OPINIONS
2007-07-19 12:47:04 · 32 answers · asked by MR. KNOW IT ALL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether or not you trust the man is of no consequence ... The biggest question is ... Do you trust your daughter?
She's 18 and not a child any more. Talk to her. Tell her your concerns and listen to what she has to say.
2007-07-19 12:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Senza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is legally old enough to decide.
That's pretty vague description unless the only thing you care about is age. What's more important is the guy's quality.
She's not going to be a virgin forever either.
If you go after her like a madman, she will run from you. You should be the dude she trusts! Warn her, but you can't force her, or it will eventually equal trouble and heartache for you.
She's old enough to go to college, live on her own, join the military, smoke, but not old enough to drink yet.
I think if you brought her up well, trust her, but you stil have a right to tell her how you feel and be somewhat protective. Just don't hold her too tight like a handful of sand, or she'll slip away.
Sorry she didn't find someone her age, and I agree, sometimes a guy in his 30's should date someone closer to his age.
But we don't know the entire pic here. Most guys her age are way more immature (unusually) and would screw her and leave her). This guy may be more mature and sincere.
Pray. Keep an open conversation with her without making her feel too policed or judged. Teens are sensitive and can feel this!
2007-07-19 12:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm - have been in the position ! ... as the 31 yr old !
I think you need to find out [ and not from your daughter !] as much as you can about his past.
If he is a genuine guy, not a huge past of wives/girlfriends, is sensible and has a steady job, - he may be fine for her -
I was mid 20's before I dated, prior to that was shy, involved with sport etc, and have always got on well with those a fair bit younger than me.
Of course if they guy has a bad track record, then get you biggest, bestest, meanest male friend to go have a word!
2007-07-19 12:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by TPE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was indeed a sad day when I found my oldest daughter was no longer virgin, you'll get over it in time. If her man is not a bum, there's really nothing you can say to her that won't cause stress in your father-daughter relationship.
I would make a point of thouroughly checking this guy out. Sit down with him and have a man to man dicussion and among other things, ask him what are his intentions toward your daughter.
2007-07-19 12:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by ©2009 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are Hun that she isn't a virgin. I'm not saying that she is out having sex but I was 19-20 and I was dating a 29 year old and trust me he was all about sex. My dad wasn't to happy about me being with him not that he was a bad guy and he didn't like him but the fact that he was nearly his age and you know how most people are some kind of sex is defiantly involved.
2007-07-19 12:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by ~Kym~ ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is 18 there is probably not a whole lot you can do about it.
I will tell you this, I have a friend who was courted by a man about the age of your daughter's boyfriend. They now are in their 70's and late 80's. And still going strong.
2007-07-19 12:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is pray and be supportive to her. Chances are that hes not looking for a good relationship. You could forbid him from coming over, but then chances are that he will find other places for them to go. I would say continue to listen and voice your opinion. Let her know that you are there for her. Since she is legal, there isnt too much that you can do. You want to be careful b/c you dont want her running to him. Just take things one day at a time and pray you raised her right.
2007-07-19 12:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get her on birth control. she's 18, beyond that, there's not much to do. she's an adult, as much as you don't want to hear that, I'm sure. I dated a 34 year old at her age and wouldn't listen to a thing my parents said. I grew out of it pretty quickly though. Hopefully your daughter will too.
2007-07-19 12:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good thing, but all you can do is be there for her.
When I was 20 I got really screwed over by a 34 year old. No pun intended. Unless your daughter is amazing mature, this guy is trouble.
2007-07-19 12:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only she knows she if she is a virgin or not. and why would a 31 year old man want to date a girl who is much younger and knows she is a virgin unless he cant find anyone his own age?
2007-07-19 12:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by phoebe r 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋