2007-04-18 03:22:44 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she passd seven months ago...
2007-04-18 03:32:19 · update #1
Speaking from experience, no one can answer this question for you. You need to follow your heart! What you had with your wife will never die, it will always be a part of you. I lost my husband 2 yrs ago and I never thought I would ever get involved again, but I realized that no one could take the place of my past husband, and what we shared together. I look at it as ending and starting a new chapter in my book of life. I still have so much love in me to give and if I was to stop loving they should have buried with him that day. You should be prepared for negative feedback though. I was thought as cold hearted, and many nasty rumors surfaced, but until they are faced with what we were they don't have a clue! Just follow your heart, and good luck with what ever you decide!
2007-04-18 04:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by sunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no pat answer for this question. It depends on the situation, and every situation is different. Was is a long, drawn out illness? Was it a car accident that took her quickly? Was she in a vegetative state on machines for a number of years?
At the very least, 1 year sounds good. That will give you time to heal, and time to know someone in a new relationship. Anything sooner and you would look like a cold, uncaring son of a b*tch.
2007-04-18 03:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Paula S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you don't say how long it's been since she's passed. I'm hoping she just didn't pass and you're already thinking about marriage. That would be foul. Otherwise, once you meet a nice lady and you feel you want to spend the rest of your life with her, I don't think it matters. Just make sure you are totally over your wife's passing before you marry someone else. They will be completely different from her.
2007-04-18 03:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait a minimum of 2 years. The reason I say that is because you are still mourning her loss and it takes some time to get over the initial shock. You never get completely over it, so to try and say you need to get over it first is wrong, but you need to take some time to get yourself on your feet. If you are still grieving, can you really give the true you to another person right away? Make sure you make a strong decision and not one based on the fear of being alone. It is ok to be alone and you need to find someone who is compatible with you, and will compliment the lifestyle you would like to have. Don't be in a hurry, take care of #1 first!
2007-04-18 04:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a relationship now, give another 5 months for marriage. Some people may not be ready for several years. But if you are ready, 1 year is a good number.
2007-04-18 04:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person is different and each situation is different. If your wife passed away after going through a long illness then you have been grieving and preparing for quite some time. If she suddenly died without warning, then it would be harder to deal with as no time was given to "prepare".
Do what feels right for you. There is no set etiquette that I'm aware of. My sister lost her husband to cancer (a 10 month brutal illness) and 6 months after his death she met her current husband. She didn't like being alone and she had prepared for and accepted that her husband was going to die. So, the grieving process was "shorter".
2007-04-18 03:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no time table. Men usually find someone else sooner than women do in the same situation. If it helps ease the pain by forging a new relationship with someone else, there's nothing to feel guilty about. Take the time necessary to get to know the other person and go from there. good luck
2007-04-18 03:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on you. Whenever you feel comfortable. Assuming, of course, that you didn't start a relationship with another woman, while she was still alive. There is no set time limit on how long to grieve. Again, that is up to you. But, don't just jump into a marriage, just to be married.
2007-04-18 03:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that happened but i'll say marry again only when u really feel that u r ready for it ,see love is something u cant predict or put into the cage of rules ..when ever u feel that u hv accepted her not being there anymore in ur life and u r ready to proceed with all the great moments with her in ur heart then i think u can think about moving a step further ,and if there r children attached to u specifically young chindrens then priority takes a shift on them coz they dont deserve to miss motherly love. rem there r no specified rules for relationships so please listen to ur heart and wait till u find the one who truely loves u ..best wishes
2007-04-18 03:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by oceansylvinia15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is not a matter of time as a matter of healing. It is most important to feel that you have released your anger, loss, hurt and loneliness before going on. You will have to look within for this answer and you will know.
Healing is most important. Do not be in a hurry to bring someone else into your life in desperation or loneliness. Spend time with your friends and family. Most of all, spend time with yourself and love your self.
If there is someone in your life who you are interested in developing a relationship with, start as friends. As the relationship matures, you will know the right time to marry. Don't feel guilty about it.
2007-04-18 03:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Chardo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋