Im 19, in college and its hard keeping youre legs closed when youre enviorment is eating breathing and sleeping sex. I would love to hear what you think and hear tips to stay pure.
2007-07-19 13:25:26 · 12 answers · asked by angelablsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Keep yourself, do not fall into the temptation of carnal sin. Believe me it's not worth it. Find that special someone and enjoy your life together. I hope you make the right decision. God Bless.
2007-07-19 13:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait for someone special to have your first experience but not necessarily wait till you are married. Sexuality is a big part of marriage and you don't want to wait on your wedding night to know if you are compatible in that department. So many people have waited till marriage to have sex for the first time then a few months into it they realize their mate doesn't like sex or is very inhibited about it, they have a miserable life and years down the road they have affairs. You are a young woman now you can do what ever you want, even having sex 'protected' as you wish, just be smart about it.
2007-07-19 13:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised in a very Christian home and struggled with this very much. Don't just go have sex with anybody to know what it is like. Most likely you will be disappiointed.
I was 18 my first time had every desire to marry the man I was with. We had been dating for 1 year and a half b4 I gave in. I don't really say I regret it, but I did fee guilty for a while about it.
Whether you wait until marriage is not is up to you. But make sure that you do wait until you love somebody. Sex complicates things and once you are that intimate with someone you feel a stronger connection to them.
Tips to stay pure:
-don't surround yourself with people that constantly talk about sex... here and there is probably ok as long as that is not all they are talking about.
-only date in public, don't go back to a mans dorm room or apartment and don't let them go to yours.
-stay away from alcohol- will only lead to trouble
I don't know what else to tell you but good luck!
If a man pressures you that much to have sex, they don't care about you.
FYI:I am 25 thought you'd like to know I am not so old person that doesn't remember what it feels like.
Just respect yourself and your body, if you decide to have sex use protection be care and you should love him and he should love you.
Good Luck!
2007-07-19 13:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I am in the same dilemma it is like I am the only virgin around. And yes it seem so hard at times but it is the right thing to do. I think about all the girls struggling as single moms, and all the STD women are contracting. But I truly believe it worth it because that is something you only share once and why not share it with the man you want to spend your life with in marriage. At least you won't have any regrets fyi i am 21.
Be encouraged and blessed
2007-07-19 13:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by babygurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are special, because you have waited, why break your abstinence now. If you don't have a special someone to share this with, don't just throw it out there like that. Because everyone else is doing it, still have a girlfriend that you care about even you don't have to be married, just let it be a precious moment for you.
2007-07-19 14:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some one once said bad decisions take us farther than you wanted to go and kept you longer than you wanted to stay. If you do have sex you could get a disease or be used by some jerk. If you don't you lose nothing and gain your self respect. Find a new environment.
2007-07-19 13:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are strong enough you won't give in to the temptation. Don't give in to peer pressure. If someone says it's cool or attractive, don't listen to them. Remind yourself of the positives: No STD's, no babies, no awkward morning-after moments. And just think of how proud your parents would be, and how sexy your future husband would think you are for saving yourself for him.
2007-07-19 13:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't want a relationship of convenience ,,,just because you are in a restaurant with people doesn't mean u have to eat. i fasted one day at a smorgasbord and lived through it. But food is not sex we need to eat eventually sex is different it can wait much longer
2007-07-19 13:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young women should retain their virginity for their husband, and give it to him as a gift....the gift is really for themselves, because the husband will respect her so much for that....she will never regret it when she feels the respect her husband has for her....
And, don't wait long to get married...do like the Bible says and get married young...perhaps no older than 22.
2007-07-19 13:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but the best thing to do is not get in a situation where you have to decide to have sex or not
2007-07-19 13:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Metsfan01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋