She left me for her coworker lover and 6 weeks later she wants me to come to dinner? we have two kids...she is still with him. Is she just being nice while i deal with a ripped out heart?
2007-07-26 20:54:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she may still love your dearly or she may just be trying to be civil.
They could be having problems and she may have realized the terrible mistake she has made.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side but some people just can't help but to run through it.
Go to dinner and see what it is she wants. Remember that once you had children your lives became obsolete. Everything you do now should be for them.
2007-07-26 20:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is ask her. If she continues this relationship with the coworker, you'll have to deal with the situation for the sake of the kids. You'll have to put on a good face and keep the main thought in mind that you've got to be an adult and do what's right for your kids, even though your "wife" may not.
It might help for you to talk to a psychologist. They can give you some tools to help deal with your current feelings. I'm recommending this because it helped me in a similar situation. The kids were happy because everybody got along. We didn't have to be best friends, but we were cordial. This worked because we acted like adults.
2007-07-26 21:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a whole number of reasons: maybe she's doing it for the kids; or maybe she thinks you can all just get along - because that's what she wants, or maybe she is feeling a little guilty and wants to check you are eating OK.
Either way, think carefully before accepting and being a guest in her new surroundings. It may just be too soon......
2007-07-26 20:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bart S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's not being nice. She's being selfish. She either wants to feel you out to see if you're interested in getting back together, or she wants to ask you for a divorce. My money's on the first one.
Good luck.
2007-07-26 20:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gr8estluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't know until you go.
She may need 'closure' if she is meeting you by herself, i.e. she is not being escorted by her alleged lover.
Or she may want to discuss some related legal issues, such as divorce papers, custody, etc. .
I wouldn't however raise my hopes of a reconciliation after such a short period of time.
But please go and hope for the best
2007-07-26 21:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by firefaerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she living wit her new lover now? anyway, there's too many possibilities. Jus go & see wht this bit-ch wants. I dun care whether she's trying to be nice or wht, she's definitely a bit-ch. Go kick some a-s-s!!!
2007-07-26 21:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Roy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs to discuss some issues involving your kids.
2007-07-26 20:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by Amy W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She wants to rub her new man in your face! forget her and focus on your kids and your life without her!
2007-07-26 20:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Bighead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either ur kids are asking about u...or she still wants u...
im a woman and we dont invite ex to anything for fun...its usually for a reason...and it sounds like she wants to make things beter...
2007-07-26 20:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be joking...
Done is done in my book.
If she has issues about the kids to discuss tell her to call you, other wise, no can do X.
GL
Risky
2007-07-26 21:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by risky_art 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋