my husband and i have been together for 10 years, he wants sex EVERY day, it starts and ends the same. I have nothing against sex, but after chasing a 2 yr old all day on top on all my other daily jobs and my job sometimes I would like to not have to have the sex discussion, but he gets upset, I give in and so forth EVERY day, and if I don't give in at night he wakes me up early in the morning hunching. What should I do, He doesn't listen to reason, he says he works too and that I am just against sex. Help! Please!
2007-04-18 03:41:28 · 14 answers · asked by Tina H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to have someone help you with this. Your husband is extremely demanding and I know from experience that we as women can not be ready to do "it" all the time. We need to rest and relax too.
I would guess the romance has gone out of your sex life just because you do end up giving in all the time. At some point you will resent how robotic it has become and dislike it.
Your husband needs to realize that you are busy all day too and that it would be nice to have sex on a mutual desire and not just his.
I hope you will find a way to get help with this. You have to take care of yourself and he needs to listen to your feelings also. He needs to have enough respect to do that.
Good Luck.
2007-04-18 03:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyday is excessive IMO. If he just needs the release, he should consider his or your hand every other day. If you are too tired to be responsive; stop being so busy. Tell him to do more in the other rooms of the house, if he expects you to have energy enough to enjoy the bedroom.
When you ovulate and have the desire, break him. If you tax him during that time and really put a hurting on him; he'll likely give you some space. Try to mix it up some, be proactive, provocative, and initiate when you are in the slightest mood. Try to head him off sometimes. The best way to break through the quantity problem, is with a high quality solution.
Honorable married men are at the mercy of their wives in this respect. Women shouldn't abuse such power. Men have needs, manage his needs as best you can, but try not to neglect him or disrespect him.
2007-04-18 10:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't matter even if you didn't have to keep house and take care of your child and work. Marriage isn't, nor should it be, based on sex. It's seeming like the majority of the time you spend with your husband he's wanting sex. You only see him in the early morning and at night. So he's getting ready for work, eating dinner; the rest of the time he's wanting to play around. If he wants a future with you, he needs to realize that sex isn't love and that bullshit can't be an excuse. You really need to deal with this, because this is a big issue and will effect your entire life. Whether or not he'll take it well makes no difference. You need to sit down with him and tell him how you truly feel. You're not against sex; you're simply for a relationship, which sex is not. If you'd like to talk more about the marriage and possible risk factors, you can e-mail me. We can talk on any instant messengers if it'll make it easier. Just let me know.
2007-04-18 10:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by heath e 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have been together 10 years and he just NOW wants it every day?
OR, have you been having it every day or a few times a day for the first 7 years and NOW because of the kid you don't feel like it anymore?
Be careful, if his desires have been met for 8 years and now they are not he might look elsewhere!
BUT if this is new and he is just now wanting it every day that is strange????
I have three kids and I know that if I don't get them ready for bed and in bed by a certain time NOTHING is going to happen SO I understand that certain things have to happen for my wife to consider giving me some attention!
COMMUNICATION is the best tool in any relationship!
2007-04-18 10:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel sorry for the man. Sex for men is way more then just a release, it helps with a stressful day, it makes him feel good about you and he shows how much he loves you through his wanting you...you should be so flattered.
Deprive a man of sex is like starving a person, if starved too long, eventually he will eat out of someone elses hand.
2007-04-18 10:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
alot of husbands think if you are too tired you are frigid or hate sex which is so usually not he case. Explain to him, as i did to mine, if he helped out more so that a t night you weren't exhausted all the time you would want sex more often, and why in the hell would he want to do it with you when you weren't into it?
2007-04-18 10:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by debbie v 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Daily sex is a good thing if both of you enjoy it.
It seems to me that you are not getting your orgasm. Ask him to have a half an hour foreplay, give you your orgasm first, and then only he can have his. (If you two don't know how to do this, ask him to work on your clit, oral or digital)
2007-04-18 11:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings but if you lack in one area there is always some scandalous female that is willing to do what you won't. I am not saying that it is right but there are those types of women out there who look to be home wreckers.
2007-04-18 10:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by gxsr600 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have a yeast infection or another thing that is a woman problem, and if you have sex with him, he'll catch it as well. If that doesn't stop him, put salt peter in his mashed potatoes.
2007-04-18 10:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell your honey that you're only a human being that also needs a break. and tell him to go to a psychologists coz i think something is wrong with him. he's addicted to sex. the two of you should do something about it.
2007-04-18 10:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by angelyne_heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋