and would love to have something else against me. My lease is over at the end of next month and I've been thinking about it a lot. What do you think should I move in with him or not?
2007-07-26 21:23:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly NO! Living relationships generally don't last forever and marriages are bound to last forever as their is committment and sacrifice. So you have to decide else your fiancee may take this as an opportunity to discard you on the pretext of his parents. Just be careful and take care.
2007-07-26 21:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Gaps 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guess what, you're living together but have different residences. Take the plunge move in, that way you get to see all sides of him the good the bad the ugly the first thing in the morning, the last thing at night, the overly horny, the frustrated, everything he gets to hide when you're not there you guys will learn to deal with eachother's idiosyncracies better this way.
2007-07-27 04:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should. You won't really know him unless you live with him.
One of my friends almost made this mistake. She got engaged to a man who she has known since childhood and about a month before they got married, they moved in with eachother ( just because he got kicked out of his house ), after living together, they come to find out that they couldn't live together and you can't marry someone you can't get along with while living with them. Well my friend never married this guy, they are still friends though.
2007-07-27 04:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mom22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think too that you should wait. Not for anyone's sake but your own. Start your marriage fresh with excitement. Statistics strongly show that living together before marriage does nothing to improve the marriage (or destroy it) in the long run, so why not make your mother, his mother and yourself happy and anticipate the day when you can truly live together as man and wife. It's more romantic too!
2007-07-27 08:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by mab5096 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope I would want my life to start as his wife and not take away from that. I would ask mom if I could come back home and save my apt money for something in my marriage. I would respect my moms wishes and wait! It will be more special and fun those sweet first days of marriage, Don't cheat yourself out of that
2007-07-27 05:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not you'll save money. Do what you feel is right don't other peoples judgements affect you. People will always talk you can't please anyone else but yourself and your fiance. I lived with my husband 4 yrs before we got married married for 8 yrs
Good Luck and congratulations:)
2007-07-27 11:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him about it, they are his parents. It might be financially benefitial to move in now rather than wait for months. You would only have one rent payment, one set of utilities, and such. It would help a little to spend constant time with him. Make sure he is okay with it.
2007-07-27 04:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, I can tell you that it may be a good idea to live with him first. You'll get a much clearer picture of what he'll be like when you do get married.
2007-07-27 04:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by R e a v e r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait it out. Marriage has something to it that gives the married couple what it needs to make things work, and that's grace.
2007-07-27 04:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by jayp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a greater risk of divorce if you do live together before you get married. So I guess if you don't like him at all then live together first.
2007-07-27 04:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew E 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋