2007-07-19 13:31:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sit down and talk it out. After talking it through you should be able to either:
1. Find a compromise if it's an issue where there is no right or wrong, just opinions
2. Admit that you are wrong and apologize
OR 3. Persuade the other side that you are right, and lovingly forgive them.
Then you go on. Of course there IS a fourth option: just stir the problem up some more and go away mad....but what good is that?
2007-07-19 13:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have small conflicts or arguments then one of you should just say I'm going for a walk and when I get back maybe we can talk about this without fighting. This will give both of you a chance to calm down and think things through. Never bring up the past when fighting. The is just that, THE PAST. If things are worse that this then I would suggest one or both of you seek help from the church or some professional. That's about the only way to see the light and figure out the next best step.
2007-07-19 21:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by insane one 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some conflict is always present in any marriage. If the result of conflict is non-stop arguing or violence, you must seek professional counseling. Yes this is a difficult process but if your spouse is willing to make a sincere effort then it should be a sign of dedication the marriage.
Other ways to just cope day to day is to make sure you have friends (same sex as you only please). Being able to vent and complain to someone else can be a relief. But do not be tempted to do this family or his friends, it won't work. My divorce proves that family and friends will just complain about being involved than to realize they could help dissolve the conflict.
I hope one day you and spouse will be able to laugh one day about the conflicts you used to have. That is the sign of a perfectly normal relationship. Best wishes.
2007-07-19 20:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about the conflict. If you get it out in the open and discuss it resentment and anger won't grow until you can't even look at each other without getting mad. It's the little things that add up over a period of time, piled on top of each other until it becomes a huge thing and an all out war. Discuss what is bothering you as calm and respectful adults and you can get through any conflict.
2007-07-19 20:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Conflicts will happen it happens in all relationships. Talk to each other about your issues. If you are going to take a stand then follow what I call "pick your battles" which basically means only make a stand when its important enough to risk an argument and not choose little petty things. If your unable to work out things on your own then seek out a therapist that specializes in marriage counseling. Also sometimes it helps to see an individual therapist yourself to work on the things that may be your doing or need to work on.
2007-07-19 20:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, Don't discuss conflict in anger, Wait until you both can sit calmly and discuss the conflict along with suggestions to end the conflict which then will take compromise.Try to be more into the solution rather than the problem.
2007-07-19 20:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by free_mark53 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definetely want to sit down and have a mature conversation, but before you do make a list about the things that are bothering you and your feelings toward what is going on in the relationship. Don't point fingers, this will get you nowhere....stay focus and positive. Best not to have this "talk" at home find a neutral place. Best of luck.
2007-07-19 21:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my hubbie communicate well and always compromise. I am not always right and neither is he. We both discuss discipline regarding our 2 yr old and we form a United Front (haha) when it comes to her. You have to also pick your battles. Dont nit pick at small things, and dont keep the big things inside until one of you blow up. Just talk, talk, talk. If you cant communicate, then counseling is in order for the sake of your child.
2007-07-20 02:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by vixxen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to cope is either to discuss it like to mature adults or seek couseling together.
2007-07-19 20:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get all details, then weigh out the issue.
2007-07-19 20:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋