My sister-in-law wants a divorce with my bro, giving the reason that she dun like me and my parents, wanting my parents to move out from the house. The house belongs to my bro and do not have her name in the ownership. They have a barely 2 yrs old baby boy. She's studying and working at the same time and my bro is working full time as a technician. If she really wants a divorce, are her reasons valid? Who will have the custordy of the son? She came from a rich family. We are not as rich as them but we lived happily. She was once chased out from her family. We are suspecting something is wrong with her... Like having an affair... what can we do??
2007-04-18 03:08:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't do anything to her. I'm staying on my own living my own world, and only visits my parents during saturdays. How can she tell people or even my bro that she wants a divorce because she dun like me?? Its terribly unfair! My parents are the ones looking after the baby. Did she played a part as a mother? Even her son don't wanna play with her. Morning till noon = sch. noon till evening = work. evening till wee hours = partying. Does she fit to be a mother? Life is so unfair! Imagine the words that she has hurt me? Nowadays i got to sleep if i ate sleeping pills. She's not only distroying her life and others as well. Life is so unfair! Even the person that needs to move out won't be my parents, its she! She has to move out! She wants divorce, she didn't pay a cent for the loan, all toiletries bought by my mom. Its not being fair for my mom to move out. Its my bro that wanted to live with my parents. There's happiness in my family always... until she came in to the picture.
2007-04-19 01:37:59 · update #1
Tell your brother.
2007-04-18 03:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by a_poor_misguided_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a valid reason to divorce because you dont like the family. Chances are you didnt like the family before you got married.
However, being married and living with the inlaws can be very stressful. I would suspect thats the reason she wants them to move out. A marriage needs time to grow strong without others living with couple. Whether it be families or friends. it just causes more stress to the relationship.
The best your brother could hope for is a 50/50 custody with the child.
There could also be more that shes not telling you about because it is just between her and her husband, and that doesnt include affair, so I would not confront her about it.
If you love your brother and want his marriage to work, I would suggest having your parents stay somewhere else so they can build up a stronger relationship between themselves without any other parties... she may even start to like you guys better.
(Personally I dont like my MIL but I can deal with her on family events, if I was to live with her I dont know if I could stay married either)
2007-04-18 10:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one, this is his marriage. When he married her, he was supposed to forsake all others for her. That being said, if it would save the marriage, moving the parents out might be good. But, no its not a valid reason for a divorce. If she was to file for divorce, she could state that she is trying and that he is being impossible because of the family is always in their business. That she has tried to get along with you all, but you won't let them work out their relationship. He could not only lose custody of the child, but he could lose his house as well. Giving her background, that fact that she actually works, and she goes to school; the judge might rule more in her favor than his. Plus, unless you have solid proof that something is wrong with her, you will come up empty handed.
2007-04-18 10:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your brother feel about it? Something tells me that your family may be too involved in their relationship. Why? Because you are the one asking the question, not your brother or his wife. Living with in-laws can put a damper on a marriage. They need to work on their marriage. Why do your parents live with them? The house may belong to your brother, but she is his wife. And as is says in the bible, a man shall leave his parents and become one with his wife. Seems like you guys need take a look at your contribution to this problem. Let them work things out.
2007-04-18 10:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't like you or your parents then you have given her enough grief to want a divorce. No one wants to have to "deal" with inlaws who are rude. and sometimes the only way is to leave the family.Living with parents is also very hard, especially if they are needy, it isn't fair to her. She will get custody of the child unless she is unfit.
You ask "what can we do".....honey there is no "we" here, this is all up to your brother and between him and his wife. You should butt out. I mean it is so easy to say someone is having an affair as an excuse but her excuse to me sounds valid, I had a hard time with my EX inlaws and that was one of the key reasons I got divorced and took my son far far away from them!
2007-04-18 10:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have someone follow her if you suspect she's cheating on your brother. Have them take pictures. As far as a divorce, she seems to be making all of the decisions so I'm sure that you won't be able to do anything about that. Custody usually goes to the mother but not in all cases. If your brother's name is on the deed to the house, she cannot legally throw anyone out...tell her to take you to court....the judge will set her *** straight. Who cares if she's rich, that doesn't give her the right to trash your family. Seek the advice of a lawyer. Good luck.
2007-04-18 10:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by betrayed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best thing to do is let her go and do what she needs to do. you can't control your sister in law, hon.
it's really not a healthy situation for a young couple to live with their extended family. they need their own space and their own life. but it's NOT YOUR FAULT. so don't blame yourself. You can't control where your parents choose to live.
your sister in law is probably under a lot of stress and with so many people living in the house, she probably feels there is not enough privacy and she doesn't have "her space". really, i can't blame her.
custody of the son will depend upon the judge in the divorce case. lots of times, parents get what is called joint custody. i wouldn't worry about that, i'm sure your brother and sister in law will work out a good schedule for the child.
i'm sorry to hear about this, but sometimes people don't feel they have another way to handle things, so they divorce.
please don't take on your brother's problems. try to focus on YOU, the things you like to do, school, do things with friends and keep occupied. things will work out in your world eventually. there is no need for you to worry over adult problems. ok?
hugz!!!!
2007-04-18 10:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... seems like you dont like her either. but if you really care for your brother,you and your parents should find another place to stay. give them the freedom to lead their own life, that is their right. would you want to live with your in-laws if you get married?
2007-04-18 10:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by tere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-19 20:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jason C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer
2007-04-18 10:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋