Family & Relationships - 18 April 2007

I have been married to my high school sweetheart for a long time, we have children and a very good marriage. Over the last 5 years I have met a person that really rocked my boat as far as believing I couldn't love anyone more than my spouse. There is nothing sexual between this person and myself, but just being in their presence is paradise to me. We both feel this way about each other but we have never acted on it.

What do you do when you have someone touch your heart the way this person has? It is not a fancy or puppy love, it has been this way for several years. I avoid the person and I have tried several things to remove them from my life. The basis is that I can not get over the fact that someone has touched my heart at a much deeper and fulfilling level than my spouse ever has or could? What is a person to do? Any Advice? I feel like a liar to my spouse but I have not betrayed them, but it doesn't make life any easier...

2007-04-18 03:55:59 · 33 answers · asked by ?Meaning2Life 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i'm married and have 1 girle

2007-04-18 03:53:35 · 3 answers · asked by Aseel 4 in Marriage & Divorce

my dad is 42 and has had two long relationship both lasting twelve years both woman have screwed him up my mum took all his money and me away and his ex wife used to beat me and she took 67 thousand from him when he worked for three years on a house that she wonted. why do they think hes a push over?

2007-04-18 03:53:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If a man notices ever the slightest change in the womans hair, is that a sign that he likes her?

2007-04-18 03:51:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with my bf for almost 2 yrs now but I don´t want to be with him anymore!
Now the problem is that he doesn´t want to break up and calls every hour to talk and if I don´t answer he´ll wait outside my job and follow me home! Last night he even came to check up on me when I was training because I train with both girls and boys so he had to know what I was doing. I got so mad and we got into really big argument that ended with him kicking the door of my car so now I have to get it repaired! I´m 23 and he´s 30. We constantly fight because he want´s to start having children but I want to finish my study and get my dream job!
When he gets angry he uses the most awfull words to describe me and I feel as he enjoyes hurting me. I once slapped him for saying the most awful thing and then he locked the door in his car, started driving really fast and said that he was going to kill me. when we had been driving for 30min he looked at me and was surprised that I belived him and got angry!

2007-04-18 03:51:11 · 21 answers · asked by Justme 2 in Singles & Dating

For girls only.. i know that some of you have help about my sitaution with my half-brother before.The thing is, it went from good to bad.I went to visit him for 2weeks holiday.Very lately he flirts with me.Once we slept together on a single mattress as I could sleep anywhere else, he press his thing against my butt the whole night & the next day he deny remembering it.then on sun he was poking & tingling me in hope to irritate me, afterwards we play smackin one another & he squeeze my thighs alot.He said that i got nice body & also on our last night together, he held my hand tightly to his chest. The day I left for home, he was looking quite miserable. we are really close and I know he is my nice, caring brother.
So girls, what do you think about it and his behaviour? He is not bad, but I know he care alot for me. I cant help having feeling for him and I suspect he does too for me.
So please help me..

2007-04-18 03:50:40 · 7 answers · asked by melrap88 1 in Family

she ignores my attempts to call and emails and shes over 3 hours away. and i dont drive. should i give up on her ?
or should i keep writing her letters and stuff begging her to make ammends with me, ?

2007-04-18 03:50:38 · 8 answers · asked by Rachelle L 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

She is constantly making up stories and lying about the smallest things. What is her problem?

2007-04-18 03:49:05 · 18 answers · asked by Kimmy 4 in Marriage & Divorce

How older boyrfriend is normal? if he is 10 years older?

2007-04-18 03:46:05 · 26 answers · asked by tina 2 in Singles & Dating

I found out my husband has been talking on his cell phone to another women. He said it was because so much was going on at home, she gave him her number "Call me if you want to talk." She is engaged. Should I confront her boyfriend? I think he should know, since they are planning to marry. What are your thoughts?

2007-04-18 03:43:28 · 31 answers · asked by snailspace77 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband and i have been together for 10 years, he wants sex EVERY day, it starts and ends the same. I have nothing against sex, but after chasing a 2 yr old all day on top on all my other daily jobs and my job sometimes I would like to not have to have the sex discussion, but he gets upset, I give in and so forth EVERY day, and if I don't give in at night he wakes me up early in the morning hunching. What should I do, He doesn't listen to reason, he says he works too and that I am just against sex. Help! Please!

2007-04-18 03:41:28 · 14 answers · asked by Tina H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This is for a project I'm working on. If possible, please answer with regards to UK laws.

If a mother suffers from a serious mental illness - i.e. schizophrenia, what actions are taken out against the patient and the children? If the mother is unable to care for the children, even though she is married, would social services get involved and take the children away? Would it differ if her husband was the biological father from if he was the step father?

I would appreciate as detailed an answer as possible, thanks!

2007-04-18 03:39:05 · 5 answers · asked by Faerie 1 in Family

some theories mentions that when the size of male and female of the same species are close to each other then monogamy is the usual result. What do you think?

2007-04-18 03:36:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I know that some of you people here have read my previous question & help with my problem about my half-brother.
the thing is when I went to visit him for two weeks easter holiday, things went from good to bad. Since I stayed with him, he have been acting out of sorts with me, like he flirts with me and one night we share the single mattress as options weren't available to me 2 sleep somewhere. He pressed his things against my butt the whole night, & next day he deny remembering what happens. then last sun he keep poking & tingling me in hope to aggravate me then all of sudden we resort to play smacking & alot of time he squeeze my thighs. he even make comments that i got nice body & the last night before I came home, he held my hand tightly to his chest when we were asleep.
so for girls only..what are your thoughts & opinions on his behaviour? I know that incest is totally wrong bt I know that I cant help bt developing feelings for him and I suspect he does for me. please do help me

2007-04-18 03:34:08 · 2 answers · asked by melrap88 1 in Family

Sons are always contributing to her cause physically & financially and it's expected. Not appreciated enough to even ask her deadbeat boyfriend to get out of her house for an occasional visit from her sons/grandsons. Cant stop by & visit without calling first because she may be partying. I have no respect. I'm very angry about her mistreating her son who will never say anything to her about it.

2007-04-18 03:30:57 · 12 answers · asked by 2cutiepie4u 2 in Family

There is this guy who really loves me.I am real close to him and am very fond of him as well.The problem is that I am scared of what will happen if I get into a trelationship with him.
Let me explain our family backgrounds to you.
My parents had a love marriage and are very broad minded and democratic.They have allowed my brothers and me to choose lifepartners of our own choice.They have even unconditionally accepted my elder bro's girlfriend who is now just like a part of the family.
The guy I like has a different story altogether.His parents separated when he was 11 years old.His father was very abusive and used to beat up the mother.
I have heard that children who have grown up seeing abuse taking place in their family will turn abusive later.This is why I am scared.
He loves me a lot and I love him too.Only,I haven't yet told him that since I am hesitant to commit.His mother knows me and likes me.My parents like this guy too.What do I do?I am confused.Am I being silly?

2007-04-18 03:27:36 · 14 answers · asked by Tina S 1 in Singles & Dating

She has said she wants a sibling. Oddly enough, after we found out, we asked her again and she said she doesn't want a brother or sister. What is the best way to tell her and let her know she will still be loved just as much. We have her as much as the typical divorced father: 2 weekends a month and every tuesday. Help! We're affraid she'll dispise her new sibling and feel less loved!

2007-04-18 03:27:27 · 21 answers · asked by **happy** 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hello all, my partner and i are going through a break up, i love her dearly and dont want to lose her, I know she misses me because she told me, how can i show her how strongly i love her and how good we could be together ?, i have made mistakes but want to have it all with her, a family, our own place and to have my ring on her finger, please help ?

2007-04-18 03:25:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-18 03:22:44 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I left home to marry my husband 39 years ago. I was told by my father then that I was no longer a part of his family. After 9 years of marriage he contacted me and we got back together for appox. 5 years, but it was very rocky. When my son got very sick I called my father and told him but after 15 days and 2 surgeries later my father never called to see how he was. At that point I decided that the pain he was causing me was not worth the effort of keeping our relationship afloat. He's a very cold hearted person. I have 2 brothers whom I am also estranged from. My oldest brother and I have talked lately over the internet via Instant messanger. He and my other brother have said to at least call him and talk about anything but the past. Tell him things about my children and what they are doing in life. They suggested my children call him. because they don't want him to feel like no one cares. Ironic! I don't know what to feel for this man, but I know I still care even though I hurt

2007-04-18 03:21:27 · 13 answers · asked by codymans_gram 1 in Family

OK. It was my Grandma's birthday and my bestfriend wanted to get together. I told her we couldn't do it that day b/c it was her birthday like I just told you. She said that HER grandmother would let her go to her friends house on HER grandmother's birthday. So we had this big argument. My bestfriend just doesn't really I guess understand things. Then she got mad and started saying if we should be friends anymore. So after the birthday party I emailed her and told her that my grandmother had tears coming down her cheek b/c she was soooo delighted with what we did. Then my bestfriend apologized. Would you have done that? Would have argued with me over my grandmother's birthday?

2007-04-18 03:20:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

There are many many issues to go over and I feel like we should be on the Jerry Springer show, but I think age and her child may be a major concern. She is 18 with a 2 yr old son and I am way older than she is. Like twice her age. I have been married before for 10 years and have no kids of my own. I worry that she lacks relationship experience and won't be in it for the long haul. I don't want to make a commitment to her child as well and then 10 yrs later she goes off with a younger man with the kid and I'm heart broken. The kid may not be mine biologically, but I am still the father because I am raising the child. I don't know what the future holds and I am willing to take a big risk but how much risk is too much?? Also, I have to make a decision within the next 2 weeks because I have to go back to my home country to work again. Any suggestions would be really helpful. I love the girl and get a long with her son. She loves me too and we have had a good share of fights.

2007-04-18 03:18:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am in my late 20's now. If I am now expected to claim the interest. I feel like I should just be given the money. She's offered it in a reluctant way. The money is not that much and came from parties and things when I was kid. I am already married so I don't know when it would normally be given to me. Actually it would of helped when planning the wedding.

2007-04-18 03:17:15 · 3 answers · asked by holabird 2 in Family

Ok.....my husband and I have been having problems...I think he's cheating or at least coming very close to it (see my other questions).....he knows how I feel...I have become more vocal ..and I am concerned about something.....My husband and I have shared our passwords with each other for our emails, myspace, etc.....and every once in a while we check each others accounts....well last night I was checking one of his accounts and found that he had changed his password....Am I wrong to be upset that he changed it????? I feel very confused about this....I understand that everyone has a need for privacy, but I just assumed that when your married you shouldn't have anything to hide....especially with emails and stuff....He has all my passwords and can access my accounts at anytime....he has that right as my husband...but now I feel even more that something is going on....I know this may seem a bit trite but I am at the end of a very frayed rope.....HELP!!!!!!

2007-04-18 03:16:18 · 20 answers · asked by Sinking Slowly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-18 03:11:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

It doesn't matter if they're men or women but it just seems that the securely married are more emotionally sound and cause less problems.

2007-04-18 03:09:15 · 13 answers · asked by Put_ya_mitts_up 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My sister-in-law wants a divorce with my bro, giving the reason that she dun like me and my parents, wanting my parents to move out from the house. The house belongs to my bro and do not have her name in the ownership. They have a barely 2 yrs old baby boy. She's studying and working at the same time and my bro is working full time as a technician. If she really wants a divorce, are her reasons valid? Who will have the custordy of the son? She came from a rich family. We are not as rich as them but we lived happily. She was once chased out from her family. We are suspecting something is wrong with her... Like having an affair... what can we do??

2007-04-18 03:08:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-18 03:05:59 · 30 answers · asked by grcoleman84 1 in Marriage & Divorce

his long lost He-Man toy figure!

I mentioned the story a few days ago about how he tried to "hide" it on me 20 years ago, dug a hole in our parents backyard, and ended up not being able to find it himself despite numerous digging attempts!

I brought it up in a joking fashion, yet he is determined to find it, claiming it is worth money nowadays ... (yeah sure, an eroded plastic figure buried for 20 years)

What do you think?

Trying to settle a score of sibling rivarly?

Mentally ill?

Nothing better to do?

2007-04-18 03:02:55 · 7 answers · asked by Reserved 6 in Family

My fiancee and I are having a rough time right now. We are bth young, and we live together. We have had alot of issues such as the fact that i have spoiled her for too long and now that we are living together she needs to get a job and pull her own weight... and thats causing strife. Also, i recently had someone approach me and tell me that back in november, she cheated on me. I dont know what to do anymore... she is emotionally unstable... when we fight, she threatens to leave me... and when she tries to leave i physically stop her because i dont want to lose her. I am not abusive, i would never hurt her but she says im controlling her... I just dont know whether or not its worth trying to fix anymore... i love her so much and i dont want to lsoe her, but our love seems to be coming at a higher and higher cost...

2007-04-18 02:59:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce