She is constantly making up stories and lying about the smallest things. What is her problem?
2007-04-18 03:49:05 · 18 answers · asked by Kimmy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's probably really insecure or just a pathological liar. Unless she starts lying about you there's not much you can do. Just know that what comes out of her mouth most likely isn't true.
Most people who lie and make up stories are pretty miserable about who they are.
2007-04-18 03:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say to go with your fiance's (her brother) opinion. Skip her. Even he said she's been a brat to you and doesn't deserve to be a bridesmaid. Who better to know her than a nuclear family member? Besides, your fiance counts as half the opinion in this matter. Besides, you seem reluctant yourself to have her as a bridesmaid. And I guarantee you'd rather have your friend in the bridal party. If she asks why, simply leave it at "your brother and I each wanted a count of 4 and I wanted to include my best friends first." If she lashes back, simply repeat what you said and refuse to go into any details. And if she really will not let it go, get your fiance to deal with her behavior. It's his sister, not yours (yet). I would suggest, since your fiance said she likes being the center of attention, ask her to host an engagement party, post-wedding brunch or a post-nuptial party after your honeymoon (so friends and family can visit the newlyweds). Or a combination of the three. People who love being the center of attention make wonderful hosts. I had a similar situation with a bride and her sister-in-law and this worked beautifully for them. Just make it a "big deal" to play hostess and she'll eat it up. Also, tell her you'd like her to stand up at your wedding and give a speech. Since she likes being the center of attention, she'll love this and will do well. Congratulations!
2016-05-18 00:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. Nothing is permanent yet. Does she lie about the family, you? Does she make up things about the family etc? Let her know that you know and that what she's doing is causing a negative affect on everyone else. If she has a major problem that has something to do with you, then you guys should be able to work it out. If she's not willing to or whatever, then that's her loss, and you can go on about your business and either in the future keep her at arm's length or just ignore her.
2007-04-18 03:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to handle a sister in law that is contantly seeking attention? Well if you egnore her she will obiously look stupid to everyone when she gets caught up in her lies. Just try to avoid her as much as possible.
2007-04-18 04:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh! I had one of those for a sister-in-law, too!...a chronic, pathological liar -- about THE stupidest things! Stay away, as far away as possible -- distance yourself physically and emotionally. Trust me, she's nothing but trouble & will never change for the better.
2007-04-18 03:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In India we have got two types of sister-in-law namely wife's
sister and brother's wife.
Elder brother's wife is very near to us,because she is experienced you take any advice from her.Younger brother's
wife is to be kept at a distance.
Wife's younger sister is like your own sister.You give lot
of indulgence to her. Wife's elder sister is at per with your
elder brother's wife.
2007-04-18 04:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by sdev006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to ignore her. Maybe she just wants the attention.
I'm blessed to have great future sister in laws and three of them at that!
2007-04-18 03:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first rule...don't mud sling (never argue with an idiot, it only drags you down to their level and they wind up beating you with experience!)
second rule...make her explain herself. Ask "why do you talk like that?" or "What do you mean by that?" If you constantly question her and make her accountable for the stupid things that fall out of her trap, she may think twice before opening it again in your presence.
Thrid rule...no explaining yourself. You do not have to answer to her. If your husband backs her up, and tries to make you answer her question...leave the room. Ask him later "Why do you feel the need to humiliate me?" or "Why are you backing her up and not me..who sucks your d!ck?" That should help him remember who he should back up.
2007-04-18 03:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy.
2007-04-18 03:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Low self-esteem is her problem. Don't allow her information about personal details of your life, and her behaviour shouldn't affect you. You may want to try to encourage her to get counceling because it sounds like she is starving for attention.
2007-04-18 03:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋