I lost my virginity to my best friend, and we've been doing it often here lately, and I'm starting to get feelings for him, but he doesn't want anything like that...I don't want to stop having sex with him because I'm starting to get feelings for him, I just want to know if its possible he does care for me a little bit?
2007-07-19 12:48:16 · 26 answers · asked by honey_pooh2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, you have chosen to surrender your virginity to a friend who thinks of it as no more than a booty call (aka cheap, meaningless, carefree sex). That is why young ladies have to be really careful of who they surrender themselves to intimately . Females are more sensitive then guys. Guys have the ability to have sex with a woman and think nothing of it. The best advice me or anyone else can give you is to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your friend, however, don't be too suprised if he doesn't have any real feelings for you. This is a kind of tricky situation for you because he may wind up saying he has feelings for you so you will continue to have sex with him. Trust me on this. All females seem to think their boyfriends or sex buddies are incapable of lying to them but they are not. I am a born again Christian now, but there was a time when I wasn't. Listen closely because now I am about to let you in on a little secret. Below are the priorities of most young horny guys.
1. Sex
2. Their personal satisfaction
3. The females feelings.
Notice how the feelings of the female are at the bottom of the list. I will also like to say that sex is something special and shouldn't be abused. You should only have sex with someone you truly love and that someone should be your husband. I will keep you in my prayers. Peace and God bless. I hope everything works out.
2007-07-19 13:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
He may care but it won't translate into anything that you want. Sex won't make him stay so my advice is to stop now before you dig yourself even deeper with the whole emotional bit. Don't pay attention to all these others who shouted at you for losing it to your best friend. Shouting and scolding does no good after the deed is done but don't hold on to this because it will surely waste any time you pour into it and time is too precious to waste. Put it behind you and use the experience to make wiser choices in the future - like no more friends with benefits.
2007-07-19 13:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Boxing the Stars 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to you. You need to stop having sex with him. Giving yourself to him in hopes that he cares a "little bit" for you hurts your self esteem. Get your self respect back and walk away. If he's really a friend, he'll understand why you did it.
2007-07-19 12:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he cares for u ..u wouldnt be each others best friend if he didnt, ..its hard to know what his feelings for u are now..try talkin to him and asking him point blank, but whatever you dont sleep with him again untill u know the truth....u worth more than that and if he is really ur best friend..he should know that!
2007-07-19 12:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by carmenclassof06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never have sex with a guy unless you want the same thing: you either both want marriage, both want an exclusive relationship, both want an open relationship, both want no-relationship...it doesn't matter what you want BUT you need to want the same thing otherwise it ruins what you have and someone (meaning you) is gonna get hurt
good luck
2007-07-19 12:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u lost ur virginity to a guy that doesnt care about u.
our parent taught us better than this
just move on from him
hes only using u
2007-07-19 12:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by so_totally_awesome13 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
doubt it...why not try this stop having sex with him for a while that will be the true test if he likes u or if he's just in it for the sex....p.s. ur what they call a friend with benefits...sorry sweetie
2007-07-19 12:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really sick and pathetic that you gave the most precious thing you can physically give to someone you don't even bother to say you love, and who clearly doesn't love you.
I've got news for you, honey....HE ISN'T A FRIEND. He's a user. And you're just happy as a clam to get used.
Sex minus love equals CHEAP, SLEAZY and STUPID.
2007-07-19 12:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He cares already or it wouldn't be getting more often. Don't pressure him, maybe act like you are not as interested in him.That always drives the man nuts!And you'll find out if you are wasting your time or not!!
2007-07-19 12:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by bohicabarron 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello. Friend. 07/19/07
To understand what you are saying I do and I think he dos.
Have something for you but I think that sex will me st up.
A relationship quick you can do things like go to the movies
To gather and go walking at the mall and out to dinner.
And do other things other then go to bead all of the time.
Soon that will were out and then what so remember don't
You two have sex to much OK do something else for fun.
Write me if you need to talker to me my email is.
jerry49@mail.org OK anyone needs some one to talke to write me OK Jerry
2007-07-19 16:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by bekine49 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋