Family & Relationships - 19 July 2007

I am separated from my husband of 6 years. We were married for 5 years before we separated, so we have been separated for 1 year. I started dating a guy about 6 months ago, that I really care so much about, and I let him know at the time that I was going through a divorce, and he was okay with that as long as everything was completely over between myself and my husband. Now 8 months later, I am in love with this man, and he with me. We are really happy together. However, my husband now wants a second chance, I was the one that initiated the separation due to my unhappiness in the relationship, and he says he has changed and wants a second chance. I know that he has changed many of the things that I am unhappy with so now I am torn. I am from a very religious family that does not believe in divorce, and they are now pressuring me to give him a second chance. On one hand I feel a sense of obligation to him, after all it is "until death do you part", but on the other hand I simply cannot bear to tell this other guy, that I cannot see him anymore. The very thought of it makes my heart break. I know my husband had told people close to me that I was the best thing that ever happened to him, and he knows how royally he screwed up with me. But he has also told them that he isn't going to give me much more time to change my mind about the divorce, and I honestly don't know how I feel about it. I have run through the scenario in my mind, of breaking up with my BF and going to counseling with my husband, and the thought brings me to tears. At the same time, there is that little nagging thought in the back of my head, that my husband will always be there, he is just a loyal kind of guy. But what if my BF eventually breaks my heart, then I will be left alone, and maybe wishing I had worked things out with my husband, and no chance to do so at that point. So to sum it all up, I guess my question is " Do I give my husband a second chance just because he is my husband, and give up the man I am in love with? All this in hopes of falling in love with my husband again?"

2007-07-19 13:53:40 · 8 answers · asked by atablackbelt 3 in Marriage & Divorce

if u r in love with someone, how much do u love them? do u feel like u cant live without them and wish u were with them every second of the day? what r ur feelings for ur special someone????

2007-07-19 13:50:41 · 8 answers · asked by hot_mama 3 in Singles & Dating

What do you think of it?
I like it, its entertaining.
But I think the brides are very trashy and have no class.
Like it seems to me like they don't even love their fiances, that they just like being bitchy and trashy.

2007-07-19 13:49:46 · 15 answers · asked by ♫amazing♫ 3 in Weddings

Well, i just wanted to say a lot of people that I know do this, so its not far-fetched, but to give the bridal party jewelry to wear on the wedding as a gift. But where is a good place that is cheap like 10-25 bucks, but pretty things they would want to wear??

2007-07-19 13:49:04 · 20 answers · asked by rhiannon r 2 in Weddings

do you believe in love at first site?

2007-07-19 13:47:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Before she was my wife, she was my girlfriend (obviously), and we had sex 5 or 6 times a week for the first year. As we dated, year after year for 4 years, that slowed down to once a week. I figured that was normal (even though I wished it was more), but now that we've been married 2.5 years, it went to once every two weeks, to once a month, to now it's July and we've had sex twice in 7 months! She still seems loving and caring, and nothing else seems to be wrong except she just never wants to sleep with me at all anymore. She says it's normal but I think it's really really not. We're both in our early 30's and I am seriously worried about our future. I love her like crazy but I don't know if I can continue... without. We have no children yet and I don't even want any with someone I am so nervous about a furture with. I feel so shallow because otherwise she is everything I could ever want. We had such a great sex life before marriage and now we have literally none. Any ideas?

2007-07-19 13:37:43 · 23 answers · asked by Simian 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A friend of mine that I'm visiting out of state this weekend invited me to her friend's Jack & Jill party and said she'd get me a ticket- what's that about? What can I expect at this type of party?

2007-07-19 13:37:09 · 13 answers · asked by Danielle 7 in Weddings

This was one of my answers in my other q.

She said, "Girls like to see guys having a difficult time" in chasing them.

Why is that?

Is that true?

I think many are like that.

why?

2007-07-19 13:36:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-19 13:31:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

And can stay together?

2007-07-19 13:30:39 · 23 answers · asked by Marge 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Im 19, in college and its hard keeping youre legs closed when youre enviorment is eating breathing and sleeping sex. I would love to hear what you think and hear tips to stay pure.

2007-07-19 13:25:26 · 12 answers · asked by angelablsy 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I need some cheap neat ideas for a country western wedding that is going to be in the later part of september. Also what would be a good flower for a single flower bouquet for the bride?

2007-07-19 13:20:54 · 12 answers · asked by nurse_in_ky_2005 1 in Weddings

Been 2gether a little over 2 years, and i honestly thought we were to the point where it would be a great idea for us to get an apt. He said he wants to but "he needs his own space". I CAN respect that but i can't help that my feelings are deeply hurt by his decision. Basically what he is telling me is he's not as committed as he SAYS he is. I respect his decision a 100% but this is really frustrating to me because i thought we were better than that and at a point in our relationship where we could make this happen. Guess not. Am i wrong for feeling hurt by his decision? Rude answers i will report because this is serious to me and i honestly am hurt by this. Thanks in advance

2007-07-19 13:18:31 · 9 answers · asked by janetgoins19 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I dont know what to do, I am so miserable.
The guy I loved for 5 years just broke my heart. We have been BESt friends for about 6 years, I developed deep feelings for him as time grew, even when I had other boyfriends, I always thought of him. Me and him never "went out" we hooked up and made out a few times and I thought he liked me.
recently he stopped talkng to me so i told him i was upset that he tricked me. he was like what do you mean tricked u? i told him " u made me think u liked me when it was obviously bull sh it. " and he replied sayig "sorry" WHAT!!!!! SORRY?! so i said what ever and he said dont be all pissed.

im having a hard time dealing with this because i loved him for so long, no matter what guy im with

2007-07-19 13:18:02 · 14 answers · asked by just me 3 in Singles & Dating

how do you get over your ex ? i still like my ex its just that i dont know how to get over him. help me and i dreamed about him like 3 times in a row

2007-07-19 13:17:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

and when it's good it's just all good. I seem to be getting yelled at by my husband alot this week. And nothing last week. :(:(:(:(:(:(

2007-07-19 13:14:37 · 12 answers · asked by Marge 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Males, if a female gives it up to you the first night are you reluctant to even pursue her. How long are you willing to wait? Details...

2007-07-19 13:12:42 · 15 answers · asked by RainbowBrite 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I separated in '98, -then eventually divorced.
I never shed a tear, it had been 7 years of hell, -I was all too happy to see him go. Over the years, I came to some realizations, and events played through my mind, I pretty much KNEW that he never loved me, never wanted to marry, only did it to make himself look good-and got me pregnant to keep himself out of jail/prison. He was never there for me, it was never a WE situation, it was all about him, him, him, I just knew deep down, and it never bothered me-other than feeling like an idiot for wasting my life with someone like that-
my problem is, he finally-(in a heated argeument the other evening)-confessed all of the above---now, that I've heard him say all of those things, I am so hurt and messed up inside. I think about it and I just want to cry, --why? why now? I don't understand,,,,how do I deal with this, I am not sure I want to-just why now does it bother me, when it hasn't all of these years? Why now?

2007-07-19 13:10:05 · 6 answers · asked by trinity3x3 3 in Marriage & Divorce

NOTHING INAPPROPRIATE

2007-07-19 13:08:28 · 5 answers · asked by ashley<3 3 in Family

well, maybe not all of them, but i already have my bridesmaids and he said that i need to add his sister as well. i like her an all, but i don't want her in the wedding. im already putter her daughter in as a 2nd flower girl. he keeps saying, that its his wedding too...but its my choice who i ask to be a bridesmaid...right?

i don't want to ask her cause i don't want her in it...her child is in the wedding. i didn't really want her in it either because she is 4 and out of control. im afraid she will yell or scream at people as she walks down the aisl ...or start to cry...

i told him that she will help me with what i need help on...but he wants his WHOLE family to have a part in some way...i just want to get married, i don't want all this stress...they can help if they wish..its just my fiance...he thinks he has the final word in this wedding...its mine too and if i don't want her in it, that should be my choice, right?

am i in the wrong here??

2007-07-19 13:02:30 · 23 answers · asked by *+*+baby dust*+*+ 2 in Weddings

I really love her, don't know what to do, help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-07-19 13:02:21 · 11 answers · asked by pas 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi i have been marry for 3 yrs now but i never loved my wife, i marry her because i wanted to come to the state, well everything went well now i have been in the state for 3yrs now, i n her friend had a crush on each other, my wife wanted to link her to my bestfriend so i decided to play a little trick on her which i told my wife to see if she is good though i loved her my trick work and she told my wife i said i think i liked her but later she came on to asking me if i were serious that i love her and i ask her if she were serious that she love, she said yes, i told her i would think about it.She told me she like me and my friend but it is me that she know better than and she really liked me. I don't know what to do, she said if i liked she is willing to have a life with me. Does she also trying to play a trick on her cuss since the last time she told my wife we have had alot of conversation and she has not mention any word to my wife infact she told me she was crazy about me.

2007-07-19 13:00:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-19 13:00:38 · 8 answers · asked by puspha g 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband and i married 4 years hes controlling mean nasty and claims to have my best interests @ heart says he loves me but has cheated alot my kids and family dont like him, ive left him several times but i cant stand him anymore i feel like im not giving him enuff chances or whatever but i know i dont love him i just want away from him i cant have friends im not allowed to watch certain tv shows and i have to go to bed at the same time he does or i hear b*tching for days on end on how im a bad wife and i dont do my WIFELY duites for him he always puts me down and i just take it most of the time it doesnt do any good to stand up against him thank god he hasnt laid a hand on me but any advice would be greatly appreciated i work in a very hot environment every day and come home to pick up his dirty clothes strung from the front door to the bedroom then cook then do the wifey thing plz should i leave or is this what we r suppose to put up with?

2007-07-19 12:56:36 · 30 answers · asked by fl_native69 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ah, she thought, can there be a story here?

She called out to the male, "Peace to you. Why are you sitting on that rock?"

The male turned to face her, but said nothing.
The female shouted again, "Please come here, I must ask you a question."
The male became curious. He rose slowly and carefully made his way to the sand. Still, he said nothing.
"You do not speak," the female said, "perhaps you are unable to speak?"
"I can speak," the male answered, but I prefer not to do so."
Ignoring this remark, the female continued, "I am called Elaine. What are you called?"
"This is not for you to know," the male replied. "However, you may call me by your first initial."
"You wish me to call you "E?"
"Yes."
"Peace then, E. Now, why were you sitting in such a dangerous place?"
"You are curious, like me," E said. "Therefore, I will tell you."

2007-07-19 12:54:08 · 6 answers · asked by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 in Singles & Dating

Do you agree with "The more time you spend with your crush, the more you don't like them?"

2007-07-19 12:49:39 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I lost my virginity to my best friend, and we've been doing it often here lately, and I'm starting to get feelings for him, but he doesn't want anything like that...I don't want to stop having sex with him because I'm starting to get feelings for him, I just want to know if its possible he does care for me a little bit?

2007-07-19 12:48:16 · 26 answers · asked by honey_pooh2004 1 in Singles & Dating

my bf(husband) jason proposed to me during
our class end of the year trip to las vegas.
we got married in the little white chapel.
how do i tell my parents.
im only 14.
please dont hate!

2007-07-19 12:47:51 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What do you feel is appropriate? Personally, I'm a little shy. Out in public, a peck on the cheek is as far as it goes...if that far, depending on the situation.

2007-07-19 12:47:28 · 6 answers · asked by Dee 1 in Singles & Dating

OPINIONS

2007-07-19 12:47:04 · 32 answers · asked by MR. KNOW IT ALL 1 in Singles & Dating